To think vegetarian dd is being unreasonable?

[Abergavenny]

A few weeks ago, Dd aged 14 declared that she is now a vegetarian. It’s a bit of a hassle, given that the rest of us (2 parents + 2 siblings) all eat meat, but I’m getting the hang of it i.e. doing quorn chicken for her while doing normal chicken for the rest of us.

Yesterday, however, she refused to eat what I’d made her - I’d done a tomato pasta bake with meatballs, and put veggie meatballs in at one end for her. But she refused to eat it because it had been cooked in the same dish as the meat.

AIBU to think she’s being unreasonably precious given that she ate meat for 13 and a bit years before this?

And is it unreasonable to refuse to cook her anything else, and tell her she either eats veggie options cooked in the same pan as meat or makes her own meal?

I think you are being unreasonable, most vegetarians started off as meat eaters and, if doing it for ethical reasons, do not want to eat food cooked in meat juices! May as well eat the actual meat.

But at 14 she is perfectly capable of cooking for herself!

YABU. Just cook it separately. I wouldn't eat my veggie stuff tgat had been cooked with meat either.

You cooked veggie food with meat?

Yabu.

Ask her to start cooking for herself. Then you'll see whether she's serious or if it's a fad.

No, YABU. it’s cross contamination, hers should be in a separate dish.

Even cafes have things like a meat fryer and a non meat fryer.

I don't know any veggies who would be happy with that I'm afraid. I certainly wouldn't and I'm not fussy. It wouldn't be any harder to just pop it in a separate pan surely? If you're prepared to cook for her anyway?

YABU

I'm a veggie and I would have eaten it if I was a guest in someone's home but not in my own house.

However I do think she is old enough to be more involved with food prep. Could you all eat her veggie meals sometimes?

YABU
And I say this as someone who has a family member who is quite possibly the laxest 'vegetarian' on the planet who would quite happily eat what you were describing.

You're being completely unreasonable. It'll have meat juices in it.

She’s right. Don’t cook her food in the same dish, unwashed, that you cook meat dishes in. Help her out OP, she seems like a great kid.

I'm a very unprecious veggie but wouldn't fancy eating that. You'd be able to taste the meat and the days would go into the rest of the food.

Saying that - I went veggie about the same age and have cooked for myself ever since.

I am vegetarian, if I came to your house for dinner would you seriously serve me this?

I certainly wouldn’t eat it, a restaurant would never serve this as they would get reported

you should have more respect for your daughters beliefs

YABU - I am veggie and would absolutely not have eaten that! You just need to do a small separate dish in the oven for her. I often do that as one of my DC hates Olives - so I do a big pasta bake with Olives and a small dish with exactly the same ingredients but no olives for her. The only difference is one extra dish to wash up.

I'm 35 and vegetarian and I wouldn't eat that either

YABU! That's disgusting. I turned veggie age 11 (decades ago!) and my parents never did anything like that.

Both my DDs turned vegetarian at 14 (and still are vegetarian 20 years later) but they cooked for themselves from then on.

Cooking veg meatballs in the same dish as meat and claiming they're still vegetarian is amusing. 😁

Wtf?! Of course you’re being unreasonable!!

YABU

It’s pretty normal for vegetarians to not want their food to have been cooked with meat.

Can’t you just do a small dish of the same thing but with veggie option instead of meat? So big pasta bake for you all and small separate dish of her veggie version? You can buy small dishes very cheaply and easily

Yabu.

I am veggie for ethical reasons, and in part because i just don’t like meat.

So a) there’s the principle. I don’t eat meat products. Veggie cooked in the same pan as meat will have meat juices etc. Then b), i can taste it, so I don’t like it anyway.

Any veggie friends i know won’t eat food cooked with the same utensils, same pan etc.

Yabu

If she’s having a veggie equivalent of what you’re having, it’s not difficult to put hers in a separate pan. No veggie would eat anything cooked with meat, yabu.

If you really want to punish her choices with extra work, give her the job of the dishes but do respect the fact that she doesn’t want to eat meat and keep her stuff separate.

Yabu, you could have just put some sauce in a different dish and cooked hers separately. If she’s veggie you are being unfair.