My Husband has been taken into custody

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He has broken my nose, my left cheekbone and dislocated my shoulder. My children are with my mum and the police have called social services. I am paralytic with fear that they will take my babies away. He always said they would because one day he would kill me.

Solicitor here OP. First things first: get your medical treatment and cooperate with the police, which will mean making a statement and giving consent for access to your medical records. Hopefully they will be in a position to charge him tonight/tomorrow whilst in custody - doesn't mean he gets kept in but at least there will be conditions not to come near you and you will be able to get an idea on timescale.

Asap instruct a solicitor. You don't need a criminal solicitor as the cps will prosecute him (though witness care should be available for you to ask questions, in theory) but you will need a family solicitor. They will speak to you about the potential for legal aid, particular given the arrest.

I've never pm'd anyone on here so don't know if that's possible on the app but you can if you need to x

I am sure they won't take them away but you will have to keep him away from the house. Be strong.. it's a long hard road but you will be okay x

You said you are alone... you aren’t. You’ve got the whole of mumsnet behind you. ❤️

Flowers for you OP

You do not deserve this, you did not let this happen. He physical and mentally abused you this is the point you say no more and protect your children.

Social Services will help you. Please do not let this animal continue to hurt you

Oh OP, my heart goes out to you. This is not your fault. This is HIS fault and his alone. This is your wake-up call - you must get away from him and protect your children from him too. You did the right thing to report him, and while it will be frightening, you really need to press charges and draw that line. it won't be easy, but you will feel empowered because you're doing something to ensure this never happens again.

Sending you so much love and strength.

So sorry OP . Some great advice on here. Social services are always called where there is DV. Cooperate with everyone to safeguard your children (by NOT letting him back in your life) and they will not be taken away from you. Get a non-molestation order. Refuse him contact with his kids unless supervised. Social services and DV support charities will support you through this.

And this was definitely NOT your fault.

I have no advice, just that you have all of my thoughts. Keep the distance, you can do this.

Bloody hell, I feel for you OP. I'm so sorry this happened to you
Social Services first priority will not be to take the children away from you, they'll want assurance that you will keep them away from him. Please press charges against him. I've been there and I didn't, I've always regretted it. Document everything: photos of your injuries, any attempt he makes to contact you. If he turns up, call 999 straight away.
Wishing you all the best

Don t want to read and run, you are in the best place - make sure you press charges

Hi all,

Thanks so much for the supportive posts. We're really sorry, but we need to contact the OP off the boards. We'll be taking this thread down whilst we do that.

Op please don't blame yourself none of this is your fault, this is how they work by making you think its your fault by manipulating you into thinking that you caused and deserve it, you have done nothing wrong. You have done really well to get yourself and your dc away from him, stay strong for you and your dc and you will get through this.

Why is a supportive thread with info being taken down?!

Hi,

Please ignore the above message - it was made in error.

OP, please do take a look at our webguide - there are lots of useful links to support.

Lona mumsnet is a pain in the arse for doing this!

Lorna

OP this is 100per cent not your fault! You are a brilliant, strong woman who is worth much more than this. Please work with police and press charges.

Ss aren't going to just take your children away. They just want assurance that the children are safe, which you can do by leaving the monster. They will work with and support you, I promise.

Please also contact women's aid

Ahh so it's not coming down then?

Been in a similar situation myself. SS were called then too. They were great,they just wanted to make sure I never took him back,which I never did.
You've done really well,all the right things.
Sending you love and strength,you can and will get through this,none of it is your fault at all.

@cindersrella

Ahh so it's not coming down then?

No it's not - so sorry for the confusion. Completely my bad, got a bit confused and clicking too many things.

OP, so so sorry for hijacking your thread like that. Please do take a look at the links above.

Sending strength OP. Rest up for now

OP I'm so sorry to hear this. Please be open and honest with the hospital staff and do as riceandpeas123 says above.

Didn't want to read and run...

Don't let him back into your life.
Social will only remove kids if u go back to him.

Hospital staff won't let him on ward etc.

Xxx

Nurse here, make sure the nursing staff complete the marac referral for you as well. That will have a record of your injuries from a medical point of view. The more referrals the better.
Good luck with everything.

Stay safe

It's him or your children