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Lying about being stabbed?

179 replies

DextroDependant · 06/04/2018 23:24

I had a holiday booked with my partner to leave next week but we broke up.

I think he thought I would calm down and change my mind but things came to a head this afternoon when I confirmed I wouldn't be going away with him.

He was being a nuisance outside my house so I had to call the police, he left when he realised I was calling them.

A few hours later he text me that he had been chased by a lad with a knife but was going back to that area to get to his mum's.

45mins after that his mum text me that he had been stabbed and beaten with a bar.

His sister was texting me updates.

Less than 2 hours later he had apparently been to the hospital, been seen and been discharged. Told to come back tomorrow for head x rays and told that the stab wound may have damaged his liver.

This info is coming via his mum and sister.

AIBU to think that it is a load of bollocks and no way would he have been seen and dealt with that fast. Surely he would have been kept in for observation at least?

AIBU unreasonable to limit my response to - well at least he can get a crime reference and claim for the holiday on the insurance as he won't be able to travel after being stabbed.

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Pecano · 06/04/2018 23:30

Are his mum and sister likely to lie to you on his behalf, or do you think he’s lying to them too? Seems like a lot of effort to go to, and very easily proved as fake when he doesn’t have a stab wound to show off, surely!

Your reply seems fine to me though and is exactly the sort of thing I’d send! Possibly with a generic “oh dear, how terrible!” so you don’t sound completely heartless if it turns out to be true though! Grin

IADBUithink · 06/04/2018 23:32

What the... stay well clear of him. I had an old “friend”’who lied about being stabbed... he also stalked me and my other female friend and watched me going to the toilet through a window (which he needed to climb up very high to get to!). This man is a nutter and his family are obviously the same. If you ere stabbed you’d still be in hospital and if it damaged his liver he’d be having an operation, surely?!?

TERFragetteCity · 06/04/2018 23:33

'Thanks for the info'.

Every time.

Gemini69 · 06/04/2018 23:34

full flooded sympathy efforts from his 'family' ... desperately trying to get you to take him back and on holiday....

he sounds like manipulative creep .. I'm not buy this atall...

ScreamingValenta · 06/04/2018 23:36

I would just express polite sympathy, as you would to any acquaintance who'd suffered an injury. Avoid getting dragged into it by questioning its veracity - that will just give him more opportunities to create drama. He would probably relish the opportunity to scream to all and sundry that you're heartless, so don't give him that satisfaction.

lattewith3shotsplease · 06/04/2018 23:38

OP,
Doesn't ring true at all......you've had a lucky escape.

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DextroDependant · 06/04/2018 23:40

The mum and sister thing is what has thrown me.

I can well believe he has hit himself in the face to convince his mum but surely no one would stab themself?

I can't believe they would lie though. Unless they believe him. God knows.

He has form for lying... He once said his cousin had been killed in a bit and run, he said he got chased by a car full of men with a gun, and most recently that his dog had died. All on days we have row.....

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AtSea1979 · 06/04/2018 23:41

It’s quite possible he’s been seen and discharged. He was probably prioritised on arrival, assessed as clean wound, stitched or butterflied and sent on his way.
Surely that’s much more likely than 3 people lying?

Homemenu1 · 06/04/2018 23:42

Be polite and show minimal concern, then block them all on everything in a few weeks

DoctorWhatTheFuck · 06/04/2018 23:43

He may be using their phones to text as if they are messaging OP.

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DextroDependant · 06/04/2018 23:43

@Atsea but then told to come back the next day for head x ray and to asses liver damage? Plus the whole thing from attack to travel to hospital (Not in an ambulance) being seen and back home again in 2 hours?

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kazillionaire · 06/04/2018 23:46

If there was any potential damage to his liver he would have been kept in and given scans, and he would also have had scans on his head. He is lying, there is no way on this planet he would be in and out in two hours, it would take a heck of a lot longer than that. Strange bloke.

HappyLollipop · 06/04/2018 23:49

There's no way that a hospital would discharge you that quickly after you've been stabbed and beaten up you would need tons of tests done and police would be called as they would want to investigate an attempted murder surely.

Weezol · 06/04/2018 23:49

On a Friday night? They sent him home with suspected liver damage? And no x ray or neuro consult after a head injury?
No chance. His family might believe him but I don't.

Block the lot of them and get on with your life.

TERFragetteCity · 06/04/2018 23:51

Why are you even wasting time on this.Block, delete, get on with your life. Pack for your holiday. Enjoy. Forget about this knobber.

LeighaJ · 06/04/2018 23:52

DextroDependant

"He has form for lying... He once said his cousin had been killed in a bit and run, he said he got chased by a car full of men with a gun, and most recently that his dog had died. All on days we have row....."

Can definitely see why you would think this was a lie too. Also would they really discharge someone 2 hours later if they thought he had liver damage?

My sister managed to con my Mom into believing her last medical lie of many, that she had cancer in 2 organs. Turned out she didn't in any organs but the stupid cow still had the nerve to say to me "After I recovered from cancer..." in one of our conversations I couldn't escape politely. How does one recover from cancer they never had in the first place? Hmm

Idrinkandiknowstuff · 06/04/2018 23:53

My ex has been run over by a bus, given three months to live, no less than four times to my knowledge. Been stabbed by a random stranger, had “the mafia” threaten to kill him, been diagnosed with various cancers (five separate times at least) been kidnapped, and gassed, and been attacked and beaten up by randomers.

Feck me, My ex is a medical miracle!

IAmNotAWitch · 06/04/2018 23:53

Does it matter even if true? He has his mum and sister for support, not your problem.

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DextroDependant · 06/04/2018 23:55

I am glad that the consensus is that he is lying. I thought I am going mad here and being a heartless bitch.

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DextroDependant · 06/04/2018 23:56

It seems he is nottje only deluded peraon out there. Why do these people think they can get away with such outrageous tales!!

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viques · 06/04/2018 23:58

Op I think your text would be perfect. Helpful, positive and clearly not giving a fuck.

SmileyBird · 06/04/2018 23:59

God what a twat. Have you replied at all?

CircleSquareCircleSquare · 07/04/2018 00:00

Unless he is a self discharge (and that takes time in itself, because you need to talk to a doctor - try finding one available - and sign forms) I find the time line hard to follow.

ddrmum · 07/04/2018 00:00

Because they guilt you into feeling sorry for them even if you don't believe them. Run and don't look back xxx

Bluesmartiesarebest · 07/04/2018 00:02

'I'm sorry to hear about your injury and hope you feel better soon. I still intend to go on holiday alone as our relationship is over. Good luck for the future'