To have said this?

[MrsHappyAndMrCool]

So me and DS6 went to do a food shop this morning, he needed to go to the toilet so I took him into the ladies.

There was a lady in there with 3 girls, there was a little bit of silliness towards my son going on amongst the three girls whilst we waited for a cubicle to become free, which I ignored because I know girls can be very silly when it comes to things like this.

Then the biggest girl said “Mum why is there boy in here” very loudly, the mother then turnt to me and said “Couldn’t you have taken him into mother and baby or round the back of somewhere because he is making my daughters feel uncomfortable”

I am usually very good at ignoring people, I replied by saying “don’t be so pathetic you silly silly woman” a few more words were exchanged then I went on to tell her to stop embarrassing herself.

I feel a bit bad now, was IBU?

I think she was being silly and rude too.You had the moral high ground but gave it away by snapping. However we are all human and cant go through life without losing it occasionally with exasperating people.. Really hate some of the pious comments people make on forums - funny how few people seem to act as well in real life isn't it!

Children are pretty linear.

Often children's "linear" remarks aren't made after lots of silly giggling and pointing. Mothers also would usually offer explanations for their confusion, rather than dehumanising others around them in an attempt to excuse their behaviour.

I also wouldn't class a 10/11 year old child at the stage where they'd be black-and-white about this sort of thing, in all honesty not even the 9yo. The six year old child perhaps - but even then, the mothers response should have been an explanation, not "take your boy round the back somewhere."

Oh yes crunchy I meant all of them, regardless of designation. Minging.

You said nothing wrong, I might have said a lot more than you. You handled it the best way u could, she shouldn’t have made such a silly comment if she wasn’t ready for a silly answer.
It will teach the older girl to rethink her comments next time and also teach her mum how to answer such comments next time.

YANBU. A 6 yr old is perfectly fine in the ladies toilet. And I don’t believe for a second that those girls felt “uncomfortable”.

I'm with you. They were being ridiculous and uptight.
A 6 year old boy in a ladies toilet cubicle is a threat to no-one.

YANBU. You took your child to the toilet and the mother of the girls was very rude.

You did the right thing to take him to the toilet with you. Why were the little girls so silly and self conscious about a little boy? Their mother sounds like a dragon & she is encouraging unnecessary self consciousness in her girls.

She was silly so I don't blame you for saying but hope you didn't use expletives.

I agree I would have the same reaction. Made me LOL when I read the response.

YWNBU imo and I’d have said something back too

I think you handled it really very well OP. The fact you called her a silly woman (which is what she was) instead of a total bloody idiot is really a uite restrained. I have a son with additional needs who is a similar age and I’ve have reacted the same way. And I definitely wouldn’t have been happy at being told to take my son “round the back of somewhere” he’s a human being not a Labrador

Why do you think it's okay to speak to someone like that when there's children around?
I think because the children were being rude, and asking why the OPs son was in the toilets loudly in front of the little boy. Subtlety might have been lost on her, if she felt her DDs were behaving fine.