To refuse this guest's request?

[Bloodybridget]

Very old friend of mine, who can be a total PITA but I am basically fond of her, has come to stay for a few days. She just asked me if she could have a bucket in her room to use if she needs a wee in the night!

We don't have a loo on that floor, she would have to come down one floor, as I do every bloody night. I said no! She has some health issues but is completely mobile. WIBU?

I have known her for over 40 years and never heard of continence problems.

What the fuck! As an able bodied adult I would be mortified to ask someone this...
I will say I've pee'd in buckets at festivals / camping the middle of the night when it's been raining and didn't want to leave the tent (probably grim to some) but to not walk down / up a flight of stairs in the some house... jesus.

How could you possibly give her a bucket? It should be a proper antique chamber pot. What sort of host would not provide a guzunda?

You wouldn't be welcome on our boat unless you pooh in a bag, or walk all the way up to the communal toilets. Illegal to discharge waste into the water. Anybody with IBS, or anything remotely similar might struggle! You lot are so funny, it's pooh and wee. What's the problem?

HollowTalk I am not a troll. I've been on MN for a long time with only one name change. Please report if you like.

I struggle with mobility, I would bring my own bucket and deal with it myself. You would never know about it, because, well, it is embarrassing. That is if I knew I would be sleeping on a different floor to the toilet. Did she know this in advance?

My friend actually gave up her bedroom so I could be on the same floor as the bathroom, as she knew I would struggle in the night otherwise.

Bloody

She’s able bodied but that doesn’t mean she doesn’t have continence issues.

Not sure if you’re thick or just unpleasant but either way, I feel sorry for your friend.

I'd find it very odd, but hey it probably doesn't do any harm - probably more to her pride than you. Get one from poundland, get her to empty it then bag it and bin it in the morning!

WTH?! That's disgusting! It'd be a definite 'no' from me.

My nan used to have a bucket to pee into in the night. But her loo was downstairs and she was worried DBro and I would fall down the stairs in the night I think.

She needs a Gazunder.
(an old fashioned chamber pot that goes under the bed.)
They used to be ubiquitous when people only had outside toilets so maybe a little less hysteria people!

Peebol is great for these situations. www.shewee.com/all-peebol-products

We don't have any bedrooms on the same floor as a loo, which she knew when she asked to stay. Ok I can see some people think I am being a bad host etc. So be it.

What the actual fuck 😳

Has she stayed with you before? It's such a personal request I can't believe it's just out of laziness. Incontinence can be extremely embarrassing. I'd try and be empathetic.

can you imagine the smell in this current heat?

zzzz I didn't say she had continence problems. She may have, of course. I have to get up to pee every night, at least once. I wouldn't ask for a bucket to pee in, in someone else's house, unless I physically couldn't manage to get to the loo. She can get to the loo.

She has stayed here before, once, quite a while ago. I remember because she asked if we had a thinner pillow.

"when we have two functioning loos in the house"

Have you put your friend in the attic extension, with no loos, Bridget?

If so, could you possibly re-arrange, and put her on one of the floors which has a loo?

If not, will you mind if she has to cancel her visit?

It would be truly awful for her (especially now knowing your reaction to urine in a bucket) if she accidentally wet your floor while trying to reach the loo in time, so possibly better all round if she doesn't come.

OP you say she has some health issues, so this could be a medical need, I feel really sorry for your friend. She’s opened up and asked for a bucket, which I’m guessing she may have found difficult.

It’s just urine, she’s not asking to shit in your drawers and wipe her arse on the curtains.

She may well have conditions that you’re not aware of and needs some help - bet she’d be devastated to find that instead of helping her, you’ve popped on MN to share your disgust with the internet.

Wow a thinner pillow case?

ADish as I said above, there are no bedrooms on the floors where the loos are. It is a nuisance, and we're considering getting one put in on the top floor.