to think it's not normal to leave washing up over night?

[BigMamaTee]

Had to have words with DP tonight...

Can anyone please tell me if I'm being unreasonable or not in thinking that:

• surfaces should be wiped after use (not 3 days later)
• if you cook on the hob and get oil everywhere you should clean it (same day)
• you don't leave washing up overnight to get smelly and gross
• nor do you leave bits of food floating in the drain catcher in the sink when you can just put them straight in the bin
• it's not normal to do not one bit of cleaning in the week and to just mop a floor or give a surface a wipe on a Sunday

AIBU in expecting DP to do the above? I'm not a clean freak but I like the house to be clean. I'm torn between leaving his shit for him to do and it building up all week for him to half heartedly clean on the weekend, or to just clean it myself and be happy my house is clean but to want to nut him for being so lazy....

I completely agree with you. I'm up til 1am cleaning our home just because I hate waking up to mess

i quite often leave it overnight because I can't be bothered washing up for the 59th fing time. Nothing wrong with doing it in the morning. never leave it longer than that though.

YABU its personal preference. You have to give and take, of course a dirty dish or surface can be left until later to clean. Why are your preferences more important than your partners?

@Walkingdeadfangirl if he did it the next day I wouldn't mind. My preference is to not have food on the surfaces, washing up in the sink and oil on the tiles all week until he decides to clean on a Sunday

I completely agree, I can't bare to leave it overnight, it makes it so much more work!! Just wash up after eating, wipe the kitchen down, and then you're done!

Will always do dishwasher before go to bed but if it doesn't fit in (like pots or pan) I will leave it till next day thrn put it in dishwasher once emptied. Sometimes I leave it all till morning. If it's been a long day at work then takes ages to settle baby. Doesn't get smelly that quick!

3 days to clean a work top, I couldn't cope with. We often leave dishes (although I hate) til the next morning, but kind of cover the dishes up in the sink with a tea towel. Out of sight, out of mind 😂 I like a tidy, clean house but not too ocd with it.

It's a morning job here.

I can't stand washing up being left. And I detest dishes being left to drain. I won't sit down until the kitchen is clean and tidy. By which I mean washing up washed, dried and put away. Sides wiped down, cooker wiped down, sink and draining board clear and clean, and no overflowing rubbish or recycling.
Why would someone leave washing up? It's vile.

Get a dishwasher. Life is too short to waste it on maritals over dishes.

It is literally faster doing it straight away. Usually my husband is washing pots as j dish each one up and finish with it.

Wonder if its to do with the time you finish work and get home. We are all back here by half four most days, latest occassionally for my husband is half five. So dinner is done by six.

I remember being shocked at my work colleague who told me she washed her dishes once a week on the weekend and let them pile up till then!

My mum is so neurotic about clearing up after eating she'll sometimes jump up and start doing it before people have finished eating. It's that engrained in me that i cant relax enough to leave dirty dishes overnight. As well as not being nice to come down to in the morning surely the food all solidifies on?!

YANBU to prefer it done how you do it.
YABU to think DH should feel the same.
YANBU to want to throttle him for not doing it your way 🤣

You’re coming across as a tad judgemental and as though you feel far superior to people who don’t do things the same way as you...maybe that’s annoying him too. You didn’t ‘have’ to have words with DP tonight, he’s not a child, he doesn’t have to do things your way. It’s about respecting the fact that you’re living with another adult who has different priorities and habits. Blah blah blah...I’d ltb 😂

• I cook dinner

• DH packs dishwasher, turns it on and steeps pots

• First thing next morning I wash pots, clean surfaces and unpack dishwasher

• DH then makes breakfast

Ideally I'd have a spotless kitchen each night but that's just not what happens atm and the alternative suits us.

ShesABelter - 10 min to wash an entire dinner's worth of dishes? Really?

We often leave ours - didn't preDC but we often only have half an hour to ourselves in the evening and want to spend it sitting down. For us, bedtime is 645-8pm to get 3 children bathed, milk and stories, and settled, then tidy up. Then DH makes dinner whilst I do my physio exercises and respond to the inevitable yowling baby who hasn't really settled, 3yo who wants 'one last more' sip of water etc. Generally eat around 9pm then do some laundry and sort out bags and clothes. Then it's 10pm and only 30-45 mins before the first night feed and bedtime.

We try but DH is often to be found loading the dishwasher at midnight!

Clean as you go!! My motto

Haven't rtft but I can leave my kitchen in a mess. It drives me mad and I hate getting up to it in the morning. I load the dishwasher with dirty pans etc as I'm dishing up and wipe the sides down when I take the food through. Dishwasher goes on before I sit down to eat then it's finished washing and can be turned off before I go to bed!

Our two dinner plates I will leave in the sink until the following morning if I really can't be bothered to wash them at night but that it.

DH thinks I'm weird. I'm wth you OP!

I used to live in a flat with a tiny galley style kitchen, so washing up was done immediately. Now we have a huge kitchen, and it drives me nuts when DP leave pans or whatever sitting - we do have a dishwasher though.

I also read the post as being about laundry rather than dishes initially.

*cant

Either way is reasonable. Some people chose to clean as they go, others chose not to. Problem is you both have different preferences so both need to compromise a little. If he does exactly as you're asking, reasonable or not, the compromise is all his

Please don't ever come to my house OP. My flatmate and I don't do any cleaning during the week. Sometimes it'll be a fortnight before we blitz the place. We wash up a few times a week though. Mess just doesn't really bother me I guess, I've always been like it. I couldn't live with someone who wanted things pristine all the time, and I'm sure they couldn't live with me either!

Dishes don't get smelly and gross overnight. If I've cooked dinner and it's getting late I want to relax and go to bed, not stand in the kitchen doing dishes and cleaning the cooker. And we frequently don't have time to clean during the week, especially when DP is working late. The only cleaning we ever do during the week is dishes, laundry and a quick wipe of kitchen surfaces. Sorry but I'm with your DP!

Eh yeah Johnny, in a sink? And theres five of us. We fill the sink before we cook. Wasv what we can as we go along. Dh will do the pots as I dish them up and take plates through etc. Then its literally minutes to wash the dinner plates and cutlery after.if things are steeped in hot water straight away it is much quicker to wash than when left overnight for food to dry on.

My children are older than yours, so teenagers can do dishes too.

YANBU OP. Leaving kitchen sides/hobs/dishes dirty overnight is just lazy and grotty.

Food won't stick and they won't get smelly if the dishes are rinsed before putting them in the sink...