DSDs mum doesn't want me to breastfeed in front of DSD.

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Due mine and DHs first. We're very excited and can't waif for the next few weeks to pass so we can finally meet our little one.

DSD 6 was asking me what a baby eats and drinks, so me and her dad very briefly explained to her about breast feeding. She already knew about this and I think this is what she wanted to talk about but was too shy to bring it up.

When we had her at the weekend, DP had a text from DSDs mum stating that under no circumstances will I be breast feeding or exposing my breasts to DSD as it is inappropriate.

AIBU to think that this is a really bizarre ask?

I'm not going to go around flashing my boobs at her (or anyone for that matter) but I don't see anything wrong in a 6 year old (will be 7 when baby is born) seeing me breast feed?

Opinions?

The raw boob comment really made me chuckle, is the alternative cooked boob or cooking boob ?

Glad the vast majority are in agreement. DH has decided to do simply just not respond to the message. If she asks in person he will tell her how unreasonable he thinks she's being.

Agree with what you're doing. Just ignore her. She doesn't have a leg to stand on in terms of attempting to 'enforce' the expectation.

gryffen

Is being topless actually a crime in this country? I thought it wasn't.

Are you sure she was actually officially cautioned and not just spoken to?

does she realize that if her kiddie was in a restaurant its illegal for the mum to be told she mustn't breast feed?

@mumsastudent I think she's just a bit jealous to be honest. DSD has come round tonight saying she doesn't want to come here anymore because mummy said she should be at home with her. I have a feeling that this is all going to go downhill...

That doesn't sound good. She needs quality time with her dad.
Also get her a present from the baby when they first meet and lots of congratulations on becoming a big sister.
I'm not with my DDs dad anymore and I did feel like there was some influencing going on from his older child's mum. It wasnt as obvious as yours and I may have been paranoid but its something to keep on top of.

You don't need the stress with a newborn. Her dad needs to be on-board with looking after you and also activities with DD.
New babies are hard work and tiring.

It may not be jealous but fear. Her daughter is facing huge changes and it can affect relationships, behaviour etc. Don't assume she's jealous simply because she's an ex.

When a new baby comes along everything changes. The step parent has a new focus and someone else to put first and the NRP now has a child with them 24/7 and others that aren't. The existing children can very quickly feel second best and not part of it.

Very few blended families live in harmony, most have a lot of resentment etc.

SwearyMaclary
Hats are so cute and various shade

BoxsetsandPopcorn that isn’t the case here though is it because according to DSD mummy said she should be at home with her

That’s her mother’s attempt at emotionally manipulating her daughter and creating issues.

OP at 6 DSD doesn’t get a choice. Just keep on reassuring her and including her and I’d digest your DH calls his ex and speaks to her about what was said. Maybe in a “I think DD May have taken something to heart that wasn’t intended to discourage her from her time with me” way

Absolutely, your DH should calmly respond that he will parent DSD however he sees fit when DSD is at your house. ExW has no business at all interfering.

BoxsetsandPopcorn It’s fear and jealousy. But ultimately none of that is the op’s problem and she should ignore ridiculous requests from the ex and feed her baby however she likes.

Think if I were your DH I wou,d be seeking a child arrangement order asap if there is not one in place as it looms as though dd will be prevented from seeing him once new baby arrives otherwise.