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Lying about being stabbed?

179 replies

DextroDependant · 06/04/2018 23:24

I had a holiday booked with my partner to leave next week but we broke up.

I think he thought I would calm down and change my mind but things came to a head this afternoon when I confirmed I wouldn't be going away with him.

He was being a nuisance outside my house so I had to call the police, he left when he realised I was calling them.

A few hours later he text me that he had been chased by a lad with a knife but was going back to that area to get to his mum's.

45mins after that his mum text me that he had been stabbed and beaten with a bar.

His sister was texting me updates.

Less than 2 hours later he had apparently been to the hospital, been seen and been discharged. Told to come back tomorrow for head x rays and told that the stab wound may have damaged his liver.

This info is coming via his mum and sister.

AIBU to think that it is a load of bollocks and no way would he have been seen and dealt with that fast. Surely he would have been kept in for observation at least?

AIBU unreasonable to limit my response to - well at least he can get a crime reference and claim for the holiday on the insurance as he won't be able to travel after being stabbed.

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GreenTulips · 07/04/2018 13:35

Post it today for the furthest away passport office (try Glasgow) It won't get here til Monday and you can genuinely say you don't have it and mushy have gave it him back

Besides you've blocked him and he said he's not going!! So he wouldn't be need to look for it anyway

BettyBaggins · 07/04/2018 13:35

2nd class stamp is a great idea

Gemini69 · 07/04/2018 13:39

He just climbed into your house via a Child's bedroom window.. of course he's going to appear on the Holiday he's paid for.....

nothing will stop him accessing your space...

if this is truly over.. you need to Report this Entry to you private property fast... even to start the chain of evidence to help you be taken seriously in the near future when he won't leave you be...

OnTheRise · 07/04/2018 13:42

Bin the cake for sure.

Report his climbing in to the police, and remind them about the non-mol order you had. They'll understand why you got back with him: it's not uncommon.

As for the passport, I'd hand it into the police station the morning you go on holiday. Say he is going on holiday and will need it, but you can't risk seeing him in person to give it to him. And then text him after you've done it, so he knows where it is. You can't withold it from him, but you can tell him where he can collect it from, and if you do it on the day you're meant to be leaving he won't be able to complain that you kept it from him.

BarbraDear · 07/04/2018 13:42

Absolutely post the passport to his Mum's house. On Monday afternoon, after last post.

If he goes on that holiday you will have wasted your money as he will be stalker version 2.0, the one where you feel even less safe because you are in a different country (I presume) where the police might not be as helpful.

insancerre · 07/04/2018 13:43

Just a thought, but was he trying to look for his passport when he broke in?
He might have thought you were out?

Mummyoflittledragon · 07/04/2018 13:44

I love the idea of posting the passport off second class to Glasgow! Please go to the police and keep yourself safe.

QuackPorridgeBacon · 07/04/2018 13:46

I wouldn’t get the police to give it to him in time for the holiday that is stupid and the op will not be safe. He knows where she is by manipulating the situation and her staying in origional hotel. I’d either post it on Monday so that he misses the holiday or just ignore it and him and don’t let on you know where it is. Or, because I don’t know how you would get caught. Chuck it in a public bin then you really don’t have it and won’t have to worry about him turning up on the holiday. Obviously if someone else can point out if anything I have said is impractical and could cause the op trouble, then please say and then ignore me lol

QuackPorridgeBacon · 07/04/2018 13:47

Oh and bin the cake. I just couldn’t trust someone not to have tampered with it when they are as crazy as he is.

GreenTulips · 07/04/2018 13:48

He might have thought you were out?

Yes because we all leave windows open when we go out

And generally when I go to someone's house (I don't know about you) but I would ring the doorbell and wait for an answer - and then finding no ones home would you know, leave.

I have never once attempted to climb into someone's house who I thought wasn't at home

Bluesmartiesarebest · 07/04/2018 13:53

You need to change all the locks before you go on holiday.

Mia184 · 07/04/2018 13:57

Send the passport to his parents and maybe you‘ll experience what I did when I sent my father who is in Germany and an avid postcrosser a postcard when I was in London. The card went from London first to the Phillipines and then to Germany. My father got the card after three months! Grin

Lying about being stabbed?
skippykips · 07/04/2018 13:59

Go police, actually to the station. Explain everything and then hand passport in and say he is booked to go away with you however you are not sure that you will be safe. They may withhold the passport? Is that stupid? Im thinking if he is charged with harassment they might not allow him to go. I may be clutching at straws though

frieda909 · 07/04/2018 14:00

Of course you should go to the police! Please, do it ASAP.

We are talking about an unstable ex with a history of harassment etc. climbing in through your window while you have children in the house. If that isn’t worth going to the police then I don’t know what is!

And that’s before you even get into all the business with him very likely having stabbed himself to get your attention Shock

Bugjune · 07/04/2018 14:01

His name isn't David P@lmer is it?

insancerre · 07/04/2018 14:02

Greentulips

People leave windows and doors open all the time, its how people get robbed

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DextroDependant · 07/04/2018 14:03

He knew we were in, he just didn't see a problem with climbing in the window. He didn't want to knock and wake everyone up. He said it like it is normal behaviour.

I will ask 101 their advice on the passport issue when I ring them back.

He hasn't mentioned it when he has turned up but he must know I have it.

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insancerre · 07/04/2018 14:05

I wouldn't ask them about the passport
They will probably say to return it to him, which you don't want to do.
Just sit on it.

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DextroDependant · 07/04/2018 14:05

@Bugjune nope not the same guy so clearly many nutters out there.

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Redglitter · 07/04/2018 14:08

Don't send it to the passport office. Give it to the Police. They won't return it to him. They'll either destroy it or return it to a Passport office. Sending it on to a Passport office will be way down their list of priorities.

Jenna43 · 07/04/2018 14:10

Keep his pasport, he'll ruin your holiday if he goes.

Is this the same man you posted about who was taking photos of some man who he mistakenly thought was your ex at the school?

diddl · 07/04/2018 14:11

Sounds to me as if going on the holiday is risky!

If he might finally think that you are serious then surely he just asks to come & collect his passport & tickets & he's at the same place!

Bugjune · 07/04/2018 14:12

Having gone through something very similar, I urge you to report every incident to the police. If you don't things will continue to escalate and it'll be even harder to shake him off. Nip this in the bud now.

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DextroDependant · 07/04/2018 14:12

That's him Jenna43. We split up after that but he assured me he understood and wouldn't come on the holiday. Then this weekend has thought he could sweet talk me into still going with him.

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SuitedandBooted · 07/04/2018 14:15

He may have realised you had the Passports (including his) as soon as you said you weren't going on holiday, and sorted out getting another one straightaway. He is manipulative, and odd, but may well be quick-thinking enough to have done it.

www.gov.uk/get-a-passport-urgently

I would change hotels/resorts if possible