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DH took the baby (3 months old) to give me two hours break. I'm exhausted because he sleeps about 6 hours at night and only has a couple of 20 minute naps during the day, and it's full-on exhausting trying to entertain him for 18 hours a day. I figured I'd have two hours sleep while DH wore him out, and then when I got him back he'd be tired, and DH would finally understand how exhausting it is looking after him.

He went to sleep
So now I've got him back and not only is he wide awake, DH has absolutely no idea how hard it is looking after him. And I've wasted my chance of having him looked after on a period when he was asleep and didn't need looking after anyway. I could have just had him myself, he'd have been asleep and DH could have had him on a different two hours when he actually needs looking after.

I have literally cried my eyes out. I know it isn't DH's fault that the baby went to sleep. But I was desperate for him to understand how ill and exhausted I feel, and he doesn't. And I was desperate for the baby to be sleepy when I got him back, but instead he's full of beans. Now DH thinks he's had "his turn" at babysitting and I won't get those two hours back.

By music videos do you mean baby sensory ones? If not give these a go! They mean I can shower/eat breakfast with 2 hands/pee in peace.

You will get through this, it is so much harder than I think we anticipate but it will change quickly. My 4 month old is a different baby to when she was 3 months.

I'd also ask again if you've seen anyone about possibly having PND?

My little boy was like this, got really upset if you weren't paying him attention. Not that he needed entertainment, but he needed you there with him. He didn't nap unless I was pushing him or driving him. Not a good sleeper. It was exhausting. Some babies are like that. He's now a great toddler, naps in his cot, and plays by himself for extended periods of time. It just came with time. Try and just keep to simple meals, minimal housework, and get Dh to help out more when he's home. Things will improve, it's a short (relatively) phase of life, that will pass. Any time Dh can give you a lie in, nap or break of any sort, just take it. And ask for it. But go easy on yourself x

OP, I know how hard it is and I'm sorry you are at the end of your tether, but let me tell you something, your baby crying whilst you're in the room isn't going to harm him. He has to learn that Mummy isn't a court jester, Mummy loves him very much but sometimes she needs a cup of tea whilst he sits in his bouncy chair or lies on a playmat looking at different colours/animals. I'm not saying leave him to scream and turn blue in frustration but start with five minutes and build it up, 6, 7, 8 minutes etc always pick him up, tell him you love him but Mummy's very very tired. You could also see a cranial oestopath specialising in children who may help with the sleep issue. Your husband needs to step up too, his current efforts are not good for you, your marriage or your baby - so you need to tell him (as a matter of urgency) that he needs to help you more. Good luck.