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To dislike my labia?! **Title Edited by MNHQ**

201 replies

KateGrey · 08/07/2018 21:05

It’s given birth to both my babies but the lips hang low. Before sex I end up moving them apart and I’m embarrassed. It’s not a first world problem but between that and my overhang I’m embarrassed. Is it just me who feels awkward? Or do people embrace their vaginas? I realise this is a very odd post.

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everythingsgoingtobealright · 09/07/2018 13:35

nice stealth boast 😂 jk!

It's just the rest of my body that lets me down 😂

I haven't ever watched porn, or seen another women's hence why it hadn't occurred to me that they are all different.

lizzybusy · 09/07/2018 13:37

Mine too. After two vaginal births I now have long flaps! I showed the gp who agreed to refer me for an operation (trim) but the nhs funding is no longer there. My husband says that its fine and nothing to worry about so I'm okay about it now.

stopfuckingshoutingatme · 09/07/2018 14:54

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Justtheonequestion · 09/07/2018 14:57

Lol stop. Now are you sure you mean the vulva not the labia?
who cares

ProperLavs · 09/07/2018 14:58

mine were always dangly but after 6 kids are even 'worse' I really dislike them but no partner has ever complained. Gp said they were completely normal.
I watched a friend give birth once ( at the business end) and was amazed how neat she was.

ProperLavs · 09/07/2018 15:07

That's a great Cosmo article and good to know that mine are infact the most common sort.

imwideawake · 09/07/2018 15:10

I think the fact that more women are hairless than ever before, could be helping to feed insecurities.
Any small imperfection is bound to seem magnified if there's no hair to cover it.

Didn't I read somewhere that one of the reasons men like to shave down below is because it makes their bits look bigger?

PeppaP · 09/07/2018 15:10

I can’t believe the rudeness against the people just trying to use the correct words. Why does it make you so angry?? Confused

Justtheonequestion · 09/07/2018 15:21

Why does it make you so angry that they don't?

BartholinsSister · 09/07/2018 15:21

A lot of men go crazy for big labia.

PeppaP · 09/07/2018 15:23

I’m not angry at all, just confused. No one talking about correct terminology has been impolite but comments like ‘can the vulva police FUCK OFF’ seem disproportionately aggressive. Why?

LyndseyKola · 09/07/2018 15:48

I would personally like the self appointed vulva police police to bugger off :)

LyndseyKola · 09/07/2018 15:55

I’m not angry at all, just confused. No one talking about correct terminology has been impolite but comments like ‘can the vulva police FUCK OFF’ seem disproportionately aggressive. Why?

I do this it’s odd, if someone’s objection to another poster pointing out the terminology (or asking for clarification if the OP has used the wrong terminology and therefore they’re confused and wanna check what they meant) is that it’s a derail from the issue at hand in the OP, going on about it and leaping on the poster doesn’t exactly set a good example.

Gottagetmoving · 09/07/2018 16:07

because you dont like the words they used makes a person a bellend.... Or yanno, the tip of a penis

Are you being deliberately obtuse?
No one dislikes the words. You may think it's ok that there are women who can't name their own body parts but there are people who think its something that should be addressed.
FFS, women complained for years that men didn't know where the clitoris was located but it's ok for women to confuse a vagina with the vulva or labia.
No one mocked or attacked OP, unlike those who have been stupidly aggressive to anyone pointing out the correct terminology.

Grandmaswagsbag · 09/07/2018 16:11

It’s normal OP. I’ve got one dangly one! Never bothered me. I don’t think vaginas (or any genitals) are generally the most aesthetically pleasing things.

GabriellaMontez · 09/07/2018 16:16

That Cosmo article is great. Read it op!

I read recently a smear nurse said "vulvas are like faces. Basically with all the same parts but all different"

GabriellaMontez · 09/07/2018 16:18

I suppose boobs are the same. I'm astonished by the variation I see in the gym. But I've never seen another vulva.

gamerchick · 09/07/2018 16:43

Are you being deliberately obtuse?

Grin

Everyone knew what the OP meant. The vulva brigade can let one thread go. The OP can call it a fucking sponge if she wants.

LyndseyKola · 09/07/2018 17:01

Thanks for changing the title MN!

PeppaP · 09/07/2018 17:09

MNHQ knows what’s up Wink

LyndseyKola · 09/07/2018 17:20

MNHQ knows what’s up wink

I suspect it’s to attempt to stop the bickering and let people focus on the question (and make it clearer to people who only see the title on the homepage) but who knows.

LyndseyKola · 09/07/2018 17:26

I suppose boobs are the same. I'm astonished by the variation I see in the gym.

Really? What sort of boobs actually astonish you? I’m struggling to imagine a pair of boobs that would give me that reaction!

DownstairsMixUp · 09/07/2018 17:27

Bloody hell the vulva pedants society is out in full force today. I have a recommendation for you, it's called a life.

PeppaP · 09/07/2018 17:29

Instead of a life can I get a ‘Vulva Pedant’ badge please?

But really, you can laugh and shout ‘fuck off’, derailing the thread even further than the few vulva pedants, but this shit is important.

TakeMeToKernow · 09/07/2018 17:31

It’s made me snort into my tea to see that MNHQ have edited the title of the post to be anatomically correct. Grin

ARE YOU HAPPY NOW, VULVA POLICE?