To dislike my labia?! **Title Edited by MNHQ**

[KateGrey]

It’s given birth to both my babies but the lips hang low. Before sex I end up moving them apart and I’m embarrassed. It’s not a first world problem but between that and my overhang I’m embarrassed. Is it just me who feels awkward? Or do people embrace their vaginas? I realise this is a very odd post.

I’d like to know if MNHQ edited the thread title at the OP’s request? I hope it wasn’t done for any other reason.

Lol @torn

@TornFromTheInside for poet laureate

By Furrycushion at 22.27, gamerchick. It’s just on the first page.

TornFromTheInside 👏🏻😂 you have a future in poetry about genitalia.

I never know where I'm goin'
when I write a poem
I just write willy, nilly
and think of something silly

A point I try to make
for ladies labia's sake
but they come across as spammy
when I try to rhyme with fanny

so now I'm giving in
right words are getting thin
my lips still grin with pride
So I'll smile and spread 'em wide!

Because the umpteen threads after we’re a long way from polite Lynsey. Perhaps if you took the time to read them you’d see that I wasn’t projecting. But don’t let the facts stand in the way of a nice patronising tone.

Of course I’ve read them. Funnily enough none of them have been deleted, whereas stopfuckingshoutingatme’s aggressive post was deleted by MNHQ (she’s since apologised though).

Any thread that bombs after a poster misunderstands terminology related to their genitalia isn’t usually down to posters who think they’re helpfully letting the OP know, or clarifying what they meant. It usually bombs because of the very few indignant yet insistent ‘oh here comes the vulva brigade’ posters who seem to delight in taking the piss.

This one?

I think you mean labia? Vagina is the birth canal. Many people have this problem, but just embrace it! I hate my overhang, but it shows that I'm a mother!

Maybe we're just reading it in a different time.

*tone

I think it was the condescending tone and utter horror at women using the wrong words, rather than the fact they'd pointed out the correct terminology. The irony is that they say they are helping-but really they are pointing out the inferiority of other women.
Its like the grammar pedants pointing out apostrophes on threads when it has nothibg to do with what the OP asked-with bells on.

The vagina is not the birth canal. It's part of the birth canal.

Regards,
A bloke

Anyway, back to the question. It’s ok to dislike it but if it’s because you think it’s only yours that are like this, or that somehow it’s not normal, I hope it is reassuring to know that they are all different and it’s ok. Do see a GP if you are worried but I hope that knowing it’s not just yours you feel a bit better.

OP, have a look at The Great Wall of Vagina, twas a revelation to me.

There's no 'normal' for Labia or vulva. Everyone is different.
Mine were very neat and firm but after menopause they are saggy and droopy. Most women end up with this after menopause so it comes to us all. No one told me this happens.

gamerchick yeah that one :)

Did we read it differently? I read it as a gentle kind way of clarifying, not labouring the point and then moving onto the support. Did you read the tone differently?

Mine have always been that way - I don't have kids. I used to be embarrassed as a young teen, but there's nothing I can do about it, it is just a vagina, my partner doesn't care ... let it go, it's normal and natural and gives them more to play with.

@KateGrey

Great post by the way. You can see, and I hope am reassured by the many posters (including me) who have wondered the same, but felt they couldn't or were too embarrassed to ask.

Back in 2002 when I was 17 I was having sex with a new boyfriend.
I had never seen any over vag so had nothing to compare mine to.
Whilst he was down there he said 'wow you've got a good looking Pussy'
I thought what an odd thing to say as thought everyone's looked the same/similar.
Turns out I was lucky enough to be born with a neat one with no frills. Hooray at least it saved money on surgery.

simply what a stupid post. Why would you need surgery?

I've saved money on surgery by not giving a fuck whether my labia are attractive enough.

Simplytwinkly spend the money on therapy so you too won’t need to give a fuck about this.

I'm saddened that simply thinks this is some sort of achievement.

Simply you sound like you’re still 17

I wonder how many men EVER think about the aesthetic merits of their dick, even for a second, in their entire lives? Size, yes of course, but I’m talking about visuals only...

OP putting yourself through the pain, risk and expense of surgery is the only way you will ever have a pretty foof. It's there to do a job, not be looked at admiringly.
I don't dwell on mine not being the cutest and neatest one out there because I've weed out of it with no problems for 52 years. I've birthed 3 babies out of it and I've had some bloody good looking men in it.
It's done it's job very well.

I think there are all types of labia, and there is no right or wrong way to look.

However, I have to say, if a woman is having to 'tuck them in' when she puts her underpants on, or when she fastens her jeans, I think there is a valid case for minor surgery on them.

No-one should have to be 'tucking their labia in!'

OP, if you are self conscious, ignore the people saying you should suck and up and no-one cares but you, and 'well I don't care about mine so you shouldn't either!' Go see your GP.

And yeah the vulva brigade can bore off. Who gives a fuck what someone calls it?! Mind yer beeswax!