To not have a bedroom

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So DH is moving out, it's just me and the three DCs. Two boys, one girl. They're are 6,5,2.

We live in a 2 bed, right now the DD and DS share a room and DS2 sleeps in my bedroom in the travel got. When DH moves out, I'm planning on decorating the whole house and give DD my bedroom, and I will sleep on the sofa. I might buy her a bunk bed so I can sleep in the bottom bunk, if I want to sleep in a bed.

But hoping to move out in 3-4 years, so has anyone here given up their bedroom and sleep on the sofa?

Not sure If possible but can the master bedroom be split in two at all (quite easy and cheap with a Victorian terrace style house as they have 2 front windows) then you could have the smaller second and more people get privacy. X

My mum did this for a couple of years so I could have my own room - she got a sofa bed though. I appreciated it a LOT(although I was a teenager at the time).

but why?!

Could you have a bunk bed and a loft bed/high sleeper type thing so that you retain some floor space in the kids room?

I sleep on the sofa.

I personally feel that once a child reaches 6/7 I wouldn’t feel right about them sharing a room with a sibling of a different gender and would willingly give up my room.

All part and parcel of being a grown up and putting children first

Mine is the other thread on this topic.
I would advise OP that you let them share as long as possible as once they have got used to their own rooms it will be very hard to go back.
Watch your reaction isn't to show them your love for them, I did that, I regret it.
Your own space is precious.
Putting children first and being a grown up means making sure you can be the best mum you can be and if that means three children sharing so be it. Hell in a different country you'd all be living in one room.
I know a family where mum and dad brought 2 girls each to the marriage and moved into a 2 bed together. The 4 girls got 2 bunk beds and made to share. Guess what-they're all fine. It works cos it has to and nobody has to be a martyr.

Yeah the girls from that family night have a different view as to whether it was fine or not.

Perhaps so.
I get the impression with my kids that whatever I do they will find the bad stuff to remember. So if not sharing a bedroom, it will be not enough toys, or that I shouted a lot, or whatever.
Must say I'd hate to share with 3 other girls and was brought up with only one sister.

I think that being uncomfortable about 7 year old children sharing because they are different sexes is a bit paranoid.
If they are sensible they can share much longer than that.
We had a boy to stay with us for 2 months. He and my daughter shared bunk beds. They were both 12. They were sensible about getting dressed in the bathroom, and all went very well - they enjoyed sharing a room.

Agree with danniz. My 13 and 10 year olds love to watch tv in different beds in the same room.
The government stipulates 10 as when children stop sharing.

Well, you have to make do but I wouldn’t really have wanted to share a room with a boy I wasn’t related to age 12.

I know someone who has a one-bed flat with herself and her two sons. AFAIK the boys have the room and mum sleeps in the living room (I think it's a fairly big living room, and I'm not sure if it's a sofa-bed or if she has a bed in one corner)

I think that the benefits of being overcrowded are often played down. Rent or mortgage more affordable, heating costs etc and council tax cheaper. One day the kids will leave and you will have enough space and not have to downsize.

Obviously you have to make do with what you have, but no way would I move my kids into another relationship and expect them to share with two step siblings. And I wouldn’t expect my twelve year old DD to share a room with a boy. Brother for a bit on holiday or with guests, sure. For months? No.

Me neither Just. But step parenting/step siblings/half siblings is something I don't agree with anyway.

But above you cited a blended family who put four girls in the same room and were cheering them on

Er no I wasn't cheering anyone on . You seem slightly overinvested in this. All I said was that they seemed fine, I know the girls and they all play and go to school together and they were cheerful enough.
You don't have to take a side you know.
You seem very keen to show you're putting your children first but there is more than one way to do so.

Not over invested i do think it is worth remembering that a child ‘seeming fine’ can actually be anything but fine.

I shared with my sister until age 10. We became much less close after we moved house and were put in separate rooms. I regret it.

I should say that when we had a 12 year old boy staying for 2 months and he shared with my 12 year old daughter, they had the choice of sharing a room (bunk beds) or having separate rooms. They chose to share. Had a great time, no issues at all. We later had a 13 year old girl to stay with my then 13 year old daughter, and she also chose the bunk bed option. In my experience teens really enjoy sharing a bedroom.

awww no cant u and her share a double bed... and share a bedroom i dont c anythinh wrong with that dont sleep on the sofa.. how old is ur daughter

sorry if u dont mind me asking her age

I shared a room with my DD for a while (had to have a lodger to make ends meet). I got a bunk bed and slept on the bottom. I reckon they could all share, though...good luck with it all and happy decorating.

I don't like the emphasis on the sex of the children. Apparently the OP has to share with the 6 year old DD and the 5 year old and 2 year old DSs share together. It makes much more sense for the 5 and 6 year olds to share, but apparently they can't because they're not the same sex.

Of course they can Danniz but the OP was wanting to make nice girly and boyish bedrooms which is why she assumed he default of sharing with DD. Nobody is uncomfortable with a 5 and 6 year old sharing