He left

[WhatIsHappiness]

I've NC but I posted before about DH being confused, wanted a break, etc. This has been going on for 6 months, during my pregnancy, and last night he left us.
He said he needs space to think about what he wants but we are not getting divorced.

AIBU to tell him that I don't want him back? He made it clear that he doesn't want to separate so what is the bloody point of having a break? I still can't understand how someone could simply leave his DC (newborn and one in junior school) just like that!

If you can't sort it out together, I'm not sure any of you can sort it out apart.

My first husband used to bang on about needing 'space' to sort his head out. If someone wants to leave, then let them go. YANU at all to get shut.

I don't think it's a mania for having the OW there when they have their kids, tbh, I think most men have absolutely no idea how to interact with their own children. So they need someone else there to mediate and to 'act' in front of. How many men do we hear about who are supposedly 'looking after' the children but, in reality, are sitting on their phones or watching TV rather than playing with the kids?

In the absence of OW they will often take the children to their parents' house just so there are other adults present and they don't have to give the children their full attention.

My ex husband left when our son was 3 weeks old and I was breast feeding.
It was really tough but I did it and have an incredible relationship with my son now (he is 20 now). My life now is epic with a new incredible partner (been together 9 years). Keep positive! Remember that any bad times are temporary and you will come out the other side.

@WhatIsHappiness how are things going now? How are you feeling and coping. Have you still got plenty of support around you?

Hope you're ok. x

I keep checking in to see how you're going, OP.... Good luck for the weekend. Big hugs. x

Another one thinking of you and wishing you well for the weekend.

Thinking of you OP

Hope you’re as okay as you can be OP 💐

Hope that you're doing ok OP, you have been amazingly strong throughout this whole process and your children are very lucky to have you as their mum. Lots of and being sent your way right now. Also I found another song to sing to yourself when he's being particularly twattish x

I am so sorry OP - he is an utter bastard leaving you with a newborn. I do think he has clearly left for this woman at work, shes told him to before she will embark upon a full on relationship perhaps? Flirty messages and best friends when he is a married man with children? They rarely leave unless something else is on offer the cowardly bastards. When your baby gets a bit older this will all be easier and I hope you have support around you and you can find happiness when you are ready with someone decent because this man is a far cry from that.

Hey what just checking in to see how you’re doing?

How are you getting on op? Hope you and dc are well.

thinking of you OP