To not have a bedroom

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So DH is moving out, it's just me and the three DCs. Two boys, one girl. They're are 6,5,2.

We live in a 2 bed, right now the DD and DS share a room and DS2 sleeps in my bedroom in the travel got. When DH moves out, I'm planning on decorating the whole house and give DD my bedroom, and I will sleep on the sofa. I might buy her a bunk bed so I can sleep in the bottom bunk, if I want to sleep in a bed.

But hoping to move out in 3-4 years, so has anyone here given up their bedroom and sleep on the sofa?

Did this for 9 yrs, spent a lot on sofa beds, it worked fine but to be honest I could have saved myself the hassle and kept the bedroom for both of us as my dd often ended up sleeping in the living room with me! We recently moved into a 2 bed flat and it hasn't done him or me any harm. Financially it enabled me to go back to uni when he was 3.
Good luck with the future x

My husband and I sleep downstairs on a bed settee. I have a 16 year old son, 8 year old daughter and 7 year old son all with their own small rooms upstairs. It works fine. I can’t bear the thought of moving and my daughter (who has smallest room) cries if we ever suggest it! My eldest spends half the week with his Dad but I want him to feel he has his own space with us. We have a small 3 bed semi with a mortgage and really can’t afford a bigger house anyway, or the moving costs. Do what’s best for you.

I grew up with 3 in my bedroom, Ok, so we were all girls... was a bunk bed and a single bed.

Good luck, whatever you decide xx

Kids the big room you the small one...

I think at the moment this would be fine, as they all presumably go to sleep around 7 or 8. I think it might be harder when they are teenagers and you want to have some private space but tehy are up until midnight in a communal room.

I used to babysite for a couple who had this set up. They slept in a (fairly large) open plan space and their two dds shared a bedroom. They weren't especially hard up but they wanted to live in the city in that neighborhood and that's what they could afford there. They moved out to the 'burbs though when the girls were teens

My sister lives in a 2 bed marionette one upstairs bedroom and everything else on lower floor. She has 2 boys and 2 girls and has for last 7yrs with her partner slept on pull out sofa bed as the children have the bedrooms.

For me, my main concern is a little one sleeping in a travel cot, they're not designed for extended periods of sleep.

I grew up in a three bed with mum dad and brother so a room for each of us, I spent an awful lot of time sleeping in the bunk beds in my brother's room, because we wanted to. Different gender really isn't a big deal, maybe after puberty they'd want their own space but you've said you hope to have somewhere bigger by then, there were plenty of occasions as a young teen/preteen i'd still sleep in there, we'd watch a film together. Give them the bigger room, bunks and a single, neutral colours with zones for each of them, you can get really nice wall decals/stickers. Ignore people who say you deserve to suffer because you had more children than rooms, that wasn't your plan but life changes and we deal with it. Even having the toddler in with you will grate after a while.

We have moved our bed into the living room to give our DDs(8,2) and DS(10) a room. It was that or have our family split up. Do what you think is bed.

I have to sleep in the living room eveyr night on a sofa bed due to to lack of space in the house It's no problem at all as I have to be up early for work.

Pressed send too soon. My sleeping arrangements have been so for the last 7 years.

OP, I just want to congratulate you on your husband moving out. The same happened to me last year, after 20 years together, with also three kids (12,10, 6), although we’re in a slightly bigger flat. My and the kids’ quality of life improved immensely - no more bossing around, no more always doing things the way he wants, no more being told off for stupid things. I redecorated and refurnished the entire flat single-handedly, and it’s been one of the most awesome, uplifting and cathartic experiences in my life.

I’d say keep a small bedroom to yourself, even if you share it with the little one. Kids at this age don’t mind sharing, but having your own little space does wonders to your mental health.

Whatever you decide, though, enjoy enjoy enjoy. Things will be tough sometimes, but everything has a silver lining.

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With your DH gone didn't be surprised if you end up sharing your bed with all 3 children.

I'm a single parent in a one bed and my 2 year old shares my bed.

I agree with most people to let the kids have the bigger room. Even if you are very close with your DD, it’s more important for you to have your own space. What if you are upset, angry about your Ex and you need five minutes to recompose yourself? The kids will benefit from you having some breathing space.

It’s tempting to try and compensate for their dad moving out and show them that you put them first and even give up your bed for them and I have been there too.

At this age, they won’t mind sharing and will be happy in one room.

Whatever you do is fine.
Do what works for you - though I think you need a proper bed either sofa bed or bunk bed.

I like the idea of the bunk bed with double bed in one room and maybe a bunk bed and single bed in the 2nd room so the kids can make up their own mind. With each kid having their owned themed bed linen (and you for that matter)

More than likely you will get all three in your bed for a cuddle.

You are going to be fine. You are a family and live together; children are still little so whatever combination will be OK.

What about something like this if they didn't want to share,even if it wasn't every night?

kidsfuntimebeds.co.uk/product/funtime-compact-quad/

I am over cored I live with my husband in law with two boys 1 and 3 in a 2 bed flat we just spit the big room in half using IKEA shelving unit and works well enough u could do some like this for your kids split a room in half

@Belleoverandover I want that and I'm 34! Not sure I'd persuade DH to give up our bed for this though...

@fash84 I think they're great, and it means the kids could share, friends could stay and it frees up floor space for the kids to play. They are expensive though but starting to see some on gumtree

Might even be cheaper to get one made, there's a guy near me who builds children's beds, castles, cars etc and he's very reasonable so I'm sure could do something like that, worth bearing in mind!

Definitely have the kids all sharing if you can.

You have a lot of responsibility, you may need your own room so you can get some ‘me’ time

OP shouldnt have to justify her children. I would keep them together sharing a room. Hopefully in a few years time you might be able to move somewhere bigger. You need your adult space and privacy. Get a sofa bed for sleepovers or even sleeping bags. They will love camping in the living room.

I would suggest all kids sharing. in a few years they will be 10,9 and 6 and then maybe the two boys can share and you share with dd temporarily until you can move to a 3 bed. you need a room