DH won't let me have croupy 3yo in our bed

[jamoncrumpets]

3yo has a croupy cough, which he gets from time to time. He usually has a bad attack, I give him a few hits of an inhaler, and it gradually tails off over time. I usually keep him in bed with me overnight to monitor.

Tonight he's started with a croupy cough and DH immediately said 'right, not again, he's staying in his bed' and took DS out of our bed, where he was calming down watching YouTube videos on my phone, and into his own room where I can hear him coughing and wheezing. He told me I was being hysterical to let DS stay with me and that it was 'all about my health anxiety'. He's currently in DS's room with him.

I want DS in with me. I want to keep an eye on him. But DH keeps shutting me down. I don't know how to stand up to him over this.

Sorry, hit send too soon.

AIBU to just go and get DS and put him in bed with me and tell DH to go fuck himself?

Christ no yanbu. What a dick!!!

Get DS, he is the important one.

Fuck your DH. Get your DS in bed. Hope he's feeling better soon x

I don't have kids in bed with me sick or not so tbh I'd be more on your dh side.

YANBU. Tell him to fuck off and bring your poorly 3 year old into you where you can comfort and keep an eye on him.

If you’re DH is with your son, I don’t get the issue? He’s not alone and poorly? He’s got a parent with him. We try to keep DC in their beds, even if one of us goes with them.

Move yourself into your son”s room,

I don't know how I'll sleep if he's not right next to me. Maybe I am overreacting but I'm pregnant and v worried!

YABU. Get into your DS's bed if you have to be with him.

Maybe get him a double bed so you can monitor there. I put all my kids into doubles, they come in handy.

For tonight though bring him in with you and tell your bloke to go in tbe bairns bed.

I'd sleep on DS's floor but I'm pregnant in my third trimester and it's not really possible

Yanbu. Poorly child trumps stroppy husband in this instance.

Go and get him, I sometimes have my 11 year old dd in with me when she is really poorly,

Your DH is an arse.

He has a cot bed. I'm huge. I can't get in with him.

If you want to get into bed with your DS go into his room.

If you want him with you go and get him. My 3 year old sleeps with me every night, poorly or not. No way would I have her in a different room if she was coughing like that.

Can you not sleep with your little one in his little bed or on the floor even?
Your DH is being horrible. My first husband was like that... went on and on about my 'health anxiety'. So we divorced and I married a GP second time 'round.

Seriously, if DH won't allow him in the bed, at least go and be with DS. Your DH will fight you if you go to DS, but it's worth the battle.

Go and get your son. You have just as much of a say as your husband.
Put 'd' h on the couch if he is worried about his disrupted sleep.
Group can be very serious if you are not aware of your child breathing etc.

Sit on a chair beside his cot.

Seeing his chest sucked in absolutely terrifies me. I just want him close.

Watching stuff on a phone won't help him sleep. ..
And with number 3 on the way keeping ds in this own bed should be high on your priority list - as much for his sake.

My kids don’t sleep in my bed but my youngest suffers bad croup at times so when he gets it he sleeps with me or I sleep in his room. I have had to take him to A&E at 4am as he could barely breathe. As someone who is not a fan of co-sleeping at all normally I totally agree you on this one.

I don't think it's a great idea to have sick children in the same bed as you. He'll be perfectly fine in his own room. I agree with your DH.

I wouldn't have DS in with me for anything other than this.