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To allow DD (10) to watch Love Island

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Laceystace · 04/06/2018 20:39

So last year me and my older DC became addicted to the show love island. DH watches it from time to time however we felt our youngest DD ( 9 at the time) was too young to watch it. I personally believe that it's not really appropriate for any of my DC to be watching plus 2 are taking their GCSEs so I don't want any to be distracted. However I doubt it will stop them.

The problem is DH had promised that DD would be able to watch it this year. I knew it was a bad idea for him to promise this however DH thought DD would forget so I went along with it.

Now a year has passed and DD is getting prepared to watch the show. I feel really uncomfortable with the whole thing. The show isn't for children her age. 10 o'clock is too late for her to be staying awake watching trash on TV. I told her yesterday she wouldn't be able to watch it which led to a big tantrum which only clarified my feelings towards the situation. She was crying all last night about how I promised etc. I apologised to her, however she wasnt taking any of it. She felt it is unfair how it was only her that couldn't watch it in the family. I tried to persuade the older DC to maybe give this series a miss or watch it in their bedrooms as DD feels left out. They now feel its unfair to them and that they prefer watching it together as its the only show we all seem to like watching together. DH thinks I should let her watch the first episode as she most likely won't like the show and won't watch it again in the future. However I don't think it's about her liking the show it's about her feeling left out.

I really don't know how I'm going to deal with this it's starts in a few minutes, I'm thinking of maybe allowing DD to maybe watch a few minutes then put her to bed. I just think its a shame that the only show we are happy to watch is trash TV it's embarrassing. I think it would do the family good giving it a miss this year. I just don't want to come across as a 'party pooper'.

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Rhiannon13 · 04/06/2018 21:13

Oh ffs cause the drama! This child needs an responsible adult in her life RIGHT NOW.

sherazade · 04/06/2018 21:13

What sort of drama ?
He is forcing you to let your let 10 y o girl watch raunchy tv .

cardibach · 04/06/2018 21:14

I work in a boarding school and we’ve just decided our Y9s aren’t allowed to watch - we’ve made another space available for them to socialise until their 9.30 bedtime. If our 13yr olds are going to bed half way through, the simple act of staying up until 10 is too much for your 10 yr old without the inappropriate content.
Don’t blame this on your DH. Take some responsibility.

Rhiannon13 · 04/06/2018 21:14

...a responsible adult (don't know how to edit).

Original poster
Laceystace · 04/06/2018 21:14

AnyFucker

Him getting angry gets me uncomfortable like most marriages. I'm not frightened of him just the environment it will cause in the house if we argue.

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VioletPickles · 04/06/2018 21:14

Crikey, no chance. My 12yr old asked and it's a flat, nope. She knew what the answer would be anyway... I'm very surprised your dh thinks it's appropriate? I imagine it might get a bit embarrassing. No need at all

TSSDNCOP · 04/06/2018 21:15

It's actually unbelievably creepy and wrong that father and 10 yo are watching this.

I'm beginning to think this cannot possibly be real.

Spotsandstars · 04/06/2018 21:15

You would rather not be bothered with the drama and don't want to look like the bad parent than actually protect your child's innocence?!!!!

What the hell???? Grow up, be a parent and say NO! No to your DH and no to all your kids.

This is beyond ridiculous.

NoFuckingRoomOnMyBroom · 04/06/2018 21:15

Really not viewing for a 10 year old. I do understand why she is unhappy with you though-why on earth did you go along with saying she could watch it this year knowing full well it would still be inappropriate?? No way would she forget-kids never forget, everyone knows this Hmm

GabsAlot · 04/06/2018 21:16

lacey stop saying you agree and go do something-youre her parent aswell

its inappropriate and hes a twat for allowing it

cloudtree · 04/06/2018 21:16

put a stop to it now OP. Its responsible parenting and it is worth the drama. its so unfair to your DD to expose her to that.

AnyFucker · 04/06/2018 21:16

Maybe you should give her a can of Stella to drink while she watches sexually explicit tv shows with her father. Seems appropriate.

There is a reason this crappy programme is shown a full hour past the watershed

cardibach · 04/06/2018 21:16

Lacey this is worrying I'm not frightened of him just the environment it will cause in the house if we argue.
This means you are afraid because of his reaction. This is not healthy.

cakegoblin · 04/06/2018 21:16

Ok so you need to explain to her that you are her parent, your DH made a mistake in promising it, you have a duty to look after her and she will understand when she's older. Adults make mistakes. Be honest. Maybe your DH (seeing as this is his mess) and you could take turns making a bit of a special film night of it in another room on the nights it's on - get popcorn and make it an event. There are loads of older films she'll be able to watch with you that she won't have seen and you could be the person who introduces her to Back to the Future /Star Wars/Naked Gun/Hot Shots or similar (too scared to suggest more as would be showing my age and random film taste but you get the picture).

As a bonus, any of your other DC who mention it in front of her during the day have to put cash in a jar which she can spend at the end of the series.

Agree that a grown man thinking it's ok to watch that shite with a 10 year old girl (or in fact his children full stop) makes my skin crawl.

TheOneWith · 04/06/2018 21:17

TSSSNCOP I’m with you on that.

If this is real it’s creepy as fuck, and astonishing that the OP would be so seemingly unwilling to do anything about it.

Rhiannon13 · 04/06/2018 21:17

I really can't believe you're trying to blame this on your husband!! As a parent one of your many responsibilities is to teach your daughter about healthy relationships. What the hell do you think she'll be learning if YOU let her watch this crap? And yes, in the absence of any other sane decision- maker, the responsibility lies with you. The poor child should be in bed.

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 04/06/2018 21:17

Well, if you can’t be bothered to make the tough parenting decisions, don’t come on here whinging about it and trying to pretend that it’s somehow not your fault. You’re not her friend, you’re her parent, and as such you should hopefully be instilling some values in her. Or, you know, letting her watch a programme which revolves entirely around poeple hooking up and shagging because “it’s too late” and you’re “too tired”. Boo hoo.

cloudtree · 04/06/2018 21:18

This is making me really sad.

I accept there are really bad parents out there who just don't care about what their kids are exposed to. But you know its wrong and will have an effect on her and are still letting it happen. In a way that's worse.

fairgame84 · 04/06/2018 21:18

I'm a safeguarding officer in a primary school. I would not be impressed with this at all. It's completely inappropriate and exposing children to sexualised content is abusive.

WilburIsSomePig · 04/06/2018 21:19

FFS of course you are. It's completely inappropriate.

I had a conversation with a bunch of 12/13 year olds today who 'all' watch it and I couldn't believe parents could be so fucking stupid.

Rhiannon13 · 04/06/2018 21:19

Also, why does it matter if your child has a tantrum? Are you scared of her too?

user139328237 · 04/06/2018 21:19

They've basically just asked a man to choose a girl to be his forced girlfriend

LighthouseSouth · 04/06/2018 21:19

You have to have this argument

Also your DH has some really weird ideas.

BlueTrousers · 04/06/2018 21:20

You just give up?
You don’t care what inappropriate, damaging things your 10 year old may see because you cba being a parent and saying no??
Are you for fucking real?! Hmm

Mummyoflittledragon · 04/06/2018 21:20

@flashnazia. Bring back Mary Whitehouse or rather resurrect her. Yes. I agree.

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