To not have a bedroom

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So DH is moving out, it's just me and the three DCs. Two boys, one girl. They're are 6,5,2.

We live in a 2 bed, right now the DD and DS share a room and DS2 sleeps in my bedroom in the travel got. When DH moves out, I'm planning on decorating the whole house and give DD my bedroom, and I will sleep on the sofa. I might buy her a bunk bed so I can sleep in the bottom bunk, if I want to sleep in a bed.

But hoping to move out in 3-4 years, so has anyone here given up their bedroom and sleep on the sofa?

Not me, but my dp's daughter sleeps on a sofabed in the lounge, due to 3 sons and a ds all living at home.it seems to work. Just make sure it's a comfy one!

In your situation I think I’d get a bunk bed and share with her before I entirely gave up my bedroom. It’s goinf to hurt your back sleeping on the sofa surely?

I would get one of the bunk beds where the bottom bunk is a double bed.

A good quality sofa bed will be fine. My friend did this for years and was happy with it.

Your dc are still young enough to be going to bed early and they will love snuggling with you in the sitting room in the mornings...

As long as you don’t mind completely making your bed and putting it away again, I think a good quality sofa bed should be ok.

Would you have room / funds for a wall bed / Murphy bed in the lounge? I think you can leave the bedding on some of them when they’re folded up so might be easier and more comfortable than a sofa bed.

Can your 2 year old manage a bunk bed ladder?

I think I'd put your 5 year old and 2 year old in the same room with her on the bottom bunk and then keep your bedroom. When you are a single parent you need a space to call your own in my experience.

Sorry, just realised I thought the 2 year old was a girl not a boy.

I think I'd go for the 3 of them sharing the larger room in that case and you having the other room, as it's smaller could you still fit a double bed in though? A smaller room might mean you can decorate it with more expensive materials as the overall cost will still be less hopefully?

I'd vote for all 3 kiddos sharing the large room (if you think that will work and that they will sleep well that way). Maybe put the 2 year old to bed in your room and then transfer to the kid room once they are asleep if falling asleep would be an issue. You Deserve your own space mama!!

Let the children share a room.
Have your own bedroom.

Depends how well you would sleep on the sofa. The best sleep I get is on the floor, but a sofa I also sleep better on than my bed so I would do it if I were you.

I expect your DD would rather share with her brothers than with you, and will be jealous if they are allowed to have fun sharing and she isn't? So I would have them all in together. You can go into the smaller room, who cares if single bed or double?

My aunt and uncle slept on a sofa bed for all the time their children were living at home. They had a 2 bedroom with a double lounge so in 1 part of the lounger it was their "bed" Worked well for them.. I would however make sure the sofa was a good one.

I have a 2 bed home and 3 children, 2 boys and a girl. When I split up with ex husband I had my boys living with me (they were toddlers) However I met with my now husband and we had a daughter a few years later.

The boys shared the small room while we had the bedroom with our daughter. When she turned 1 we swapped the bedrooms so the boys got the big room & her the small room and we've been on a sofabed in the front room ever since.

However now, my boys have left home and in 2 years my daughter will be off to uni, so we are in the process of decorating and getting our bedroom back. It hasn't been difficult at all really. Our clothes are in the big room & we just get dressed etc in the bathroom. We've been like this for 15 years now. You just get on with it really, it hasn't been difficult at all.

I also think you need your own sanctuary. If you are looking after 2 children on your own, you will need somewhere you can relax. Having to unfold and make a sofa bed every night after a long day will be a right pain IMO.

Definitely redecorate when you DP moves out. Gives you that new start feeling.
I think you should have your own space though so eithervkeep arrangements as they are or, as others have said. Kids in larger bedrooms ( bunk and cot) and you in smaller.

I've had a bottom bunk of dcs bed and now they are older a sofa bed. Works fine for us.

Put the kids in the larger room. Your own space is very important. Do not underestimate it. (Been there done that, not a great idea)

Hi OP

You definitely deserve a room of your own. Just to be able to have one place in your home that is just for you... where you can rest, snooze, read a book, make a call to a friend or go to have a little cry if things get tough.

Your children are young enough to all pitch in, and you do have your room to put little one to sleep, to be transferred if needed.

Kids are brilliant, and get on with their own normal! And if you're happy, they're happy. Trust me!

Good luck!

Have your own room. I've had friends who gave their kids a room each but mum stayed on the sofa and it's not good for mum's mental health.

Get a bunk bed. You will end up so tired if you have bad quality sleep on a sofa and possibly screw your back and joints up.

My SILS mother slept on a sofa for a long time and has quite bad problems with her back and joints. She was in a two roomed flat in a communist country and didn't have much choice. She was also vv tired because her children would be up so early and she always had to get up with them and never had a lie in. By the time yours are 10/9/6 you should be getting to the point where you can give them some cereal and stick on the telly and have some more rest.

We did it. It's fine.

"Let the children share a room."

DDs 1 and 2 had shared a room for 11 years and were furiously arguing their way into adolescence. They needed their own space and privacy or they would likely come to blows. Neither could be expected to share with toddler DD3.

It worked for us, so no hesitations in recommending it.

Most siblings can share a room pretty happily-- especially when they're so young. I shared a room w/ one or the other of my sisters for most of my childhood and adolescence. We argued from time to time, like all siblings, but it wasn't bad. Looking back, I only remember the good points of sharing a room.

Op why not get something like this

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Or something like this

m.ebay.co.uk/itm/2ft6-3ft-Day-Bed-with-Crystal-Finials-in-Black-or-White-with-Trundle-Mattress/292432616764?_trkparms=aid=222007&algo=SIM.MBE&ao=1&asc=20150313114020&meid=369f7e7c091e438a8f968e607606e56e&pid=100338&rk=6&rkt=30&mehot=pp&sd=112839460923&itm=292432616764&_trksid=p2141725.c100338.m3726&_mwBanner=1&_rdt=1

Don't give up your bedroom... Even a Murphy bed that folds up in the wall or a camp bed that folds up during the day is better than no bed at all

At least get a decent sofabed OP.