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To allow DD (10) to watch Love Island

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Laceystace · 04/06/2018 20:39

So last year me and my older DC became addicted to the show love island. DH watches it from time to time however we felt our youngest DD ( 9 at the time) was too young to watch it. I personally believe that it's not really appropriate for any of my DC to be watching plus 2 are taking their GCSEs so I don't want any to be distracted. However I doubt it will stop them.

The problem is DH had promised that DD would be able to watch it this year. I knew it was a bad idea for him to promise this however DH thought DD would forget so I went along with it.

Now a year has passed and DD is getting prepared to watch the show. I feel really uncomfortable with the whole thing. The show isn't for children her age. 10 o'clock is too late for her to be staying awake watching trash on TV. I told her yesterday she wouldn't be able to watch it which led to a big tantrum which only clarified my feelings towards the situation. She was crying all last night about how I promised etc. I apologised to her, however she wasnt taking any of it. She felt it is unfair how it was only her that couldn't watch it in the family. I tried to persuade the older DC to maybe give this series a miss or watch it in their bedrooms as DD feels left out. They now feel its unfair to them and that they prefer watching it together as its the only show we all seem to like watching together. DH thinks I should let her watch the first episode as she most likely won't like the show and won't watch it again in the future. However I don't think it's about her liking the show it's about her feeling left out.

I really don't know how I'm going to deal with this it's starts in a few minutes, I'm thinking of maybe allowing DD to maybe watch a few minutes then put her to bed. I just think its a shame that the only show we are happy to watch is trash TV it's embarrassing. I think it would do the family good giving it a miss this year. I just don't want to come across as a 'party pooper'.

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barleyfive · 04/06/2018 20:57

No, it was unfair to promise that she could watch it, but seriously it isn't appropriate at all!

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Laceystace · 04/06/2018 20:57

DH has allowed DD to watch the show as she treat for doing her SATs Confused. He's seemed ignored my views on the matter.

I'm going to give the series a miss I don't feel comfortable watching the show with my DD, it's too inappropriate for a child her age

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Metoodear · 04/06/2018 20:57

No wonder young girls think the only way to make it to the world is to flaunt their body or shag for fame
Awful
I suggest young musician of the year

TheOneWith · 04/06/2018 20:58

No decent parent would consider Love Island appropriate viewing for a 10 year old.

So do some actual parenting and tell her that no, she can’t watch it.

Simple.

I’m struggling to see the dilemma here.

Metoodear · 04/06/2018 20:58

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Not suitable for a 10 year old but absolutely totally suitable for GCSE age to relax after a day of revision
though I would try to distract with a video

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Laceystace · 04/06/2018 21:00

I really can't believe some parents (including my DH) are allowing Lindsay sun a young age to watch this crap!

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OuchLegoHurts · 04/06/2018 21:00

Are you totally out of your mind? You have to come on mumsnet to ask if your ten year old should be allowed to watch a programme like that? I give up.

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Laceystace · 04/06/2018 21:01

*are allowing kids at such a young age to watch this crap!

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BigFatGoalie · 04/06/2018 21:01

Oh my goodness.
Grown spine.
Say NO to your child.
It’s not bloody rocket science. Hmm

Mrsharper88 · 04/06/2018 21:02

Do they have a daytime showing that you could record? That way some of the ruder bits would be taken out? Or the Saturday night showing which is just one hour and has a whole weeks work condensed might have less rude bits in?

I personally don’t think it’s appropriate but it seems unfair when she’s been promised it. And better that she watches it with you than in secret xx

FASH84 · 04/06/2018 21:05

There is an edited next day trust which might be suitable for a 13.5 year old (you could watch it first to see) but not a 10 year old, the whole concept is so misogynistic it's terrible, I watch it but I'm aware the behaviour isn't suitable for real life.

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Laceystace · 04/06/2018 21:05

It's too late now. I don't want to talk about it with DH. Im too tired and it's always ends up turning to an argument with him. He always makes dumb decisions like this just to look like the 'nice' parent.

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sherazade · 04/06/2018 21:06

The serious problem here, is not your dd
It's not love island
It's not your older dc
It's not you as a family watching trashy tv and how that might appear to others
It's the fact that a man would promise his daughter that she could partake in the viewing of sexually explicit material .
I'd be having a serious conversation about this with him.

cloudtree · 04/06/2018 21:06

I really can't believe some parents (including my DH) are allowing kids a young age to watch this crap!

Hang on! You're allowing it. Its completely inappropriate and you know it but you're copping out of the decision by saying you won't watch it with her. It isn't you watching that is damaging!

Put your foot down. She can watch something else. Try Lost in Space on netflix. She isn't old enough so she doesn't get to do it. Whether she feels left out or not.

TheOneWith · 04/06/2018 21:06

I find it really creepy that your DH is watching this with a 10 year old girl Hmm

cloudtree · 04/06/2018 21:07

It's too late now. I don't want to talk about it with DH. Im too tired and it's always ends up turning to an argument with him. He always makes dumb decisions like this just to look like the 'nice' parent.

The impact on your child is more important. have the argument.

TheFairyCaravan · 04/06/2018 21:07

10 year olds shouldn’t know about Love Island let alone be bloody watching it.

Why isn’t she in bed? She could tell me all her classmates and the Queen and Prince Phillip were watching it but I’d still say no. Get a grip, ffs

ReservoirDogs · 04/06/2018 21:08

I think if your DH is allowing her to watch then actually you should watch too so you can discuss any isdues and explain why it is inappropriate and so you know what she is seeibg!

Rhiannon13 · 04/06/2018 21:09

Absolutely give it a miss. Of course a 10 year old shouldn't be watching it, partly because it isn't remotely suitable and partly because it's on too late. But you know that already.

TSSDNCOP · 04/06/2018 21:09

Lacey I think you've got bigger problems than the blindingly obvious one that this programme is absolutely not appropriate for a 10 yo.

Your DH is an irresponsible muppet with no regard for your feelings and who demonstrably makes appalling parenting decisions.

Your children have no regard for your authority.

You are unable to muster the ability to put your foot down about the sort of shite that is appropriate entertainment in your own home.

Your DD's school will likely take an interest if she starts discussing what she's watched with other children at school.

FASH84 · 04/06/2018 21:10

OP if you're backing down on this make sure you keep up a running commentary , highlighting every single bit of inappropriate behaviour/language/relationship modelling, your DH and DC might get sick of it and think it's worth waiting to watch it without the little one

AnyFucker · 04/06/2018 21:10

Are you frightened of your husband ?

That would be the only reason for your quite spectacular cave and lapse in judgment I can see

Do you have any say at all in your own house ?

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Laceystace · 04/06/2018 21:11

TheOneWith

I feel the same aswell how can you watch the show with a 10 year old. Part of me wants to walk down stairs and just pull the plug on the whole thing. However I just don't want to cause a drama.

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werideatdawn · 04/06/2018 21:12

Really inappropriate for a 10 year old and she should be in bed long before then anyway. You're the parents just say no and let her have a tantrum. Her siblings will have loads of things she can't do until she is older, will you give in on everything?

AnyFucker · 04/06/2018 21:13

Pulling the plug is the first sensible thing you have said so far