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To be furious at bf’s brother and bf

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Ihavenamechangedforthis33 · 20/05/2018 07:59

My Boyfriends brother asked my BF to borrow him £25 yesterday and seen this morning on Facebook that he went to the cinema last night on a going nowhere date. Wtf? Why ask to borrow money and then go somewhere expensive like the cinema? I suggested posting something sarcastic about it on his Facebook and bf had a proper go at me. I am now sat in the garden to get away from him shouting and trying to enjoy the sunshine but it hasn’t reached the garden yet.

AIBU to think If you ask to borrow money from someone you don’t then just waste the money on things you don’t need? I assumed his brother was in a desperate situation when he asked. I am furious not that he borrowed his brother money but that brother then went out and watched a film at the cinema needlessly hoping for a shag I asked bf when he expected to get the money back and he said He doesn’t know. I think he is an absolute pushover and an easy target for his brother to keep asking him all the time. I would have told him no and to fuck off!

Not pushing it further but that is 25 pound that he probably won’t get back now. After a nice day yesterday watching the RW it has since been ruined by this mornings antics. Have posted about him before and was told BU last time but brother is a SCFS (super cheeky fucker scrounger). Should I raise the point of ensuring the money is paid back or just drop it even though I’m fuming about it?

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Ski4130 · 20/05/2018 08:11

It's not your money, it's not your brother, you need to stop moaning about it. You sound a bit weird about it to be honest, get a grip.

ILoveMyDressingGown · 20/05/2018 08:12

You are being very unreasonable!
Unless you have children or the money came from a joint bank account, what your boyfriend does with his own money is nothing to do with you.

wonderings · 20/05/2018 08:14

If my partner went on like this over me lending money to MY sibling I would seriously question why I was with them.
YABU OP grow up.

ClaryFray · 20/05/2018 08:14

YABU it's his money, his brother, his choice.

Maybe you don't have the same values with money, that's the issue.

LifeBeginsAtGin · 20/05/2018 08:15

Lend, not borrow.

YouAreNotImportant · 20/05/2018 08:16

You've posted about his brother before haven't you? Always about him borrowing money and days being 'ruined'. He's not ruining anything, it's your constant bitching about things that aren't any of your business that does it.

Ohmydayslove · 20/05/2018 08:16

Have you apologised to him op? You should.

HaudYerWheeshtBawbag · 20/05/2018 08:16

Are you always this controlling? What your BF or doesn’t do with his money is none of your business also he can treat his brother just for the simple reason he’s his brother and doesn’t have to explain his actions to you.

ConciseandNice · 20/05/2018 08:17

You’re being a mean control freak. His money, none of your business.

MyOtherProfile · 20/05/2018 08:17

Fine. Being unreasonable. Ok. Won’t nring it up again.
In your shoes I'd bring it up one more time just to apologise to your bf.

DarklyDreamingDexter · 20/05/2018 08:17

What has it got to do with you? Presumably your boyfriend can afford the £25? Back off and stop trying to be controlling.

EdmundCleverClogs · 20/05/2018 08:18

Oh for goodness sake, you again. It’s still none of your business what your boyfriend does with his money.

FarFlungFairy · 20/05/2018 08:19

Be a grown up and go and apologise for being a dick.

VladmirsPoutine · 20/05/2018 08:19

You've posted before haven't you. Last time it was about his brother calling him in the morning and you took the phone off your boyfriend and cut off their conversation. I can't believe he hasn't dumped you since that. Tell him to run for the hills!

FuckPants · 20/05/2018 08:19

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HonkyWonkWoman · 20/05/2018 08:20

Yes! I read your previous thread on this same subject.
And yes! YABU

Andromeida59 · 20/05/2018 08:22

OP. YANBU. Not your money. Not your business. You do rather seem to enjoy creating drama.

My DP recently gave a mutual friend quite a bit of money as he was in (the friend), financial difficulty. My DP told me after the fact and I was touched at how lovely a gesture it was. My DP could easily afford it and it didn't have any effect on him paying bills etc. So there was no need for there to be an issue.

notsohippychick · 20/05/2018 08:24

Your day was ruined by your BF lending his brother £25?

Bit of perspective OP!!!

TheBogWitchIsBack · 20/05/2018 08:26

Ffs LOL wise up op.

Fatted · 20/05/2018 08:26

I'm reading this thinking to myself where you can go to the cinema buy tickets, drinks and popcorn for £25?!

Seriously, it's BF money, he obviously knew what it was for and was happy to lend it to him. So leave him alone. If it was a grand for a holiday, it would be a different story.

TheBogWitchIsBack · 20/05/2018 08:28

Is this the op who snatched the phone off his bf while he was talking to his brother?
I can't advance search.

Abouttoblow · 20/05/2018 08:29

Did it occur to you that your BF's brother probably borrowed the money to go to the cinema?
I think that's more likely than borrowing it and then randomly deciding to use it for that reason.

FuckPants · 20/05/2018 08:30

Is this the op who snatched the phone off his bf while he was talking to his brother?
I can't advance search.

Yes it is.

FlatTopVera · 20/05/2018 08:39
Biscuit
Ihavenamechangedforthis33 · 20/05/2018 08:50

Is this the op who snatched the phone off his bf while he was talking to his brother?
I can't advance search.

Yes it is.

You didn’t know that but yes it is and I know I was in the wrong then now and seemingly wrong about this and misjudged it too. I don’t think I’m explaining the situation properly for people to not realise he’s being taken advantage of

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