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Friend spends the weekend with me then ‘reviews’ her experience, wtf!?

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Biscusting · 09/06/2018 21:25

Friend has been good friend during our uni days. We’ve loosely kept in touch over the years, but different career choices, interests, distance and children have pushed us in different directions.

She messages me out out of the blue to ask about staying a weekend with us. We live in an area popular with tourists.

I’m feeling a bit put out, as don’t fancy hosting, but we had no concrete plans and thought it would be a nice catch up.

Anyway she stays we have dinner out one night. She’s spends a day visiting a popular attraction and we have a nice evening in with a selection of nibbles, pizza, cheese and wine etc. Uneventful, pleasant weekend I feel.

Now i’ve just been browsing FB and looked on her page to see if she’d posted any pictures. To find she’d written quite a lengthy post about her stay. I don’t want to copy and paste, but basically it’s along the lines of, ‘had an okay weekend with Biscusting, staying at her place. Found the breakfast underwhelming and conversation with her DH a bit dry.
The sleigh bed in the guest room was too high and I bumped on the wooden edge so often I have a bruise. The room was too small.’.....the WiFi speed was poor at best’

She goes on to critique the decor and waffles on a lot about the tourist attraction she visited. Then ends the post with ‘all in all i’d give her two stars’

Wtaf is this!? Has she mistaken FB for trip advisor and my home for a hotel!?

We don’t have many shared friends, but people have liked her bloody post. 13 people!

Now the thing is she talked about coming back at the end of July for an exhibition and we made relatively firm plans about her return.

AIBU to tell her to jog on?

OP posts:
DrinkFeckArseGirls · 11/06/2018 12:25

Text back: don’t use your mental health issues as an excuse for slagging my home on FB.
Anyway, jeeoing a oersonal journal on FB for all to see and comment on is a recipe for disaster, even more when you’re feeling fragile.

DrinkFeckArseGirls · 11/06/2018 12:25

jeeoing - keeping
Oersonal - personal

montenuit · 11/06/2018 12:29

she's not depressed she's a narcissist.

you can't argue or reason with a narcissist, i suggest you don't waste any energy even trying.

block and move on.

Mummyoflittledragon · 11/06/2018 12:30

Personally I would just ignore her now. It isn’t your job to teach her how to behave. She’s not interested in learning right now and it will absorb a lot of your energy to try.

If she were a very shy or doormat type at university, it could be that she’s just found her voice and is adjusting and the pendulum has temporarily swung the other way. I do believe this can happen. If this is the case and if she continues therapy, she will find balance and eventually see how badly she has acted toward you. Failing that, her therapist is pretty rubbish.

EveHen · 11/06/2018 12:30

Can I ask (genuine question), what kind of MH problems cause someone to post a public humiliating note on Facebook about a friend, and then not apologise when it is pointed out that this is hurtful?

firsttimebabybirther · 11/06/2018 12:31

Ahh you're being discussed on loose women Shock

RhubarbRhubarbRhubarbRhubarb · 11/06/2018 12:31

Omfg, this thread is in Loose Women!

DereksGotATail · 11/06/2018 12:31

This is being discussed on Loose Women now Shock

Mossend · 11/06/2018 12:31

Loose woman just now

paranoiamumma · 11/06/2018 12:31

This threads being talked about on loose women .

Takeoutyourhen · 11/06/2018 12:31

This is on Loose Women!!

firsttimebabybirther · 11/06/2018 12:31

Ahh you're being discussed on loose women Shock

paranoiamumma · 11/06/2018 12:32

This threads being talked about on loose women .

RhubarbRhubarbRhubarbRhubarb · 11/06/2018 12:32

*on

Mossend · 11/06/2018 12:32

Loose woman just now

Italia2005 · 11/06/2018 12:32

Your post is on Loose Women!

yerbutnobut · 11/06/2018 12:32

col nolan has just mentioned this post on loose women!!!

sunshinejourney · 11/06/2018 12:32

What are they saying about it?

Poppylicious · 11/06/2018 12:32

Discussing this on Loose Women just now!

Birdshitbridgegotme · 11/06/2018 12:34

Hahaha just seen this on loose women!

RhubarbRhubarbRhubarbRhubarb · 11/06/2018 12:34

Saying she’s a massive CF basically. The friend. Also wondered if she was joking. That’s all I saw as I’m about to go out.

KerplunkChampion · 11/06/2018 12:35

Does anyone know if this post is on Loose Women?

KerplunkChampion · 11/06/2018 12:35

Does anyone know if this post is on Loose Women?

Aeroflotgirl · 11/06/2018 12:35

Oh no missed it, what did they say about it Grin.

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