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...to sometimes give toddler DD the finger behind her back?
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Legbreak · 21/06/2018 21:57

She definitely doesn’t see and it makes me feel better and is always at home, not out and about etc. My DSis thinks it’s appalling.

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Iwannasnack · 21/06/2018 22:19

Yes you’re probably being unreasonable but toddlers can be very very unreasonable so no judgment here! definitely never done it myself Wink

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NotUmbongoUnchained · 21/06/2018 22:19

I don’t know anyone in real life who DOESNT do this.
MN seem to treat kids like these little precious entities.
Sometimes kids are assholes. It’s life.

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saltandvinegarcrisps1 · 21/06/2018 22:19

FFS. I give my daughter 'the Vicky ' every other day of the we3k. YANBUA X POST

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Whisky2014 · 21/06/2018 22:20

As long as you wouldn't care if people were doing that to you.

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bonzo77 · 21/06/2018 22:21

Sometimes When my 2 yr old whines “I caaaaan’t” at me, I think “you cuuuunt”.

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CookPassBabtridge · 21/06/2018 22:22

I do this to DP.. if he's being a dick, it makes me feel good without confrontation Grin Haven't done to kids but can't see the harm if no-one sees! Definitely said "fuck off" under my breath though. We are human.

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user1483390742 · 21/06/2018 22:24

I often 'flick the V's' (two fingers) at my kids when their backs are turned. Makes me feel so much better, but i am v v immature! 😂😂

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sunsunsunsunsun · 21/06/2018 22:26

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Chocolatecoffeeaddict · 21/06/2018 22:26

I think it's disgusting to do that to your own innocent child. Whether they see or not it is a horrible thing to do and you should be ashamed of yourself.

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LankinMcElf · 21/06/2018 22:27

Surely the question is more your feelings, the need to give the finger to a 2year old behind their back suggests suppressed anger, not healthy

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Wolfiefan · 21/06/2018 22:27

You've just reminded me that when PFB was a toddler on high dose steroids and being a complete fucking nightmare that DH would mime drop kicking him. Shock Complete with comedy face. Child never had a clue but it broke the tension and helped us deal with a difficult time. He's now a teen and appears undamaged. Grin

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SamHeughansLeftEyebrow · 21/06/2018 22:27

I do it too, never been caught yet. Many of my sentences also have pauses in the appropriate location for the gaps to be filled in with all the swears. My DS are now both old enough to know what the gaps mean.

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hididdlyhoneighborino · 21/06/2018 22:27

Or it suggests you have a sense of humour, instead of sucking it out of people.

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colditz · 21/06/2018 22:28

I thought everyone did this?

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SamHeughansLeftEyebrow · 21/06/2018 22:29

I very nearly called 12 yo ds a dickhead yesterday. Very nearly. In fairness, he was totally being a dickhead

More self restraint than me. I have called my 12 yo DS a dickhead. In fairness, he was being a total dickhead.

I apologized later.

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Polishitbehindthedoor · 21/06/2018 22:30

I've been doing it since DS developed an attitude problem. Which kicked in pretty early into his young little life. It's my only release. My coping mechanism. I'd go fucking insane otherwise.

I give him the middle finger while sticking my tongue out
I tell him to fuck off
I call him a little wanker
I mimic him in a whiney condascending voice

He never hears or see's it. He's no idea.

But I will point out that the kid is my life. He's the reason I get up in a morning. He brings me happiness at times when I feel incapable if it. He makes me so proud and I'm utterly besotted with him...

But he can be a proper little wanker. It's just a fact!

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kirta · 21/06/2018 22:31

It may seem odd but I lean towards it would be better to scream infront of her than swear at her in secret

Yes. It does seem odd!

OP - definitely a strategy I have used on occasion. Obvs, being sure she cannot see me!

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Polishitbehindthedoor · 21/06/2018 22:31

Wolfie Ha! My DH does this too. Cracks me up Grin

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Blobbyweeble · 21/06/2018 22:32

It’s called being normal.

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CocoDeMoll · 21/06/2018 22:33

Haha, it’s fine. Children drive you crazy and it’s a safe release.

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Summerscorcherisjustsummer · 21/06/2018 22:33

My mum used to wave a fist and give a face it was more panto than anything and she never ever hit us so it never felt threatening.

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pinkbobbles · 21/06/2018 22:33

This thread is actually disgusting.

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SoftSheen · 21/06/2018 22:34

One day she'll see you, but you won't realise until the day she copies you and does it to your MIL.

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LynetteScavo · 21/06/2018 22:34

Apparently my 19yo has been giving me the finger for years.

I've never, ever caught him, and wouldn't have suspected it unless his younger siblings had told me. And I consider myself pretty sharp I have mirrors strategically placed

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Wolfiefan · 21/06/2018 22:35

Polish it was a bloody awful time. Child bouncing off the walls. Exhausting to care for and it took months for us to be told he wouldn't die.
Sometimes humour defuses a situation. The alternative would have been for us to get frustrated and maybe drift away from each other as a couple. I think it's healthier to express how you feel in a way that doesn't affect your child than bottle it up and break.
Because we would have broken.
I feel I should state for the record that I have never drop kicked a child. Not sure it's even possible. Hmm Grin

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