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To allow DD (10) to watch Love Island

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Laceystace · 04/06/2018 20:39

So last year me and my older DC became addicted to the show love island. DH watches it from time to time however we felt our youngest DD ( 9 at the time) was too young to watch it. I personally believe that it's not really appropriate for any of my DC to be watching plus 2 are taking their GCSEs so I don't want any to be distracted. However I doubt it will stop them.

The problem is DH had promised that DD would be able to watch it this year. I knew it was a bad idea for him to promise this however DH thought DD would forget so I went along with it.

Now a year has passed and DD is getting prepared to watch the show. I feel really uncomfortable with the whole thing. The show isn't for children her age. 10 o'clock is too late for her to be staying awake watching trash on TV. I told her yesterday she wouldn't be able to watch it which led to a big tantrum which only clarified my feelings towards the situation. She was crying all last night about how I promised etc. I apologised to her, however she wasnt taking any of it. She felt it is unfair how it was only her that couldn't watch it in the family. I tried to persuade the older DC to maybe give this series a miss or watch it in their bedrooms as DD feels left out. They now feel its unfair to them and that they prefer watching it together as its the only show we all seem to like watching together. DH thinks I should let her watch the first episode as she most likely won't like the show and won't watch it again in the future. However I don't think it's about her liking the show it's about her feeling left out.

I really don't know how I'm going to deal with this it's starts in a few minutes, I'm thinking of maybe allowing DD to maybe watch a few minutes then put her to bed. I just think its a shame that the only show we are happy to watch is trash TV it's embarrassing. I think it would do the family good giving it a miss this year. I just don't want to come across as a 'party pooper'.

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starryeyed19 · 04/06/2018 20:39

Maybe just catch up with it later when the kids aren't around? And no one watch it now?

Sirzy · 04/06/2018 20:40

Why let her watch even a few minutes of it?

It’s inappropriate for her age so she will just have to be disappointed

MyOtherUsernameisaPun · 04/06/2018 20:40

Can you find an alternative family friendly show to all watch together? I agree it's not an appropriate show for her age.

Tissunnyupnorth · 04/06/2018 20:42

From what I saw when my 17 yr old DD was watching it recently, it’s totally unsuitable for a ten year old. I also have a 10 yr old DD and it just wouldn’t be happening.

BitchQueen90 · 04/06/2018 20:43

Not suitable for a 10 year old imo.

HighwayDragon1 · 04/06/2018 20:43

Over my dead body would I allow a 10yo to watch love island. I raise an eyebrow when the year 7s tell me they watch it!!

R2G · 04/06/2018 20:43

She's too young and it's too late to do every night. Explain that to her. Maybe let her stay up tonight snuggling on the sofa but with her iPad and headphones watching something else. I watch it but some of the content is definitely not for her age. Get the left out part.

deary · 04/06/2018 20:43

I'm getting nagged by my 13.5 yr old! Apparently everyone else is watching it. I've never seen it, is it horrifically inappropriate and why?

Eatsleepworkrepeat · 04/06/2018 20:43

Is it repeated during the day? Have a feeling it was last year. It would be heavily edited.

Bambamber · 04/06/2018 20:45

Completely inappropriate for her age. Why let her watch even a few minutes? You've watched it before so you know what it's about. I can't believe it was promised to her in the first place. If you want to make things fair, no one should watch it

Madbengalmum · 04/06/2018 20:46

Is it not on tv too late for her anyway? Let alone its inappropriate nature.

ReadytoTalk · 04/06/2018 20:47

So do you always have a problem saying no to your kid?

Laceystace · 04/06/2018 20:47

MyOtherUsernameisaPun

The only thing we can watch together is the Olympics. With every show there's a few who like it and few who don't.

With I'm a celeb it's the similar however DD hates insects so doesn't seem to care. Even with the world cup older Dds just don't like watching it.

Catchup isn't an option as my DC usually message their friends or go on social media when watching it.

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flashnazia · 04/06/2018 20:49

No wonder kids are having sex far too young.

Laceystace · 04/06/2018 20:50

Bambamber

I feel the same however the older DC and DH are against me on it. They would rather have DD watch the show then them miss the show live.

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kyrenialady · 04/06/2018 20:51

It's a bit rude for a 10 year old. I had to cover my 15 year old dd's eyes and ears last year during certain parts.

flashnazia · 04/06/2018 20:52

It's programmes like love island that make me wish Mary Whitehouse was still alive!

intuition · 04/06/2018 20:52

No. Just plain NO!!! It's not suitable for a 10 yr old unless you want her to think it's ok to use her body as a weapon to trap men for sex!! It's all about young attractive adults coupling up and shagging!!!

DaffodilsAreMyFav · 04/06/2018 20:54

My 12 year old DD is very keen to watch it and reports that ALL her friends watch it - not happening!

flashnazia · 04/06/2018 20:54

On your head be it. At that age kids have active imaginations. Do you really want to corrupt her brain with that trash?

CheeseCrackersAndWine · 04/06/2018 20:55

Wow, I'm a reasonably laid back parent in my opinion but I am shocked anyone would consider Love Island appropriate viewing for a 10 year old...

BlueTrousers · 04/06/2018 20:55

I don’t understand why the older DC & DH would miss it live because your 10 year old can’t watch, it’s on at 10pm, she should be in bed??

Metoodear · 04/06/2018 20:56

They were shaggging last year

It’s not good not a good model of relationships

Many parents complain endlessly about black rap music and how it objectifies women butthey just love that love island

It’s awful women pretty much getting their boobs out or making sexual advance to launch their career fake relationships Confused not for teeen viewing

Tracey beaker

DragonMamma · 04/06/2018 20:56

I have a DD of the same age and she asked me whether she could watch it this year too.

I am pretty lax about things but this was a no-brained, hell no response from me!

user139328237 · 04/06/2018 20:56

Not suitable for a 10 year old but absolutely totally suitable for GCSE age to relax after a day of revision