to think it's not normal to leave washing up over night?

[BigMamaTee]

Had to have words with DP tonight...

Can anyone please tell me if I'm being unreasonable or not in thinking that:

• surfaces should be wiped after use (not 3 days later)
• if you cook on the hob and get oil everywhere you should clean it (same day)
• you don't leave washing up overnight to get smelly and gross
• nor do you leave bits of food floating in the drain catcher in the sink when you can just put them straight in the bin
• it's not normal to do not one bit of cleaning in the week and to just mop a floor or give a surface a wipe on a Sunday

AIBU in expecting DP to do the above? I'm not a clean freak but I like the house to be clean. I'm torn between leaving his shit for him to do and it building up all week for him to half heartedly clean on the weekend, or to just clean it myself and be happy my house is clean but to want to nut him for being so lazy....

We always leave it to the morning in our house! Life is too short to get worked up over it.

barmaid but it doesn't get done in the morning, that's the problem. It will literally sit there all week until the weekend...

• you don't leave washing up overnight to get smelly and gross

i dont get this?! mine takes 2-3 days to dry, does yours dry in hours?

@Butterflykissess your washing up takes 2-3 days to dry? I'm confused...

We often leave the dishes overnight and do them in the morning instead, I don't think that's odd. We do wipe surfaces after use generally and don't leave food in the sink but we might not always wipe the hob the same day - it depends what else is going on. I think a bit of flexibility is helpful for us.

I don't see anything wrong with leaving it overnight ether. . . . That list remind me of XH who used to time how long it took me to take a dirty mug back through to the kitchen.

If it’s there a few days it’s there a few days! No different to it sitting in the dishwasher for 3-4 days waiting to fill the dishwasher up before running it.
I could no get uptight about this. As long as it gets done eventually does it matter when.

haha just read it wrong! ive been on the wine washing up as in dishes not clothes.

ignore me.

I'm with you on all points. I can't settle if the kitchen is a mess

I used to leave it for days when I was in my early 20s (just left home). Now, 3dc later, I like the kitchen to be tidy before I go to bed, coming down to dishes doesn’t help the morning go smoothly. Sometimes on a Friday I will leave them out, but only if we have nothing planned for the Saturday morning.

It’s not a matter of being reasonable/unreasonable - these are all personal preferences, nothing bad will happen if these things aren’t done apart from you getting annoyed. I do some of this (wiping surfaces) but not all (I may leave dishes overnight and I might not clean up hob spills immediately). You have differing priorities, you need to come to a compromise between you I’d say. One thing is for sure though - if you do it, he’ll let you do it forever more because he’s not bothered whether it’s done or not.

Yanbu. Everything gets washed up after tea.

Although if we have a brew or something I don't wash them up until the morning or the next evening depending if we are in or not.

WTF you sound highly strung.

I will leave washing up over night if the dishwasher is full. I've just put mine on and soaked a few leftover bits (2 pans, a few knives and spoons) in hot soapy water. I'll unload dishwasher in the morning and reload. I wipe surfaces same day but might not always wipe the hob the same day but within 2-3 days max.

I’m with your DH on 5is - sorry.

I'm not normal, then! Far too many other things to worry about.. seriously, I'd love to be this wound up over washing up and nothing else!

I always leave the washing up till the next day. CBA doing it after dinner - we don’t usually eat till late.

I honestly just thought it was normal to wipe surfaces after you use them and wash up a manky plate or bowl before you go to bed I've been doing this since I was 14! I hate having dirty plates sat there for days until DP decides to clean his mess on a Sunday. Maybe it's just me...

( I would not leave oil and spilt food though.. that's gross.. especially as flies around)

We don't have a dishwasher we just end up with a huge pile of washing over flowing in the sink...

The rule in our house is that one person cooks and the other one washes up. DP usually does it in the morning when it's his turn. I'll do it that evening or the following morning depending on how late we've eaten, how much work I need to do that night and how knackered I am.

I can't see the problem with leaving it until the next day as long as you do it before you go out to work in the morning. It's hardly going to get smelly overnight.

I do agree that surfaces should be wiped after use.

Yep. Friday night leaver of dishes here too. Week days/nights DH or I always makes sure the kitchen is clean. As maryann says, it just puts you on the back foot to have to sort it in the morning when dealing with the kids

YANBU. At all.

I would hate to come down to washing up in the morning. All washing up is done after eating and kitchen is wiped down including the hob. It would be really horrible to wake up to dirty plates, I love coming down to a nice clean kitchen. YANBU!

I have a dishwasher but often leave big items like baking trays and pans for a couple of days.
Pre-dc's I used to do it the same evening.