is it cruel to send the DC for 6 weeks in the Summer hols to the holidays club

[whatwouldbe]

I am unable to get any annual leave over the summer which means DC will have to spend the entire summer school hols (6 weeks) in a holiday club. 8:30 - 17:30.

it wasn't planned like that, I was hoping to get 1 weeks off in between but could not.

Several friends and my mum told me that this is cruel. That the DC need a break and downtime. I have no friends who could have the DC for a few days and no family to help (my mum is ill and cannot physically do it).

DC dad cannot have them either (long backstory).

working from home is not an option in my line of work.

It is not a choice for me. I really wanted to spend a few days with them at home. It's not only shit for them, it's alse shit for me. all friends have nice holidays planned and we cannot even have some chilled days at home. but there is nothing I can do.

please tell me you have done it too and that it is ok. I feel really awful after DM and some friends made these remarks.

OP @whatwouldbe do not let people guilt trip you.

I was a single mom in a foreign country with no family or friends to help or support me.

I had no option as a working mother to have my DD in summer holiday school, which by the way she loved. She had all her friends around her to play with, they went on days out etc. She enjoyed it.

Sometimes us working single moms have to do these things to ensure that we have a roof over our childrens heads and able to provide them with what they needed.

CAn I also say that unless your family or friends are able to step in and help you they need to keep their opinions to themselves.

Failure to plan is planning to fail - it's a good job the op has suitable childcare planned then isn't it.

Some people are such twats.

OP what did you expect people to reply to your post? I think you know school straight into six weeks of clubs straight into school again is not going to be beneficial to your dc. You've said "work needs me".............so does your dc, moreso.

Find another option that provides dc with more downtime eg au pair as suggested by pp.

@dontdoubtyourself OP has arranged safe, suitable, more than acceptable childcare for both her children.

She's not cone on here saying I've got to work the school holidays and no idea what I'm going to do with my two children including one with additional needs?

Are you really stupid or being deliberately obtuse?

@mammyoftwo read the full thread!!! OR cancel the cheque!

I'm just bored. Carry on.

@BigSandyBalls2015

Failing to plan is planning to fail" .... I so wish there was a wanker emoji!!

Oh so true! 😂

@dontdoubtyourself I think your boring rather than bored!

And unable to explain your inane quote!

Point being as no doubt it will be missed... Op was happy with the childcare arrangements. She asked for others opinions and shock horror it's divided. It isn't going to change anything either.

OMG some people just don't get it.

Kids are off 13 weeks, Adults get 4 weeks.
13 into 4 just doesn't go - never did never will. 13 - 4 = 9 weeks

9 weeks that Op needs holiday cover per year. Unfortunately this year 6 of those are in one block over the summer. End off.

What makes anybody think an unqualified au-pair is the right answer for a child with special needs?

How do you know your au-pair or CM is actually going to do ANYTHING with kids other than let them watch telly all day??

Organised childcare means more than one set of eyes to see what's going on.

@mammyoftwo perhaps the OP expected people at least to have the basic manners to read what she had written. Sadly her hopes were sadly misplaced.

If she feels that bad about what people have said, don't fall into the same trap next year. Boom. So complex.

It depends on how old your kids are but in some Summers I had an older teenager round to act as day au pairs to my kids some weeks when they were older. They much preferred it to holiday clubs as could chill at home.

But no yanbu. You are doing what you need to do to remain in employment which is important. I would double check with work though as it does seem unreasonable that they won't let a parent have any holiday in the summer holidays.
Don't be bullied by your friends and relatives. If they can't help they should keep their mouths shut!

@dontdoubtyourself can you read? Seriously can you? She asked had anyone done this and how was it!

@dontdoubtyourself do you struggle with reading and comprehension?

@dontdoubtyourself she may not have other options! Boom your so stupid!!

I can and i can read it all without cherry picking like you dear. I don't think I've ever said it's bad, either? Just if she's not happy with it, plan better. As she said it's not gone to plan. Someone get out the wrong side of the bed this morning?

@dontdoubtyourself do you honestly look at yourself and think you're a nice person....you know sympathetic and understand that life isn't perfect for everyone? Take time to read this post, this is a single parent with a disabled child.

You are coming across as extremely unpleasant and without feelings for others.

@dontdoubtyourself it hadn't gone to plan! She did plan!! So why your inane quote?

If you can read it all you obviously struggle with comprehension then.

This. Is. A. One. Off. The. OP. Doesn't. Expect. A. Repetition.

@dontdoubtyourself did you get out of bed the wrong side this morning?

Not surprised at that rant! Shows you for what you are!

No disability competing just stating the situation.

Now I'd plan to have a cup of herbal tea and calm down!

And I'm surprised to don't have empathy with OP!

OP, don't worry. Your kids will be absolutely fine! Mine would love to do this all summer. We always have a complete higgeldy hotch potch of arrangements since we only have a holiday club for 2 weeks where I live. It's very difficult.