Is it stingy to host a bbq and not provide alcohol?

[Tobythecat]

I will provide all the food and side dishes etc and soft drinks, but aibu to not provide alcohol? I don't drink and one of my friends is a heavy drinker and will probably guzzle the lot, plus booze is so expensive as some only drink wine.

I’d supply a small amount only and ask people to bring some along. You

I think it's OK, given you don't drink. If your friend wants to drink a lot, they'll have to bring their own.

No I think that's fine. I would provide soft drinks and just let people bring their own alcohol. Afterall everyone likes something different and it could cost you a fortune!

Not if you are up front about it. If they know all food and soft drinks will be provided but BYOB if you want wine or beer then i think that would be fine.

You need to let everyone know so they can bring some.

Oops random word there.

I think it’s fine as long as you make it clear they need to bring their own.

I would think that's fine, as long as you let them know in advance if they wanted to bring their own

I’d maybe provide a small amount, but let people know it’s BYOB.

I’d make a big bowl of punch, it doesn’t have to have much alcohol in.

Not stingy at all. I would always bring along what I’d like to drink. Just let people know that you are providing all food and just to bring what they want to drink

A bit. With my friends it standard to bring something to drink to each others bbqs but the host would usually have some beers and bottle of spirits around

Buy two bottles of cheap wine.

Tell everyone that it's BYOB

It’s traditional to bring your own booze to a BBQ. Just ask them to bring their own.

Given that you don’t drink it will hardly be a surprise to them.

Yes it is stingy - very
So what if your friend 'guzzles' the lot, that's what it's there for (nice way to talk about your friend BTW). I hosted a bbq yesterday and every last bottle of beer got drunk along with a couple of bottles of gin but everyone had a lovely time. I'd have been mortified if people had turned up and I had nothing to offer them to drink.

It depends really on who's invited. If it's just a few very close friends who you go out with frequently and who know you don't drink, then don't supply it. If you've invited lots of people you barely know, buy some booze.

Naaaaah, BBQs are always BBBQs - the extra B stands for BYOBB.

That extra B was a typo.

Yanbu. I definitely wouldn’t expect a non-drinker to provide alcohol at a barbecue. If there’s a “guzzler”, ask them to bring their own. I

YANBU. If I was going to barbeque where the host was providing the food, I'd expect to bring booze / soft drinks etc myself.

We do a BBQ every year for DS birthday. We provide all food and a selection of soft drinks. There will be a few bits and bobs of alcohol around because it's what we have in anyway. On the invitation we say bring a bottle/crate. We usually end up with loads left. We do also provide massive buckets of iced water to put the drinks in so they are cold.

Are you quite mad? You get to decide what you will and won't be providing...others get to decide if they will come or not.

Of course you don't have to provide alcohol if you don't want to.

YADNBU

Perfectly fine. It's the norm within my social circles.

Booze is expensive. I don't think many people would expect a mate to fund a whole afternoon's drinking for a large group for an informal gathering.

If you really don’t drink then I think it’s fair enough that everyone brings their own, just make sure you let them know. If you’re like my friend who “doesn’t really drink” so expects everyone to bring their own alcohol to hers but then drinks like a fish at other people’s mine then YABU

You need to have at least a bottle of white and some beer chilling

In my circle it is always a given that you bring alcohol to barbecues/dinner parties/gin tastings or any sort of social gathering. One of my friends doesn't drink and I wouldn't expect her to provide any alcohol.