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Softzilla returns..... to soft play

999 replies

Unreasonableunreasonableness · 24/04/2018 19:57

Probably will be a boring thread as i mainly intend to continue just ignoring and refusing to be drawn in to any games but...

Guess where I went today? And who I bumped into there? (I really need to find another place to hang out with people! )
Well she was there when I turned up with party mum. We greeted her with a surprised slightly awkward 'oh... hi!' which she returned, but then sat at a different table.
Later in the afternoon when I'd got home she called and i picked up without thinking. She said she wanted to chat and make it so that we could start going to our usual group again - she seemed to be under the impression that I was no longer going. And asked if she could come over right then. I said no sorry as it was time for dinner/ bath/ bed etc for my dc. I also told her that I was still attending the group and that she didn't need to worry about attending, I joked that it's big enough for both of us..... and she put the phone down. I wondered if it was a mistake but she never called back if it was and I don't want to call her.

OP posts:
YoThePussy · 31/05/2018 10:11

OP just saying the same as others, do not contact this woman under any circumstances. She souns seriously scary, makes me feel quite sick for you.

I wouldn’t blame you if you didn’t want to start another thread but if you do I wil be following and hoping for a good resolution very soon for you.

PotteryLady · 31/05/2018 10:11

She just can't get the message!!!

DarlingNikita · 31/05/2018 10:12

she must have messaged while they are literally sat in her house.

LOON

Flisspaps · 31/05/2018 10:12

FFS my WiFi is being an arse and I see things have moved on somewhat Grin

MiddleClassProblem · 31/05/2018 10:15

@Unreasonableunreasonableness this thread is nearly full now 😬

HettySunshine · 31/05/2018 10:16

Holy guacamole she really needs help! I hope you're not on your own today op.

TorviBrightspear · 31/05/2018 10:19

I haven't commented so far, but, wow, she's seriously list the plot. OP, hope the police can calm her down. Xx

WinkysTeatowel · 31/05/2018 10:19

OMG! We need a new thread. She is bonkers

TaighNamGastaOrt · 31/05/2018 10:32

Followed your last threads with mouth agog. But this is creepy, I don't blame you for calling the police.
Hope you're ok OP and police can reassure you

GlitteryFluff · 31/05/2018 10:46

Hope she listens to the police - after she gets bollocked for messaging you again of course!

BlueEyedBengal · 31/05/2018 11:04

Hope she gets the message and goes n c 🤞

bubbleroad · 31/05/2018 11:10

I was beginning to wonder how it all got to this but re-read original thread and it really has been surreal from the start. Hope you are OK OP and that there can be a low key conclusion.

MadMags · 31/05/2018 11:12

The police didn’t ask you to make a statement before going to see her?

kissthealderman · 31/05/2018 11:21

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ReanimatedSGB · 31/05/2018 11:22

Well, if she behaves like a twat in front of the police, she's just building a stronger case against herself.

Aprilshouldhavebeenmyname · 31/05/2018 11:22

Here's hoping she likes prison food!!

mothertruck3r · 31/05/2018 11:23

She's got balls of steel to have the cheek to message you whilst the police are there.

TitZillas · 31/05/2018 11:28

Wow what a very strange woman. I hope she leaves you alone but I suspect she won’t.

Pancakeflipper · 31/05/2018 11:29

I don't think you should be posting now police are involved.
I know - ruins it for those wanting to hear next installment.
Perhaps report back once all dealt with and resolved?

Maelstrop · 31/05/2018 11:34

Highly unlikely the police would allow her to use her phone when face to face with her, I know it’s not allowed when they go to speak to people.

TheMaddHugger · 31/05/2018 11:38

@Maelstrop I assumed when SZ saw the police turn into her driveway. She freaked and texted OP, before the police even knocked on the door

Flexoset · 31/05/2018 11:48

Well if she saw the police outside and immediately assumed that they'd been called by OP, then she must be aware that her behaviour towards OP has been unwelcome and abnormal harassment. If the police showed up outside my house, I'd panic in case something had happened to one of my family. Or I'd think there'd been an incident in my area and they were asking if anyone had seen anything. Or warning people about local scams or burglaries. I certainly wouldn't think "well I've been contacting my friend in a totally normal way so she must have sent the police round".

Or maybe she excused herself to go to the loo and texted from there?

Hortonlovesahoo · 31/05/2018 11:49

I’m starting to agree with a post from a few pages ago. She’s not crazy, she honestly thinks she’s done nothing wrong and doesn’t see it as harassment. I hope the police visit has the Desired response.

I wonder if she’ll be at the meet up tomorrow?

TheLionRoars1110 · 31/05/2018 11:59

I'm very sorry OP this must be really distressing for you. I hope your chat with the police is reassuring and you never hear from SZ again.
I suspect she has some MH problems that are quite sever. Is it worth asking the police to check if she's being seen by MH services so that the MH services are notified? i don't know if that works...
Please do tell nursery/school/playgroup leader/friends. It's gone beyond trying to be accepting now. You need to protect yourself if she's threatening to come and 'see you'.

Leeds2 · 31/05/2018 12:10

I hope you get some reassurance after the police have been round to update you.
Would echo telling nursery that your DC is only to be collected by you, and not by anyone purporting to be your friend.