To have said this?

[MrsHappyAndMrCool]

So me and DS6 went to do a food shop this morning, he needed to go to the toilet so I took him into the ladies.

There was a lady in there with 3 girls, there was a little bit of silliness towards my son going on amongst the three girls whilst we waited for a cubicle to become free, which I ignored because I know girls can be very silly when it comes to things like this.

Then the biggest girl said “Mum why is there boy in here” very loudly, the mother then turnt to me and said “Couldn’t you have taken him into mother and baby or round the back of somewhere because he is making my daughters feel uncomfortable”

I am usually very good at ignoring people, I replied by saying “don’t be so pathetic you silly silly woman” a few more words were exchanged then I went on to tell her to stop embarrassing herself.

I feel a bit bad now, was IBU?

Yes you were rude.

Six is young. Young enough to still be in the toilet with his mum.

Instead if calling my her silly I'd off said couldn't she of taught her daughters some manners

Yes you were unreasonable. Why do you think it's okay to speak to someone like that when there's children around?

YNBU to have taken your son into the ladies. At 6 years old he's a bit young to have been sent into the men's toilets on his own and he's way to old for a parent and baby room.

But YBU by the way you spoke to her. If you'd replied in a more polite and mature way then you'd have modeled a way to handle disagreements which would have been more helpful to your son.

I'd of taken my six yr old in a woman's toilet and if somebody had commented I'd react like you ( probably worse)

FFS his 6 years old in the toilet with his mother, I can’t belive someone complained tbh!

You were definitely not unreasonable

I feel so bad, and she was a lot older than me, it was the “round the back of somewhere” part that set me off, my child is not a dog.

So her dd's must go to an all girls school as presumably being in a room with boys is a no no?
Bloody snowflakes!!

Of course YWBU. Not to take him into the ladies, but to overreact and be so rude.

This was an awkward exchange she was rude you were rude it was one of those things you do sound het up about it I wouldn't give it another thought untill you see a thread on here about males in female spaces

It wasn't the ideal response but she started the altercation by being ridiculous about your DS being in the ladies. It would have been better to remain calm but hey-ho none of us are perfect!

I'd have reminded her no one was forcing them to be there and she could always take them 'round the back of somewhere' if they were unable to cope with the presence of a little boy in a public toilet. Idiot woman.

@Aprilshouldhavebeenmyname

Don’t be disingenuous. It isn’t inreasonable to expect there only to be girls in a girls toilet at any age.

It is then down to the parents to manage the situation.

You honestly said "you silly silly woman"? That's hilarious 😂 I'd have said fuck off, but I must just be rough.

Is your child tall, for his age? I’m just wondering if he thought he was older.

You were ridiculously unreasonable to insult her and get into an argument with her, in front of the children. Why the hell couldn’t you have just explained that you feel he’s too young to be in the men’s toilets by himself, instead of getting into an immature slanging match?

Seriously? Did you really say that? If so, yes you were very rude and unreasonable and imo, lost the upper hand. What you should have said was "he's only 6, I don't want him going to the men's on his own".

Mind you, my 6 year old son goes into the men's on his own.

YANBU? He's only six. Too you to be in the men's on his own.

🤣 Good response OP as she was indeed silly.
I'd just forget about it tbh.

*young

Not another one. No - you weren’t being U. Did you tell her to fuck off? No. Did you scream and shout? No. You called her a ‘silly, silly woman’ . . . and she is one. And, by the sounds of it, is bringing up silly, prim. pious girls. She started it, with a loopy question, and must therefore be prepared for a snippy response.

which I ignored because I know girls can be very silly when it comes to things like this

Ironically the same sort of sexist shit that gets trotted out to any age of girl when they want a private space.

The fact you feel bad about this shows that this isn't the person you are you're normally a nice polite person, it's just this situation got your back up and that's understandable!

Had it been me I would have been pissed off too, they're kids and innocent and he's only 6. I think the old woman was rude and the girl even ruder.

Don't feel bad about it, just know next time anyone says anything you will be able to respond more calmly (though you definitely weren't being unreadable!) 👍

You weren't unreasonable or particularly rude. She was. She can take her children to pee 'round the back of somewhere' or to misuse the mother & baby provision if she really can't cope with a 6 year old boy being in the ladies with his mother.

YWNBU. You're a parent managing a young child, and needs must.
He's going in a cubicle. He's not seeing anything inappropriate, and nor are they.

I've seen dads bring in daughters to the gents, and just given a small 'scuse me gents' to the men in there (code for make sure she can't see anything). They go in a cubicle and everybody understands his situation. Not a problem.

The lady was rude. I don't suppose there's much to be gained from your response, but at the same time, it might challenge her to rethink her attitude.

Unreasonable that was meant to say!