to think it's not normal to leave washing up over night?

[BigMamaTee]

Had to have words with DP tonight...

Can anyone please tell me if I'm being unreasonable or not in thinking that:

• surfaces should be wiped after use (not 3 days later)
• if you cook on the hob and get oil everywhere you should clean it (same day)
• you don't leave washing up overnight to get smelly and gross
• nor do you leave bits of food floating in the drain catcher in the sink when you can just put them straight in the bin
• it's not normal to do not one bit of cleaning in the week and to just mop a floor or give a surface a wipe on a Sunday

AIBU in expecting DP to do the above? I'm not a clean freak but I like the house to be clean. I'm torn between leaving his shit for him to do and it building up all week for him to half heartedly clean on the weekend, or to just clean it myself and be happy my house is clean but to want to nut him for being so lazy....

I have a dishwasher but often leave big items like baking trays and pans for a couple of days.
Pre-dc's I used to do it the same evening.

You’re right OP. He is wrong as a wrong thing. As are the other lazy gits here

We often leave washing up overnight. We often run out of time before bedtime.

Meh. Surfaces are always wiped here and the main washing up done, but any extra bits like stuff used to make next day's lunch, mugs and glasses etc are left until the next day to be washed up. On a Saturday night we go wild and don't do any washing up at all until the next morning

Left to my own devices I'd wait until I'd run out of cups and plates. I used to do this when younger

Even now I often don't wash a pan for a few days until I need that specific pan. I hate washing up

I really get where you're coming from but yes I do leave it overnight sometimes

I leave the dishes in the night. There’s better things to do in life. It all gets washed up in the morning after breakfast anyway.

Ah bugger I was going to say don't leave your washing overnight it'll get darked on, then I realised you meant washing dishes.

Get a dishwasher, life is shit without one!

Yip thats done as standard after every meal in this house along with wiping down and polishing the dining table. Then we brush the kitchen floor. If it needs it will mop.

@Lou222 would love one but can't afford it and nowhere to put one in our tiny kitchen! Gutted I know...

I can't bear washing up being left, yanbu. Even more, I despise dishes being 'left to soak' in the sink so I come down to greasy grey slimy ick in the morning .

Usual routine is dishes done or stacked in washer, washer run on short wash, surfaces wiped down, draining board clear. Teen DSs & DH all muck in and it's done in no time

This is why I love my dishwasher

Its competely lazy to leave it till the next day. It literally takes ten minutes. Im with you op.

We eat after dd has gone to bed. By the time we have eaten etc neither of us CBA to wash up so it gets left till the morning. I also try to only wash up once a day though cause I hate it so much. Can't find it in myself to get worked up about things like this but I also know that my cleanliness standards are poor according to a lot of people on mumsnet.

I hate having dirty plates sat there for days until DP decides to clean his mess on a Sunday.

I genuinely couldn’t live with someone who insisted on doing that. Do you have to live with him?

I am with dh. Sorry.

I'm really surprised at how many people don't do this! I understand that some people have children and commitments other than cleaning but to wash a pan a plate and some cutlery then wipe the surface down and make sure there is no food in the sink takes 5-10 mins tops! I just like to get it done and can't stand washing stacked in the sink for days. It really does get smelly!

It seems a bit gross to leave it overnight especially in hot weather

Surely no one is so tired/busy/addicted to TV that they can't find 10 mins to sort it all out after eating

Weekdays we dont eat breakfast or lunch at home, and only dh and I eat dinner (kids eat at cm). So two evening meal plates and cutlery, maybe a pan a chopping board and a knife get left til the next day, washed and used again at dinnertime.

OP, your list looks reasonable to me, my DH is like yours so I do the washing up as I hate waking up knowing I’ve got washing up to do.

My children have been trained to wipe surfaces after making breakfast or lunch and wipe the oven down if they’ve helped cook.

It’s not much but keeps the kitchen clean.

Opinion is totally split here isn't it!

I try my hardest to wash up before I go to bed. If I'm really tired then I'll wash up and rinse it all and leave it to drain overnight instead of drying it and packing straight away.

Waking up to a smelly kitchen and loads of dirty plates in the sink is horrible

Big mama
It's not you. I'm the same. I like surfaces and sink clear of food bits.
I don't mind the odd plate glass being left to wash but not the whole meal

In fact I left my last cleaning job as the householder was sooooo skanky and left food and grease all over. It took me an hour to do the kitchin and left me no time to do any other rooms.

Ahhh it’s the lack of dishwasher! If you have space get one, life’s too short to wash up.

Totally normal to leave washing up 3+ days in my house, there’s only me and my boy so that how long it takes to build up enough non-dishwasher washing up to make it worth filling a basin!