To dislike my labia?! **Title Edited by MNHQ**

[KateGrey]

It’s given birth to both my babies but the lips hang low. Before sex I end up moving them apart and I’m embarrassed. It’s not a first world problem but between that and my overhang I’m embarrassed. Is it just me who feels awkward? Or do people embrace their vaginas? I realise this is a very odd post.

This has been discussed loads on here so not that odd. Just search the site for 'labia' and you'll find plenty of discussion of lip shapes and sizes.

You're all good OP. Every vagina is a little bit different and that's perfectly okay - I'm sure nobody else notices it as much as you think they do!

When they hang low do they mutter obscenities, or try to poke you in the eye?
Why does it upset you? Has anyone told you you are not supposed to look like that? If so tell them to get to fuck. It's a privilege to get to touch your vulva and anyone who doesn't like it doesn't deserve it.

I think you mean labia? Vagina is the birth canal. Many people have this problem, but just embrace it! I hate my overhang, but it shows that I'm a mother!

You can have it fixed.

One of mine hung low naturally (e.g. pre baby). Got in the way during sex and I occasionally trapped it in tight clothes so I had it removed. GP was surprisingly sympathetic about it! I was amazed!

Your vagina needs re branding. Delete lips hang low from your vocabulary and replace with 'statement frilly Minnie'

Do they wobble to and fro? Can you tie them in a knot? Can you tie them in a bow?

My vagina is mangled. Labia fine, but the entrance mushed. Episiotomy scar which ripped open coupled with two lots of 2nd degree tears and no stitches.
No confidence to meet anyone new doubt theres much sensation for them.

I know it's a tired old cliched comment on here, but I really am amazed that people who have given birth still don't know the difference between vagina and vulva.

You cannot see your vagina from the outside op! How can you not know that?

Given you have apparently coped okay with the massive upheaval to your life created by having two children, I reckon you can also cope with the small upheaval to your body caused by slightly lower hanging labia.

Life is change...embrace it or go mad.

You can have a designer vagina op to put it right.

I think many or even most women have this - without even having a baby. I know how you feel; I had it naturally (no baby) and was massively insecure, so had labiaplasty surgery as a teenager. I later saw quite a few women naked/talked to a fair few about their vulvas and realised this is very normal.

It is completely normal. Unless it is causing actual discomfort - some women do get pain when sitting, for instance - you really don't need to worry about it.

Okay so as a bisexual woman I've seen a few Vulvas and just spoken to OH ( male ) and he is in agreement most Vulvas look a lot more like a lettuce than they look like a clam.....that smooth tucked in look is just not what is there in the majority in the Fanjio department ie. the vast amount of women past puberty.

Please don't stress it's very very normal for the shape and colour to change through life.....let's be honest do all dicks look the same ? Nope and we accept them as normal....mostly

Sending hugs

The OP is talking about her vagina. The labia minora are the lips of the vagina. Not that it's really very nice to answer a post like this by lecturing a grown woman about her use of terminology anyway.

OP I so understand. I have had 3 kids natural birth but even before disliked how I looked inside pants. I have large lips which, even though my DH rarely wants me intimately, cause me some personal dislike. I am fortunate to be able to afford cosmetic which is planned for September. You need feel able discuss amongst friends who support. You are one of many who feel the same.

@Justtheonequestion your post has made me a bit sad. Sad that you feel that way about yourself. If it's affecting you this much have you thought about seeing someone for a correction?

Stop telling people what term to use for their own genitals!

We all know what the vagina/vulva/labia are but many people refer to the whole package as ‘vagina’, it’s just so commonly used and has been for a long time. If you want to call it your vulva or fanjo or whatever, go ahead but there is no need to respond to a post discussing the OP’s insecurities telling her she has used the ‘wrong’ word.

So do mine OP. no man has ever commented and they've come back for more 🤷🏻‍♀️ It's really not an issue

Vulva/vaginas/lady gardens all come in vastly different shapes and sizes. The inner lips hanging lower than the outer ones is very normal and common. We’re so used to seeing ‘perfect’ airbrushed neat and tidy ones we don’t know what normal is. Same with boobs, stomachs and probably plenty of other bits of lady bodies. I’m sure you have absolutely morning to be worried or embarrassed about, just enjoy the sex!

I have long labia minors,mine are not vaginal lips being higher and separate.I am a nurse so know that they are normal.Mine don't hurt when I sit as I normally sit on my bum.
The only thing I can say is that they can help with arousal,"nuf said

pretty sure the OP is using the word vagina as a general term to describe labia/vulva/vag.

no need to lecture her, im sure she knows.

I have a condition called Lichen Sclerosus...my labia have atrophied and fused and the clitoral hood grown over. I am 49.
However, despite this and the initial shock at diagnosis, I have a great sex life and am just happy with what I have. It could be a lot worse.

I suppose I may be accused of being flippant or something,

But I have no desire, or the ability to look Down There anymore, it is what it is, and what the eye doesn't see, the heart won't grieve over, unless you have a mirror placed strategically.

And as you so well know, partners don't really care either as long as they can get in there!

Apologies if anyone and OP think I am dismissive.

Of course it’s important to use the correct terms, you wouldn’t refer to your whole leg as your knee. It’s empowering to use the correct terminology.