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Softzilla returns..... to soft play

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Unreasonableunreasonableness · 24/04/2018 19:57

Probably will be a boring thread as i mainly intend to continue just ignoring and refusing to be drawn in to any games but...

Guess where I went today? And who I bumped into there? (I really need to find another place to hang out with people! )
Well she was there when I turned up with party mum. We greeted her with a surprised slightly awkward 'oh... hi!' which she returned, but then sat at a different table.
Later in the afternoon when I'd got home she called and i picked up without thinking. She said she wanted to chat and make it so that we could start going to our usual group again - she seemed to be under the impression that I was no longer going. And asked if she could come over right then. I said no sorry as it was time for dinner/ bath/ bed etc for my dc. I also told her that I was still attending the group and that she didn't need to worry about attending, I joked that it's big enough for both of us..... and she put the phone down. I wondered if it was a mistake but she never called back if it was and I don't want to call her.

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Raindancer411 · 28/05/2018 21:35

Have I missed something?

IDearlyLoveALaugh · 28/05/2018 21:36

No, don't go. The kids can play together at preschool. Don't give mixed signals.

Unreasonableunreasonableness · 28/05/2018 21:47

Ok. So I'll message back 'I think under the circumstances it's not a good idea. The kids will see each other at preschool.' Too blunt?

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IDearlyLoveALaugh · 28/05/2018 21:49

I think that sounds great. You could combo it in with the police advice and add "given your recent behaviour towards me, regretfully I feel our friendship has ended. I will be civil to you when we meet at shared events. Do not contact me again, best wishes, OP"

Dobby1sAFreeElf · 28/05/2018 21:53

idearlys message is good.

aaaaargghhhhelpme · 28/05/2018 21:55

Idearly message is good. It’s polite but you’ve also got that all important don’t contact me again in there

She either thinks she can bluff her way as though nothings happened or in the words of admiral ackbar - it’s a trap

whatamistake · 28/05/2018 22:00

What an oddball

YouTheCat · 28/05/2018 22:06

Message is too polite. Say 'No, we will not be attending and I want no further contact with you'.

GabsAlot · 28/05/2018 22:11

no shes using the kids now to guilt trip you i wouldn even respond

Goldmandra · 28/05/2018 22:14

"I will not be accepting any invitations from you. Please do not contact me again."

IDearlyLoveALaugh · 28/05/2018 22:14

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ShadyLady53 · 28/05/2018 22:17

@IDearkyLoveALaugh

Yep...I’m literally flicking between the two threads waiting for the shit to hit the fan 😳

Lizzie48 · 28/05/2018 22:17

I would ignore the message personally, better not to engage in any way.

Unreasonableunreasonableness · 28/05/2018 22:19

Pretty sure the other thread isn't about me.... I only have the one dc....

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Spotsandstars · 28/05/2018 22:19

Yup way too much of a coincidence!!!

IDearlyLoveALaugh · 28/05/2018 22:19

Me too @ShadyLady53 !

If it is softzilla on the other thread then that is actually a bit freaky.

@Unreasonableunreasonableness have you had a chance to read it?!

ShadyLady53 · 28/05/2018 22:20

It’s kind of weird that people have asked OP of the other thread if she is Softzilla and I have already asked OP of this thread if the other one could be Softzilla and neither have made any reply/reference...isn’t it? 🤨

Spotsandstars · 28/05/2018 22:21

Ah x post....although that could've been a red herring...

ShadyLady53 · 28/05/2018 22:21

I take it back op!

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ReanimatedSGB · 28/05/2018 22:22

Agree with PP: send a text saying 'We will not be attending, do not contact me again.'

gambaspilpilmyfav · 28/05/2018 22:22

ShadyLady53 just spotted your post asking the same thing...my internet is slow tonight!

ShadyLady53 · 28/05/2018 22:25

No worries Gambas!

Anyone else imagining that Softzilla would have the inability to use any form of punctuation?

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