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Original poster

Lying about being stabbed?

179 replies

DextroDependant · 06/04/2018 23:24

I had a holiday booked with my partner to leave next week but we broke up.

I think he thought I would calm down and change my mind but things came to a head this afternoon when I confirmed I wouldn't be going away with him.

He was being a nuisance outside my house so I had to call the police, he left when he realised I was calling them.

A few hours later he text me that he had been chased by a lad with a knife but was going back to that area to get to his mum's.

45mins after that his mum text me that he had been stabbed and beaten with a bar.

His sister was texting me updates.

Less than 2 hours later he had apparently been to the hospital, been seen and been discharged. Told to come back tomorrow for head x rays and told that the stab wound may have damaged his liver.

This info is coming via his mum and sister.

AIBU to think that it is a load of bollocks and no way would he have been seen and dealt with that fast. Surely he would have been kept in for observation at least?

AIBU unreasonable to limit my response to - well at least he can get a crime reference and claim for the holiday on the insurance as he won't be able to travel after being stabbed.

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caffeinefreebutsadaboutit · 07/04/2018 05:34

He probably cut himself with his own knife then called the police and reported it, hence the record number. He sounds unhinged.

LoveProsecco · 07/04/2018 05:41

As other have said I would block him and his family from contacting you

steff13 · 07/04/2018 05:49

I don't believe it. Come back tomorrow for head x-rays?! Really?!

Certcert · 07/04/2018 07:25

Maybe the 'stabbing' part is true-ish, and he added the extras on for effect?! 🙄

TERFragetteCity · 07/04/2018 08:01

Maybe the 'stabbing' part is true-ish, and he added the extras on for effect?!

No - it is a well used technique that abusers use when their prey looks as if they have seen the light. It is manipulative to try and draw them back in.

LightDrizzle · 07/04/2018 08:23

I’m definitely an A&E doctor and it’s standard practice to leave 24 hours for deep stab wounds to scab over before x-ray to assess suspected damage to internal organs, it’s like leaving fractures to “settle a bit” at home and that.

He’s really not the brightest is he? So glad you’re no longer with with this sad sack. I’ve got an ex I’m embarrassed to have ever been with, I married the twat which is even worse, so no judgement here.

Blocking him is the only way.

tishhope · 07/04/2018 08:34

Be vigilant, OP, many years ago I had a lying twat of an ex and he turned nasty when he realised that his lies about being ill weren't working.

divegirl77 · 07/04/2018 08:36

As an A&E Dr in a previous life I call bullshit.

twer · 07/04/2018 08:40

Surely there would be a huge flaw in his master plan that when you go on holiday he would be scar free?!

Regardless of if he's lying or not I echo PPs. You don't have to take him back. Enjoy your holiday on your own, can you change the name of second traveler to a friend for a fee? Or contact company and cancel him. Concerned he might turn up at the airport anyway

Hoppinggreen · 07/04/2018 08:42

Even if it’s true in any way it’s not actually your problems is it?

Flockoftreegulls · 07/04/2018 08:44

It doesn't matter if it is true or not true.
You aren't together anymore, for very good reasons (he's a prick) and so it doesn't concern you anymore.
Don't fall for it. Enjoy your holiday

LIZS · 07/04/2018 08:51

Block him and enjoy your holiday. Don't get sucked into his drama, even if it were true he will be exploiting it to get you back.

WellThisIsShit · 07/04/2018 08:54

Oh dear, it’s such a shame you fell on a knife and had brain surgery last night that cut out all your memories and feeling for this man. Very dramatic. Very unexpected. Very irreversible :)

Now... don’t you be going off and building any new pathways about him in that brain of yours! No more headspace on him... in a very almost literal sense :)

insancerre · 07/04/2018 08:57

You are well shot of him
What a bellend

cindersrella · 07/04/2018 09:00

They all sound like loonies! A stabbing and potential liver damage! I am almost positive he would be in hospital!

SavoyCabbage · 07/04/2018 09:05

Even if he has been stabbed it makes no difference to the fact you aren’t together any more. Make sure they understand you aren't involving yourself with him any more with some banal reply EG ‘hope his recovery goes well’ then that’s it.

WineAndTiramisu · 07/04/2018 09:07

As an ED doctor, this is definitely rubbish. If he had a stab wound in the liver area he would have a CT scan, and any facial x-rays would have been done at the time.

Sometimes people come back the next day for other specialty opinions (if he had a facial fracture or similar), but not too assess liver damage.

And the 2 hour thing is pretty unbelievable as well!

Original poster
DextroDependant · 07/04/2018 11:33

Well I woke up this morning to him coming in my bedroom. One of the kids had opened the window for the cat (we usually always keep it open so they were just doing what I would normally expect) so he had climbed in the window!!

He was acting like it's perfectly normal for him to be there, he brought some cake for my youngest who is due back from his dad's today as he likes to have a welcome home cake!!

Two great big dogs I have in this house and they didn't even bark once. What is the point. They bark every time my neighbour goes into his own front garden but not when someone is climbing in my window.

He has no facial injuries and the stab wounds.... Well I have had worse scratches from the cat. Also in a place and direction that looks to me like he has done them himself. I told him straight that I don't believe him.

I can't believe he just climbed through my fucking window like it's normal behavior! He said well I text you several times and you didn't reply. Well yea cos I have your number blocked.

He finally left when I said I was going to call the police again. He said he will come back tomorrow when I have had chance to calm down.

What the actual fuck. I am gobsmacked.

OP posts:
insancerre · 07/04/2018 11:38

Do ring the police and let them know this has happened
That's really not normal behaviour

Original poster
DextroDependant · 07/04/2018 11:44

I couldn't believe how blaze he was. Like he climbs in Windows everyday. I was so shocked I didn't even know how to react at first like I had stepped into the twilight zone or something.

I brought bob a welcome home cake.

Alrighty then!!

*Bob is not My child's real name.

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Original poster
DextroDependant · 07/04/2018 11:45

*Blase (my phone doesn't do accents) he wasn't ablaze

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GabsAlot · 07/04/2018 11:46

please call the police hes harrassing you now

Dodie66 · 07/04/2018 11:47

You can put a lock in the window so that it can only be opened a small amount. See here on Amazon. It allows the window to be opened 10 centimetres which would be enough for the cat to get out butnobody could get in www.amazon.co.uk/Max6mum-Security-Window-Restrictor-Safety/dp/B00JAITNRE/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=open+window+lock&tag=mumsnetforum-21&ie=UTF8&qid=1523097944&sr=8-1

ReanimatedSGB · 07/04/2018 11:49

Report him to the police: I don't know how quickly this can be sorted but you need a court order in place as quickly as possible. This man is extremely dangerous and you need to be able to have him arrested if he comes within 50 feet of your home. You must have a cool head and excellent diplomatic skills to be able to get him out without actual violence, but the next time he comes back, there is an extremely strong risk he will attempt to assault you.

OnTheRise · 07/04/2018 11:49

Blase (my phone doesn't do accents) he wasn't ablaze

At least that's something that's not wrong with him!

Tell the police he climbed in your window. He's not safe to be around.

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