To be furious at bf’s brother and bf

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My Boyfriends brother asked my BF to borrow him £25 yesterday and seen this morning on Facebook that he went to the cinema last night on a going nowhere date. Wtf? Why ask to borrow money and then go somewhere expensive like the cinema? I suggested posting something sarcastic about it on his Facebook and bf had a proper go at me. I am now sat in the garden to get away from him shouting and trying to enjoy the sunshine but it hasn’t reached the garden yet.

AIBU to think If you ask to borrow money from someone you don’t then just waste the money on things you don’t need? I assumed his brother was in a desperate situation when he asked. I am furious not that he borrowed his brother money but that brother then went out and watched a film at the cinema needlessly hoping for a shag I asked bf when he expected to get the money back and he said He doesn’t know. I think he is an absolute pushover and an easy target for his brother to keep asking him all the time. I would have told him no and to fuck off!

Not pushing it further but that is 25 pound that he probably won’t get back now. After a nice day yesterday watching the RW it has since been ruined by this mornings antics. Have posted about him before and was told BU last time but brother is a SCFS (super cheeky fucker scrounger). Should I raise the point of ensuring the money is paid back or just drop it even though I’m fuming about it?

Drop it. It's not your money so it's none of your business.

Isn't it up to your bf? Unless he was told it was needed for food or to pay a bill he is free to spend as he chose. You sound quite controlling.

Sounds quite reasonable to me, he asked to borrow some money from his brother. His brother was happy to lend it. He was spending it on something that doesn’t harm anyone, and it wasn’t your money that he borrowed.

It was only 25 quid. Get over it. No wonder he's 'had a proper go' at you.

Your boyfriend can do what he wants with his own money. If he wants to give every penny to his brother than that’s nobodies business but his.

Haven't we had a very similar thread before...?

OP YABU.

You're sulking in the garden over £25.00. Come on.

If you don’t have kids or joint finances then butt out. You sound extremely controlling - he has lent his brother money (nothing to do with you anyway) - there were no conditions attached to this money.
Man lends money off brother to go on a date... big deal. Lighten up. You seem tight, that’s not a good quality to have.

YABU
His money, not yours

I remember you posting similar previously.

You came across as nasty, petty and spiteful.

Plus ça change

Your bf lent the money. Brother borrowed.
And none of your business.

Sorry but you are being unreasonable. It wasn’t you that leant the money and you can’t lend money and specify what it is spent on. It’s not your money and if your bf couldn’t afford to lend the money that is different but it doesn’t sound like that is the case here. Maybe your bf new what the money was for?

Your boyfriend can do what he wants with his own money. Unless it's actually your shared finances he's giving away? Not clear from your post but "boyfriend" suggests you're not living together.

Do you mean your boyfriend lent his brother £25, not borrowed? I'm confused.

If yes, then yes you are being ridiculous. Its annoying sure but it's nothing to do with you.

I suggest you go and apologise to him.

What an utterly buzzard thread.

Do you have children? Do you live together and pool finances? Does your bf owe you money?

If not it's none of your business.

*bizzare

I hope your bf realises how controlling you are before he commits to you.

Unless it's left you unable to feed yourself then YABU.

It’s none of your business and you actually sound quite controlling!
It’s up to your boyfriend who he lends money to and once it’s lent you have no say in what it’s spent on, why would you? It’s not your money, also why shit stir on FB? That’s pretty childish and pathetic along with sulking in the garden

You've massively over reacted

He went to the cinema, not the Ritz

And it's not your money to decide, nor your relationship with your sibling

Unless the £25 going to his brother means your children will go without food this week, you owe your bf an apology

You sound very het up over £25, it's not even your own money but your BFs.

Let it go!

YABU.

Fine. Being unreasonable. Ok. Won’t nring it up again.

Have you never made plans and then when the time comes you have no money for it? What could he do? Yeah, OK, maybe he could've cancelled, but maybe he really likes this girl and didn't feel like he could. It's £25, not really a life changing amount is it. Calm down and enjoy the sunshine, it's not worth falling out with your bf over.

I imagine his brother asked to borrow the money so that he could afford to go on the date? And your bf was happy to lend it to home, otherwise he would have said no? In which case, I can’t see an issue.
Your day was ruined over £25 that your BF was happy to lend?

After a nice day yesterday watching the RW it has since been ruined by this mornings antics.

Ruined by your antics. Whether your bf lends his brother money, what the brother does with it and when it gets paid back is absolutely nothing to do with you.