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To allow DD (10) to watch Love Island

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Laceystace · 04/06/2018 20:39

So last year me and my older DC became addicted to the show love island. DH watches it from time to time however we felt our youngest DD ( 9 at the time) was too young to watch it. I personally believe that it's not really appropriate for any of my DC to be watching plus 2 are taking their GCSEs so I don't want any to be distracted. However I doubt it will stop them.

The problem is DH had promised that DD would be able to watch it this year. I knew it was a bad idea for him to promise this however DH thought DD would forget so I went along with it.

Now a year has passed and DD is getting prepared to watch the show. I feel really uncomfortable with the whole thing. The show isn't for children her age. 10 o'clock is too late for her to be staying awake watching trash on TV. I told her yesterday she wouldn't be able to watch it which led to a big tantrum which only clarified my feelings towards the situation. She was crying all last night about how I promised etc. I apologised to her, however she wasnt taking any of it. She felt it is unfair how it was only her that couldn't watch it in the family. I tried to persuade the older DC to maybe give this series a miss or watch it in their bedrooms as DD feels left out. They now feel its unfair to them and that they prefer watching it together as its the only show we all seem to like watching together. DH thinks I should let her watch the first episode as she most likely won't like the show and won't watch it again in the future. However I don't think it's about her liking the show it's about her feeling left out.

I really don't know how I'm going to deal with this it's starts in a few minutes, I'm thinking of maybe allowing DD to maybe watch a few minutes then put her to bed. I just think its a shame that the only show we are happy to watch is trash TV it's embarrassing. I think it would do the family good giving it a miss this year. I just don't want to come across as a 'party pooper'.

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MrStarkIDontFeelSoGood · 04/06/2018 21:21

Absolute no nothing more to add except that your 10 year old, presumably Year 6 doesn't go to bed til 10pm?! That was my bedtime in Year 10!

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Laceystace · 04/06/2018 21:21

It's not as easy as going down stairs and turning it off. It's me against 6 people. That's what I'm scared of. With most things someone is on my side in the family however it's just me who feels this way in the house.

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TSSDNCOP · 04/06/2018 21:21

For the first time ever I have reported a thread. I simply cannot believe this is real.

If it is real go and stand next to the bloody telly OP you're behaviour is so wet you'll short out the set. Problem solved.

TatianaLarina · 04/06/2018 21:22

However I just don't want to cause a drama

Why not? Why does his anger make you uncomfortable? If you are not actually scared of him then you’re being lazy. And if you are scared of him you should get out.

Why would your DH would want to watch this with a 10 year old?

sweeneytoddsrazor · 04/06/2018 21:22

You could have said no last year when he promised her thinking she would forget. It is totally inappropriate for a 10 year old, but neither should the others have to miss it to make things fair. You should tell her she is not old enough and put her to bed.

JeezYouLoon · 04/06/2018 21:23

You're scared? Of what?

You are a grown woman FFS, in the nicest possible way get a grip!

pinkhorse · 04/06/2018 21:23

It's disgusting that a 10 year old is watching this!! Totally totally inappropriate

sweeneytoddsrazor · 04/06/2018 21:24

You don't need to turn it off ffs. You need to put your 10 year old in bed where she should be.

FASH84 · 04/06/2018 21:24

The other children don't get a say, it's not six against one it's you Vs DH and you know this isn't right for a ten year old. Go down and get her, leave the others to it. Right now they have women lined up in skimpy bikinis bring described as fit while they are selected by a man who knows nothing about them other than their physical appearance

Spotsandstars · 04/06/2018 21:25

I don't want to believe this is real either. I hope you're a troll because this is awful otherwise.

cardibach · 04/06/2018 21:25

You v six people, presumably 5 of whom are your children. One of whom is 10. Not getting the fear.

petrolpump28 · 04/06/2018 21:25

never seen it. Sounds hideous. Can't you watch a film together?

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Laceystace · 04/06/2018 21:26

I've already argued with DH about it he just won't listen to me, not even a middle ground it's just his way.

I'm think I will just go down and have a calm talk with him and tell him this is wrong and dd needs to to bed now.

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cardibach · 04/06/2018 21:26

sweeney and FASH have it. Do that OP.

gillybeanz · 04/06/2018 21:27

I think it's so false and you wouldn't do yourselves any favours watching it, let alone impressionable children.
Is there not something suitable you can watch together and then catch up with the dross later. Grin
We do this if we want to watch anything unsuitable.
Is it not on after the watershed anyway.

kiabella · 04/06/2018 21:28

In your daughters defence you explained that last year you and your other child became obsessed with the show and DH would occasionally join in. Maybe it’s not so much the show she is interested in but not feeling like she’s missing out on something the rest of her family enjoyed so muchc last year. Your older child has the option to watch in their bedroom if they want to watch it live. If you didn’t want her watching it boundaries should have been set a long time before the day of the show starting.

Rhiannon13 · 04/06/2018 21:34

You've 'already argued with DH about it'? There's no argument to be had is there? You seriously want to sow the seeds in a 10-year-old's brain that she is basically only worth her looks? Why would you even consider that? Get her into bed and read her a bedtime story ffs.

TatianaLarina · 04/06/2018 21:34

OP you just need to grow a pair.

In my house no 10 year old watches Love Island. I don’t have a DH stupid enough to allow it, but if I did, if I had to take the TV lead away and no-one watches it, I would.

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 04/06/2018 21:35

Good grief. Of all the thousands of programmes out there, this is the one which you pick for family viewing.

Just go down there, tell her it’s her bedtime, and do some parenting!

CurlyhairedAssassin · 04/06/2018 21:36

No way would I allow my 12 year old and 14 year old to watch this. These are their formative years, it’s fucked up for children to see these people on these programmes flaunting themselves for fame, in the guise of forming “real” sexual relationships. I do NOT want my children assuming that this is how young people behave when they are lookng for a partner. I do not want them thinking this is the norm, in the same way that I would not want them watching porn and thinking “that’s how you do sex”.

Irishgurl · 04/06/2018 21:36

My 11 year old came home from school today and said that some of the girls in her class were going to watch it. She was appalled that their parents could be, 'so lazy and stupid that they can't even say no to their own children'. Out of the mouths of babes, methinks. (And she is usually the first to push her boundaries, certainly no angel).

RomeoBunny · 04/06/2018 21:37

Jesus Christ NO. Why would you let a 10yr old watch and sort of vapid shite like that at all regardless of the extra big fucking NO of how they carry out their sexual relationships (& treat each other like shite).

MakeLemonade · 04/06/2018 21:38

Completely and utterly unreasonable to let your ten year old DD watch Love Island. You really need to grow a pair, stand up to your husband and be a parent.

You might not get to be the good guy but you’ll be doing the right thing.

londonista · 04/06/2018 21:38

Watching Love Island at 10... dear god.

What will she be watching at 12 I wonder??!

Snowysky20009 · 04/06/2018 21:40

Ds14 asked at 9pm- can I watch a programme in the living room as I'm snap chatting all my friends whilst watching it. I said as I had stuff to do anyway (packing for holiday).
Anyway sat down and mumsnet instead, then I came across this thread.
I just went in and asked 'are you watching Love Island?'. He said yes and all my friends are- they have 32 on a group Snapchat watching and taking about it!
I have never seen it- is it unsuitable for a 14 year old??