To dislike my labia?! **Title Edited by MNHQ**

[KateGrey]

It’s given birth to both my babies but the lips hang low. Before sex I end up moving them apart and I’m embarrassed. It’s not a first world problem but between that and my overhang I’m embarrassed. Is it just me who feels awkward? Or do people embrace their vaginas? I realise this is a very odd post.

No one ever warns about this . The vagina childbirth issues

I hear you . But don’t sweat it too much

Slovenly no because its ruined by kids-probably quite loose. I wouldnt humiliate myself by having sex now. It looks awful but that doesnt bother me. I have 5 cm thick scar tissue but they dont want to operate in case that also thickens.
I wish it was well known how birth damages vaginas instead of being told 'its a muscle and pings back'. Its the reason why so many women in developing countries have c sections- where there is no welfare state so they need to rely on a man. Its also the reason married men like young women. Same with breasts-you are done sexually after babies.

And a big reason why men want anal-because they want that tightness. Im not going to de-woman myself by giving someone my rectum because my vagina is ruined. No way.

Labia that hang down are the most common type of labia! They are underrepresented in pornography in favour of smaller labia.

It sounds like you have a perfectly normal vagina

As a bloke I can officially say don’t be bloody silly 😄 everyone’s genitals are different, some have a massive labia others are non existent, some women’s clits literally come ‘out’ like an alien while others are tiny and reclusive.

If it makes YOU unhappy there is surgery I believe you can have (though the thought of someone chopping bits of me off horrifies me) but remember that most men I would imagine don’t care. After children I’d say doing your kegal excersices is more important than how it looks 😄

@KateGrey
Presumably it's not your vagina which is inside and can't be seen, but your labia? Labia- Little lips and big lips- your vulva.

If they are bothersome- there is a thread on Women's Health right now about this- you can try to have them made smaller - it's called labiaplasty. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Labiaplasty

If you can show they are causing you huge emotional damage or rub on clothes and get sore,, you may be able to have it done on the NHS . Talk to your GP about it.

Like an alien....Wtf ....

Op how you feel about your body is important, and you shouldn't feel bothered to talk it out on mn, but, but your labia sounds normal to me.

Moving your body about, as you get a little older ,goes with the territory of being a grown up, I'm afraid. I would focus on a well coiffured public area tbh.☺

Ok, pubic.

I had surgery to correct a birth injury recently and enquired about labiaplasty (you know, as they were already down there and I was asleep!)

I was told it's a total no-no unless they're literally hanging off through damage. Its cosmetic surgery and I guess one of the many things the NHS can no longer afford to do.

I've never thought about it or looked. As a pp said - nobody has ever commented and they've come back for more.

Those saying that you can't see your vagina. Good for you. Child birth ruined mine so much that the opening is now so gapping that I CAN see mine from the outside.

Just because you can't see yours doesn't mean other women can't.

Justtheonequestion I agree that the effects childbirth can have should be more well known, but not everyone comes out with a destroyed fanny. For some women it does ping back. I don't know if it's some or most because no one talks about it, but tbh my arsehole is in worse condition than my (as far as I can tell unchanged) vagina after two children. No anal for me, what a shame.

If I had to be 'tucking in' lady parts I'd be tucking in to some surgery.

Seems really odd to me

Those saying that you can't see your vagina. Good for you. Child birth ruined mine so much that the opening is now so gapping that I CAN see mine from the outside. Just because you can't see yours doesn't mean other women can't.

You're being a bit silly. The issue is that the OP is describing her labia minora not her vagina. Yes of course we can ALL see the vaginal opening if we lie down and get a mirror. But I doubt you can see all the way to your cervix.

You're missing the point . It's amazing how in this day and age when porn and images are everywhere, that woman don't know the names of the parts of their genitalia. if someone went to their GP and said they didn't like their vagina, the dr would reach for a speculum to have a look.

Yeah mine gapes. Thats the right word. No intact entrance so the vagina bulges out. Thats different to seeing the entrance.

Seriously am amazed with some posters on here. The OP is feeling embarrassed and wants to know that she’s not the only one and find comfort in that, and all some of you want to do is correct her. Ffs we all know what she means.

YANBU try and embrace it. it’s a result of having your children and I’d rather have an overhang etc than be without mine

Seriously am amazed with some posters on here. The OP is feeling embarrassed and wants to know that she’s not the only one and find comfort in that, and all some of you want to do is correct her. Ffs we all know what she means

Yes and the vulva brigade knew what the OP meant but they simply can't help themselves. Just makes them look daft.

I remember having the most hilarious conversation with my NCT group after we had our children. Something along the lines of - do your flaps look like something out of the walking dead now? Discuss
Mine's all over the place OP, one flap longer than the other and a jaggedy hole that only a 3rd degree tear and two episiotomy's can bring. I find great delight in discussing birth war wounds with other women, loudly, in front of clearly squirmy, uncomfortable, leg crossing, men.
I've learnt to love the humour and found a deep pride in having a battle scarred vag!

keyboardkate You have amazing point there. Now I look back it is only DH who has made negative remarks about how I look between my legs; every other guy has simply been preoccupied with satisfying his own erection.

vulva brigade

That made me laugh out loud!
So true on MN
I can empathise OP, especially since dc2. I think gp is a good idea

Yes and the vulva brigade knew what the OP meant but they simply can't help themselves. Just makes them look daft

No it doesn't make them look daft at all!
It's one thing having a pet name for your genitalia but to call a vulva or the labia a vagina is the daft thing.
There are many women who really do not know the correct names for their own parts. If a doctor asks about your vagina, he means the birth canal not your vulva and vice versa.

It’s depressing how many women seem to think that women understanding their own bodies and how to refer to them (very important if seeking medical help) is optional or laughable. It’s not. Many more people read threads than comment. It’s patronising to think that it’s fine for women to have no idea about their own bodies. It’s like a guy saying his penis hurts when he means his testicles!

Trust me it makes them look like dicks. There are no doctors asking fuck all and I'm pretty sure a doctor would be smart enough to know what a patient meant. Just as people on here knew what the OP meant.

I mean I know it's irrisistable sometimes on here to attempt to make yourself look superior but no... Makes people look daft.