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Lying about being stabbed?

179 replies

DextroDependant · 06/04/2018 23:24

I had a holiday booked with my partner to leave next week but we broke up.

I think he thought I would calm down and change my mind but things came to a head this afternoon when I confirmed I wouldn't be going away with him.

He was being a nuisance outside my house so I had to call the police, he left when he realised I was calling them.

A few hours later he text me that he had been chased by a lad with a knife but was going back to that area to get to his mum's.

45mins after that his mum text me that he had been stabbed and beaten with a bar.

His sister was texting me updates.

Less than 2 hours later he had apparently been to the hospital, been seen and been discharged. Told to come back tomorrow for head x rays and told that the stab wound may have damaged his liver.

This info is coming via his mum and sister.

AIBU to think that it is a load of bollocks and no way would he have been seen and dealt with that fast. Surely he would have been kept in for observation at least?

AIBU unreasonable to limit my response to - well at least he can get a crime reference and claim for the holiday on the insurance as he won't be able to travel after being stabbed.

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FrancisCrawford · 07/04/2018 00:02

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DextroDependant · 07/04/2018 00:03

I replied as above and he said that the nurse said he is fine to go as the wound would have scabbed over by then but he has to get the all clear from the doctor after his head x ray tomorrow.

I told him I don't believe a word of It and he has given me the crime ref and told me to ask his dad who supposedly took him to the hospital.

I have stopped replying to him now. I wonder how it makes any difference, stabbed or not I don't want him on this holiday.

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OrangePeels · 07/04/2018 00:07

A crime reference is made up of the area, a number code and the year eg: a/1234/2018 is this code like this? Sheffield is k/1234/2028 for example.

Weezol · 07/04/2018 00:07

Block. Just block. He's playing a game with you. Stop enabling this.

Enjoy your holiday Smile

OrangePeels · 07/04/2018 00:08

K/1243/2018 I mean of course

DextroDependant · 07/04/2018 00:13

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leghoul · 07/04/2018 00:14

If it was a teeeny teeny tiny stab maybe, but then the liver comment makes no sense at all. True, false, or partially fudged, just don't engage.

AjasLipstick · 07/04/2018 00:15

I had a boyfriend who told me he'd crashed his motorbike the night I split with him....he rang me repeatedly to tell me about it.

He hadn't....he'd thrown himself off it whilst it was going slowly....his neighbour saw and told me.

GabsAlot · 07/04/2018 00:19

even if it is true you dont hav to take someone back because they got stabbed

not to be harsh but true

DiegoMadonna · 07/04/2018 00:22

As has been said, it doesn't matter if it's true or not, does it? Even if he has been stabbed, that's terrible, and it's good that he's okay, but you've broken up with him so it's not really anything to do with you any more. I would just completely ignore all the messages. Hopefully him and his family will soon get bored of sending them if they never get any response.

Poptart4 · 07/04/2018 00:25

Frankly I wouldn't care if it is true. He's a pathological liar and to be honest op I think you should be very careful with this guy. Report all and any abusive or stalkerish behaviour to the police and get a restraining order if you have to. If he's prepared to go to these lengths to get you back he's capable of anything.

Stop all contact now with him and his whole family. Delete and block. Your well rid of this guy

RainbowGlitterFairy · 07/04/2018 00:25

2 hours to get to hospital, be seen in A&E and discharged on a Friday night? that doesn't sound all that likely. Plus he's saying potential liver damage and a head injury requiring an x-ray, either he's completely lying or hes exaggerating, no way would a nurse be telling him its ok to leave with injuries like that.

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DextroDependant · 07/04/2018 00:27

Thanks everyone, I am doing a last she k of the locks and then going to bed.

Some bizarre people in the world!

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Onlyoldontheoutside · 07/04/2018 00:27

Phone A&E,say that you have been told that your boyfriend had come in after being stabbed and with a head injury.Ask if he has been admitted.They will tell you if he has been effective band discharged or they won't be able to find his name.

ReanimatedSGB · 07/04/2018 00:38

Hahahahaha what a knob. I remember your previous thread - aren't you glad you binned him?

But I agree with PP that you might have to think about a non-mol order if it keeps up. Just block and ignore for the meantime, though. He's not your problem.

HanutaQueen · 07/04/2018 01:22

Utter bullshit, getting to hospital, assessment (including scans because our eyes are not x ray and one cannot usually see livers through abdomens), treatment and discharge in 2 hours?

Chinny reckon.

PurpleSea · 07/04/2018 01:32

Slightly off topic but am I the only one that just doesn't get compulsive liars? Are they really that stupid that they think people are actually believing them? It's a sure-fire way to get people to not want to be with you! Plus, I imagine their lies are so easy to detect if you are in an actual relationship with them and can check with their friends and family.

OP, you're well off out of there.

DeathStare · 07/04/2018 01:38

I think you need to stop giving him headspace. Even if he has been stabbed (and he hasn't - he's lying) then it doesn't change your valid reasons for not being with him or for not wanting to go on holiday with him. If he has been stabbed and does have possible liver and head damage (and he doesn't -he's lying) then he is clearly surrounded by people who can look after him. It isn't your responsibility to look after him or to continue giving polite responses to his family. Block the lot of them and don't give this anymore headspace.

GeekyWombat · 07/04/2018 01:48

He has form for lying... He once said his cousin had been killed in a bit and run, he said he got chased by a car full of men with a gun, and most recently that his dog had died. All on days we have row.....

He is clearly the unluckiest man in the world!

Honestly though, even if all these traumas had befallen him, you don’t have to be in a relationship and you don’t have to go on holiday with him. Just try not to engage and let him see you’re moving on.

Good luck OP, it sounds like you’ve had a lucky escape!

RavenclawRealist · 07/04/2018 02:02

Doesn't sound true to me! Can't see why if he needed a head x-ray they wouldn't do it at the time? Unless he went to a minor injuries unit with a 9-5 X-ray department. The 'stab' wound if it was superficial it's possible they would give advice based on the worse case scenario but if they have let him go they aren't worried!

Either way dose it matter? He has family that are their to support him. You have broken up it's not your problem. Being wounded in a fight isn't a reason to take someone back. So really it doesn't matter!

Don't reply to anyone it's no longer your problem! Let them get on with it and you get on with your new life! Free if the drama!

TheFrendo · 07/04/2018 02:10

He is an ex. Keep it that way, block his number and do not respond at all.

PyongyangKipperbang · 07/04/2018 03:31

A stab wound that could have caused liver damage will have "scabbed over"?! :o

tiggersneverdie · 07/04/2018 04:09

If you have broken up with him though, it is irrelevant as to whether he telling the truth or not?

tiggersneverdie · 07/04/2018 04:11

Sorry if the above sounded insensitive. Even if you have broken up with him, it must still feel horrible to be lied to. What I was trying to say is that it has no bearing on your holiday plans.

tiggersneverdie · 07/04/2018 04:12

OP, at worst he is lying, at best he sounds very needy and afraid of abandonment. Which is sad for him, but consider you have had a lucky escape because dating needy men can be a nightmare.