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To think that £150 is a lot to spend on a handbag?

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NooNooHead · 31/03/2018 21:32

I’m really wanting to treat myself to a Michael Kors bag on ebay or in the sale, but I’m currently 28 weeks pregnant with DC2 but am out of work and being very kindly funded by my DP (despite trying to look for work for about 5 months unsuccessfully...)

My DP are usually very kind and generous and offer to buy me something v nice, up to the value of £100. Not wanting to be frivolous, I’ve seen a Michael Kors handbag that I really like on Brandalley.co.uk that I’d like which is £185 - it is a lot more than the birthday budget, but I would try and fund the rest from selling things on ebay and having some money from other family members towards it too.

My DP didn’t think much of my idea about the handbag, and would rather I didn’t spend my birthday money on something that they don’t think is a worthwhile present. I’m very grateful for everything they do and give me, and I don’t want to look a gift horse in the mouth if they are offering money towards a different present, but AMA bit disappointed that I can’t buy what I really want for my birthday.

I’m probably going to come across as ungrateful or spoilt saying all this, and this is the last thing I want to be. Please tell me to get a grip on and be more grateful for being offered such a generous present, and think rationally about what would be a useful gift for my birthday. AIBU in feeling a bit unsure about how I should react and what I should buy now?

OP posts:
Bluntness100 · 31/03/2018 22:00

And is dp parents in this? You're pregnant, unemployed, they are paying for you and gave you a birthday budget of 100pounds so you asked for a gift Worth 185?

LovingLola · 31/03/2018 22:00

That's a lot for a MK bag isn't it? I thought they were usually well under £100?

No. MK bags are not well under £100

Didiusfalco · 31/03/2018 22:01

I don't think it's so much a problem with the price of the bag, more with the part that you are out of work and having a baby.

Plus I think it makes a different if you are referring to your partner or your parents - if it is your parents I think you have a responsibility not to sell things to fund a bag, but to use the money from sold items towards living costs etc. (not birthday money though - you should still have a present

totallywicked · 31/03/2018 22:01

I have 3 handbags that cost between 900-1200 I use them every single day, actual cost per wear is pennies and I adore my bags. My LV neverfull has been through thick and thin, changing bags for both my children and 6 years down the line, hasn't got any major wear and tear on it.

Do it, treat yourself. Life's too short

Bluntness100 · 31/03/2018 22:02

Get the bag!

With what? Even more of her parents money??.

Coco134 · 31/03/2018 22:02

That's a lot for a MK bag isn't it? I thought they were usually well under £100?

Confused don’t know were you have been shopping but iv never seen a MK bag for under a £100! They are defo more then a £100. Even there purses are over £100Hmm

Coco134 · 31/03/2018 22:04

I would try and fund the rest from selling things on ebay and having some money from other family members towards it too

No with money she finds herself.

frasier · 31/03/2018 22:04

How about a compromise and buy a pre-loved on on ebay within the budget?

Coco134 · 31/03/2018 22:05

The above comment was aimed at bluntness.

frasier · 31/03/2018 22:05

I keep reading "Milton Keynes bag" in my mind when I see the MK...

LuxuryWoman2017 · 31/03/2018 22:06

There are always discount codes for brand alley or they are on Topcashback you could bring the cost down further if you do decide to go for it.

IHopeYouStepOnALegoPiece · 31/03/2018 22:09

It’s all well and good saying “get the bag” or “life’s to short” but when you’re being funded by your parents because you’re not working then why on earth would you just “Buy the bag”?!

Being funded by someone else and buying a £150 handbag is absolutely fucking ridiculous.

Use the money for living costs, in your children, not a fucking handbag

Thinkingofausername1 · 31/03/2018 22:09

The most I spend on a handbag is £20. You could go on a holiday for that or a spa weekend! I guess tho everyone has different priorities

Bluntness100 · 31/03/2018 22:09

No with money she finds herself

But she has not found it yet, and note the word "try" she's asking them it buy it,,,,and if you're pregnant and unemployed and your parents and paying your living expenses should you really find the money and spend it on a handbag or maybe, just maybe, contribute to your own living expenses, bearing in mind that life is about to get very much more expensive with a baby in tow and the parents will need to fund it even more.

I can't actually believe people are suggesting she should get her parents to fork out even more and that if she can raise any money this is a good use of it based on her circumstances.

Bluntness100 · 31/03/2018 22:11

Being funded by someone else and buying a £150 handbag is absolutely fucking ridiculous

My thoughts entirely and it's not even 150 quid it's a 185.

IHopeYouStepOnALegoPiece · 31/03/2018 22:12

If you want to spend £150 on a handbag then do it...some people like £20 bags others £900 and as long as you can afford it then fine. The Op can’t afford it

But considering the OP is being funded by her parents as she doesn’t work then I can’t possibly understand why you would think it’s a good use of the money

mercurymaze · 31/03/2018 22:12

michael kors bags are a little chavvy, just buy a nice bag that you like that isn't branded to hell

mrssunshinexxx · 31/03/2018 22:13

I was thinking that sounds cheap for MK make sure it's a safe site I nearly made that mistake around Xmas mine was £340 and only a small one x life's short buy the bag! U won't be having many other treats for a while along with no sleep, so enjoy! X

Callamia · 31/03/2018 22:15

Can you afford it? With present money and everything else? Is it classic enough to use for ages?

I bought a handbag about six years ago, that had been reduced to £120 from double that, and I still use it. The zip does need replacing, but the bag is still classic and just right for what I need. I’m not sorry I spent the money at all.

kristophersmum2008 · 31/03/2018 22:16

babies are really expensive maybe dont buy the bag (wait till uve had the baby ure just shopping boredom cause u cant physically shop )

Amanduh · 31/03/2018 22:17

MK bags under £100?! Errr no.
But OP go to Bicester! They have loads for £100-120 and they’re last season but IDENTICAL to this season and they still sell them in the shops.
It’s not a lot, no, and it’s your birthday. Go for it. Soon baby will be here and you will happily spend all your money on them!

windchimesabotage · 31/03/2018 22:17

are birthday gifts supposed to be 'good uses of money'? I thought the point was that it was for fun? Obviously the parents dont want that money spent on living expenses as its specific money the offered for a present of some sort. I think theyd probably be pissed off if it got spent on food shopping or something?

OP should find the rest of the money if she wants that particular bag however. But I dont see how its unreasonable to put the parents money they offered towards it

Orangecake123 · 31/03/2018 22:18

I have a Kipling bag that was £26, but have spent a small fortune on makeup. Spoil yourself and do what makes you happy.

GlamBump · 31/03/2018 22:18

I prefer spending that amount on bags. I find it I go cheap (like river island) they never last long! If I get a decent brand, Kate spade / Micheal Kors / moschino, they definitely last the daily obstacles thrown their way!

So it's down to would you rather have 1 expensive bag for a year or 2 or a new bag every few months ?

Also if it's your birthday then I'd say go for it!

PaulDacreRimsGeese · 31/03/2018 22:19

The salient question isn't whether it's a lot for a bag, it's whether you can afford it. The two aren't necessarily connected.