Is your life easier when your DH is away?

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Is this normal or not and am I awful for thinking this sometimes / quite a lot? AIBU?

DH is away with work for a few nights this week, as he often is. I just came back from the school run and rather than rushing round tidying the house and making dinner, I'm on MN with a coffee and will just do pasta or something later. Plus less mess and laundry all round and generally a more chilled atmosphere, even though the kids have exams this week.

I do appreciate DH for all he does and I miss him too, but AIBU to feel more relaxed when he's on a trip? Does anyone else feel like this ever?

Yes

Kind of! My DH is away this week. Normally he does nursery pickups and drop off, so I am a bit more headless chicken than usual. But otherwise it is much easier!

Yes! It's bliss!! (but I love him dearly!)

Yip I could of written that post. And the whole bed to yourself with no snoring as well. Bliss, for up to a week, maybe even two. However seven weeks was too long for him to be away.

Mine's away Mon to Fri every week. Suits me perfectly, the house stays tidy.

I feel as if I'm on a mini-break. Glad to hear it's not just me!

It's way harder without him! But the kids are young and I'm pregnant. To be fair he really does pull his weight generally even more so when I'm pregnant

I have taken Friday off, so with the toddler at nursery I have a whole day to completely indulge. Can't wait!

All the time!

I think it's something do with not having to justify "sorry it's just pasta tonight, didn't have much in" etc, or " didnt have time to hoover today, there was a delay on the way home" and also not having to have grown up conversation and having the remote to myself for once!
However if he was never here I would probably just eat toast for every meal and never clean!

Mornings are tougher but evenings are easier. Less mess, I can eat what I like, no waiting for him to get in, no being disturbed in the night.

I do miss him though and couldn't bear to be without him, but two nights a week is quite nice

Yes ! No snoring and no complicated dinners as I am less fussy and eat more in the day.

Before children I enjoyed the time to myself. Now I'm counting the minutes until he gets home and the toddler can pester him for a while instead.

Yes! Bed to myself, no sport on TV, but he usually washes up and puts the bin out (fair trade)

Yes. We miss him, but it is calmer and less messy.

Yes! More so now the kids are older, when I had three under five it was much harder, but as they've got older it's been easier when he's away. I find now after a few days of him being under my feet home I start looking forward to him going away again! He misses us more than we miss him the cat misses him though

Vthirty - yes it's the guilt if you haven't had time to get something done. Also, not having to muster the energy to listen to the latest work-related issues and just watch Netflix instead.

My house is tidier!

Yes, a lot messier though and less proper food- that’s why it’s easier I guess!

Yep, I love it when mine goes away over night. Less stressing about housework and home cooked dinners, less mess. Corrie on telly rather than sport channels. Bliss

Snap! DH works away quite often and yes things are more relaxed. I get in from work and whilst I always have my "chill half hour" whether he's home or not there's less of a timetable as to when to sort tea plus I get to watch whatever I want without any moaning!

In fact if he's done a long stint of Monday to Friday away but then he's home it's a culture shock

I tried to get my husband to go for a job last year mainly because it would involve him travelling for work!

Much less stressful when he's not here.

I did think about this one.

I think I'd be more stressed. He does more housework than I do but I do the cooking, so it might be quite nice to just have something quick and easy for tea rather than the usual full meal cooking I do!

My husband used to work shifts and I loved it when he was on lates or nights - everything went more smoothly and kids didn't seem to object to homework or food or even bedtime! its as if there wasn't anyone else except mum so what she said happened

When the kids were toddlers I would have hated it because it was nice to have him come home and they would focus their attention on him for a bit. But with older primary age kids (I'm divorced) it's a lot easier not having here to whine about dinner/housework etc.

I get home from school run and kids do their own thing whilst if I want to I can sit in the garden for an hour with a g&t and do something simple for tea which is kiddie friendly. If ex dh was coming home at 5pm I would running around like a mad woman making the house tidy and preparing a more complicated meal.

I like that's he's not here 😬😉

Yes! Mine used to work away a lot but not so much any more. It's much easier when he's not here and all I want to do is watch Love Island in peace!