Going to a wedding whilst off sick with morning sickness...

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Originally posted on the pregnancy board but know that AIBU tends to get some pretty honest answers so posting here also.

Due to go to a very close friend's wedding tomorrow. I'm currently off work with sickness and nausea. The sickness is a lot better since I was put on medication a few days ago however the nausea is still quite awful.

I know I'll have to sit out the ceremony if I wake up and am having a bad day, which is fine. I also know that at the reception if I have to run off and be sick I can do.

My issue is, I'm off work currently until at least the end of this week. Is it acceptable for me to attend a wedding reception and not be at work? I have two nights booked in a hotel which I cannot refund, have bought my dress and shoes, and feel like 3 hours at a wedding reception to show my face is a lot easier than an 8 hour day at work with a 3 hour round commute. My hotel room will be upstairs and I can nip up to sleep whenever I fancy.

Thoughts? Last thing I want is to be in trouble with the boss and am genuinely considering pulling out, however would much rather see my friend get married of course.

Honest opinions please

Is anyone on your Facebook who you work with? Because you could go by all means, but you need to watch out for being tagged in photos on that date, with you at a wedding. I'm sure someone would love to dob you in at work and wouldn't hesitate on showing your Manager a photo as proof.
You need to tread carefully.

Sorry ignore my previous comment, cross post before I read your update!

Go and enjoy it. Anyone that’s had morning or all Day sickness knows how bad it can be, and also how it comes in waves. A wedding is something that you can’t attend every week, it’s a special occasion. It’s all booked also, and you can’t get a refund. Stuff work, if you’re not well, you’ve said you’ll have to miss bits, or go upstairs and lie down. Ginger biscuits, peppermint tea, and sea bands from the chemist 👍 enjoy your day x

READ THE THREAD PEOPLE! It was all sorted on Weds and the wedding has been and gone.

I've been signed off sick for things that prevented me from doing my job, yet didn't leave me incapacitated. Managing at work versus managing at a social event are two different things. If asked, say that you went but you kept going off to be sick. You couldn't do that in a job so it's not an issue. Make sure you take a spare outfit or four, wear t shirt for the journey and allow extra time!

Depends if its worth possibly getting sacked. Your friend will understand if she's a true friend. Simple x

ONE MORE TRY

ALL SORTED: PERMISSION GIVEN ON WEDNESDAY: WEDDING NOW OVER: OP HAD A PLEASANT TIME: NO MORE TO BE SAID

I think it looks like you’re taking the piss out of your work tbh. If you’re too ill for work you’re too ill for a wedding, and your boss will definitely see it like that. Plus will you really enjoy it if you’re feeling so poorly? You might make yourself feel worse.

Bangs head off metaphorical wall

STILL BANGING, ALONGSIDE MINISWIN!

Bangs head off real wall

...whilst pulling teeth out

I think you've massively taken the piss, whether work were "ok" with it or not. If you were well enough to go to the wedding you're well enough to work. I also can't bear women who get signed off with morning sickness. It's not like you've got an illness- you chose to get pregnant, so you should suck it up and work through it like an adult.

@Strangers3018 I do hope you don't manage staff.

I also can't bear women who get signed off with morning sickness. It's not like you've got an illness

I hope the next woman with HG you meet vomits on you.

Strangers that is discriminatory. Of course morning sickness in some women can be severe enough to require an absence from work.

Judging from @Strangers3018 other contributions today she's a GF.

Of course. But if it's severe enough to require absence from work it's also severe enough to require absence from social events. Anything else is just taking the piss, surely.

I think this thread is going to run forever - the perfect demonstration of just how many knobends there are on MN who can’t be arsed RTFT.

I also can't bear women who get signed off with morning sickness. It's not like you've got an illness- you chose to get pregnant, so you should suck it up and work through it like an adult.

And the winner of the Dick Of The Day award goes to.....

I was signed off with HG, still managed to get out and about. True, I mainly went to places like my mum's house or my friend's house but I didn't sit in my house all day. I did go away for the weekend though, once I was medicated for the HG but still signed off. I spent most of it sleeping (HG meds made me drowsy) or sitting in an armchair in the bar feeling grey and grim, but I was away. No way was I well enough to be at work though and I'd have happily vomited on anyone who claimed I was taking the piss.

It's well easy to get a doctor to sign you from for morning sickness, didn't you know? And I just love having someone sat next to me in the office who keeps legging it off to throw up, comes back pale and sweating/smelling faintly of vomit. They're so productive.

I was 'allowed' to go on a holiday while suffering from work related stress. People have to be sensible about it.

I am shocked at some of the responses on here. If someone is signed off by a Dr or Midwife, then that's it, they are signed off. A person should not be going back to work duri ng the period of certificates sickness as they have been deemed unfit. For those posters including managers, the type of job has to be considered rather than a generalised 'if you socialise then you are fit for work' attitude. Why are some people so quick to be harsh and unpleasant to others? Op. Hope you had a wonderful time and feel better soon.