To not have a bedroom

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So DH is moving out, it's just me and the three DCs. Two boys, one girl. They're are 6,5,2.

We live in a 2 bed, right now the DD and DS share a room and DS2 sleeps in my bedroom in the travel got. When DH moves out, I'm planning on decorating the whole house and give DD my bedroom, and I will sleep on the sofa. I might buy her a bunk bed so I can sleep in the bottom bunk, if I want to sleep in a bed.

But hoping to move out in 3-4 years, so has anyone here given up their bedroom and sleep on the sofa?

Is one room big and the other small? Could give the kids the big room using bunk beds and you have the small room?

This is how most of my family in eastern europe used to sleep.
Important considerations - its a sofa bed designed for permanent sleeping so it is comfortable and doesn't damage your back and something with built in storage for the bedding so you're not having to find additional space for your duvet and pillows

The children can share a room for quite a few years yet.

Makes me laugh that so many people think children should have their own bedroom. We lived in a council 2 bed and there were 3 of us. The council would not rehome us because they said 3 of the same sex could share. So we did until I left home at 23 (I am the eldest)

Has anyone mentioned a day bed in the living room. It does the back in on a sofa.

Rocinante1 you’re absolutely right, oh whilst I’ve got you here, can I borrow the time machine you clearly have fucking hell

I think you need your own space. The children can still share whilst they're young.

Is your dd the youngest?

Have you had look at something like the Hemnes daybed from Ikea? It can be used as a couch-style setter during the day and then turned into a bed at night (there’s one version which has a trundle and two mattresses so it can turn into a double) which might work depending on your space?

Is there space to put a decent mattress on the floor in the living room? I’d do that. We’ve been sleeping on our living room floor on a mattress for a few months as our bed broke and we’re saving up for a decent new bed, and it’s fine.

Other than that I’d say you need to get a sofa bed or yes, sleep on the sofa if it’s big and comfy enough. And give the two rooms to the kids. It’s ridiculous to expect three kids of different genders and ages to all share a single room, and as the parent who brought them into this situation I think this is an occasion where your needs should come last.

At those ages I wouldn't get too fixed and would go based on age .so the 6/5 in one room now and the 2 yr old in with you .....he may disturb them a bit .... maybe once he's 3 get another bed/triple bunk and have them all in the one room...
save your money and paint it neutral white/yellow/green then get them different duvet covers /lights/cushions...

you could do the sofa bed thing - I know a few that do but it can be quite a faff- and as a single parent you need a decent nights sleep !

Something like this?

And a bunk bed in your room too, perhaps with the double bed at the bottom, if you have room. Then you'll have 5 beds for 4 people and you'll have versatility to see what works best.

Is your living room big enough to divide with shelves? We did this while renting a one bed flat - gave our DC the bedroom and we had our normal bed at one end of the living room with an ikea expedit shelving unit (the one that’s like a load of boxes, now called kallax) so you couldn’t really see the bed, and had a sofa on the other side so it was also a living room if that makes sense. Much better sleeping in a proper bed than on a sofa.

We also had a day bed in a previous flat but found it was just like sitting on a bed so doesn’t really replace a sofa.

We sleep on a sofa bed, have done for about a year and a half it's very comfortable, I have 3 bedrooms but the box room really is a box room and can't fit a bed in it and we have 2 boys and 2 girls so we have gave up having a bedroom. But the bunk bed seems like a good option

I would get a good sofa bed for the lounge.

I think most bunk beds are not going to be suitable for the ages of your babies

I'd go for the three dc in the large bedroom and you in the small one. Don't give up your bedroom, sometimes you'll need to escape to it for five mins of peace!

For me, I would need a personal space where there wasn't toys etc, a little oasis. Like the idea of room dividers - I had a uni room once where our room was divided by a curtain- could you do that in the kids room OP- they can still share but have their own little decorated areas?

I would get a bunk bed with a double on the bottom as well as a good quality sofa bed in the sitting room. That way you have the choice and you can work out what’s best as you go along. I pretty much cosleep with my two year old anyway so sharing the bottom double would be fine for me. When she gets older she can have the top bunk - she will probably want it anyway.

How big are the two bedrooms? If they are decent sizes (or at least one of them is big), why not have the bigger bedroom subdivided?

You could do as a previous poster has said and get bookshelves to make a dividing line or some form of freestanding partition wall/screen.

You can then either move into the bigger room with DD and subdivide with the two boys sharing the small room or subdivide the big room with DD on one side and the boys on the other (they can have a bigger half) so you can stay in the little room.

It really depends on how much space you have.

www.diy.com/departments/karalis-room-divider/1012710_BQ.prd

We will be having a surprise third child soon and only two bedrooms. We only just moved in and its our first owned home so I don't want to move for several years, so I am hoping DD will share our room, with a room divider until she is 3 or 4.

As it's reasonably temporary I'd put all three in the larger room, decorate it really nicely with clever storage etc then turn the smaller room into a bedroom for you.

WalkingOnAFlashlightBeam what do you do with the mattress during the day though??

MumofBoysx2 It just stays there? Like a bed in the living room! It doesn’t need moving anywhere as we have the space to be able to walk past it, hence asking if OP had the space :)

Can you get a day bed in your living room instead of a sofa? And just cover the back of it with large cushions for when people wish to use it as a sofa? Then you can have a proper mattress.

No probs with sleeping in the living room. My husband and I did this for a while when we had a 1 bed flat in the city centre with our son. It was fine as we had a very large living room and a good quality sofa bed. It isnt a good idea long term however, especially as kids get older. We only did it whilst ours was a toddler.

My aunt and uncle slept downstairs on the sofa bed for years and it seems to work out fine. They had four kids in a three bed. The two youngest girls actually liked sharing but the elder two were teenagers (one boy and one girl) and would have absolutely hated sharing.