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AIBU to worry about my daughter's comments

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Hibbsy · 07/03/2018 13:43

Hi all, last night I got back from a 6 day business trip to Amsterdam, when I walked in last night my DD (age 5) ran up to me and gave me a hug and said "hello old mummy". I thought she was referring to my age (I'm only 32) and said "I not old!" in a jokey way and she replied "no, old mummy, i think i have a new mummy now"

When I pressed her further she said that DH had taken her to PizzaHut for her tea and they had sat with another of the mums from school and her daughter who is in same class as DD and that DD and this woman had been kissing!

I put her to bed and confronted DH, he said that he had bumped into this woman and her daughter when they got to PizzaHut and she asked him to join them and that when they were leaving he simply gave her a peck on the cheek to say goodbye. He found it funny but I am really not sure as she is very attractive and has a bit of a reputation around here (she is divorced and is known for jumping from one relationship to the next as well as having some one night stands).

I also checked our bank statement on line and the money paid to PizzaHut was around £50 so it is obvious DH not only paid for him and DD but for her and her daughter as well.

He has strayed once in the past but only a drunken snog on a stag do which he owned up to after I worked it out from jokey comments his mates made to him to try and wind him up. I don't know whether to be concerned or not?

OP posts:
user1518812545 · 07/03/2018 20:38

You say the woman is a temptress but it was your oh who kissed her on the cheek. He didn’t need to do that? Just a simple ‘let’s split the bill and wave goodbye ‘ would suffice

piratequeenio · 07/03/2018 20:44

No spring hn, Im not .

I just happen to be slim, have huge tits , be pretty and have long blonde hair.

A fucking crime on MN and the school playground.

And if I had a pound for every " happily married hubby who would NEVER look at another woman" who has tried to get into my knickers since becoming single I'd be a happy slut.

Takeaweeseat · 07/03/2018 20:54

ohreallyohreallyoh

I have no idea what's going on with you. I have been divorced, I have been single...Literally no-one ever treated me the way you're saying people treat you. Maybe it's got nothing to do with you being single.

SpringHen · 07/03/2018 20:55

And if I had a pound for every " happily married hubby who would NEVER look at another woman" who has tried to get into my knickers since becoming single I'd be a happy slut.

Oh make up your mind pirate
First you say that women who you deem less attractive than yourself are irrationally jealous of you

Now theyre all ignorantly trusting..

You really dont think much of other women do you.
This is probably why women avoid you and men hit on you.

Takeaweeseat · 07/03/2018 20:56

Takeaweeseat. No, I have genuinely never heard these men called anything other than a "bit of a lad". In your eyes my sheltered inexperienced life obviously makes me stupid. And while we're at it I'm as entitled to my opinion as you are to yours, so dont tell me to piss off. Its rude and unpleasant

Do you float through life wrapped in cotton wool with your ears plugged with some more cotton wool?

Bluntness100 · 07/03/2018 22:01

Take,what is the male equivalent word for slut please in the context you use it. I'm not sure either.

NataliaOsipova · 07/03/2018 22:15

Take,what is the male equivalent word for slut please in the context you use it. I'm not sure either.

I think the young 'uns would say "fuckboy". I rather like that one....!

gillybeanz · 07/03/2018 23:02

The male equivalent is just putting male in front.

male slag, and male slut,

Terfinater · 07/03/2018 23:18

I'd be freaked out if a school dad kissed me.

SpringHen · 07/03/2018 23:23

I think its fuckBOI actually..
(down with the kids innit Grin )

mojito55 · 08/03/2018 01:11

minionsrule why not? I hardly think the child will be emotionally scarred from a simple question about her day Hmm

Original poster
Hibbsy · 08/03/2018 07:15

I have slept on it and think that I will give DH the benefit of the doubt this time. He actually brought it up in conversation last night after putting DD to bed and still thinks it's funny, to be honest I had dreaded broaching the subject again with him but if he has brought it up it make me think that he has nothing to hide. I shall be keeping a close eye on the other mum though if she is ever around him again!! Thanks for all the advice

OP posts:
Thistlebelle · 08/03/2018 15:11

I shall be keeping a close eye on the other mum though if she is ever around him again!!

You are still approaching this from the wrong angle. She is not your problem.

Coconutspongexo · 08/03/2018 17:17

I shall be keeping a close eye on the other mum though if she is ever around him again!

Please behave, why are you keeping an eye on her? Is your husband a heart throb?! You should be keeping an eye on him not her!!

extinctspecies · 08/03/2018 17:52

OP, if you don't trust your husband, get some counselling.

Idontdowindows · 08/03/2018 18:55

I shall be keeping a close eye on the other mum though if she is ever around him again!!

Jesus wept.

DailyMailReadersAreThick · 08/03/2018 19:42

I shall be keeping a close eye on the other mum though if she is ever around him again!!

Fuck's sake.

You just don't get it, do you? She could strip off all her clothes and say, "Jump on," but if he doesn't want to cheat, he won't cheat. If he wants to cheat, he will.

The. Problem. Is. Your. Husband.

PinotMwah · 08/03/2018 21:38

Leaving aside the question of whether the DH is having an affair with this woman (and for what its worth it sounds unlikely to me), I'm pretty disgusted at the assumption that because she's single and attractive and has some sexual encounters she has a "bad reputation".

I'm single (separated) and if I say so myself I scrub up OK. I have been known to date men and even, God forbid, have the odd one night stand since the end of my marriage. I have cordial (non-sexual) relationships with some of the school dads.

People like you probably think I'm a slut or have a bad reputation. I don't really care.

But for the record, OP, single women who take care of themselves are not on a one woman mission to steal other people's husbands.

Original poster
Hibbsy · 09/03/2018 11:54

But for the record, OP, single women who take care of themselves are not on a one woman mission to steal other people's husbands.

this one is trust me

OP posts:
Thistlebelle · 09/03/2018 12:36

Hib but that doesn’t matter if your husband is a decent person.

LittleLightsShineBright · 09/03/2018 13:27

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Coconutspongexo · 09/03/2018 13:31

Oh my god are you in a wind up OP? I doubt this gorgeous single woman wants your husband ffs

Coconutspongexo · 09/03/2018 13:31

On

tumblrpigeon · 09/03/2018 13:38

Whole thread is beyond belief.
Husband foots the bill - has plenty of money - that’s called being generous

Social kiss on departure - completely normal for about 80 % of the western world.

5 yo girl has dramatic imagination - this is an excellent trait in a child

“I’ll be keeping an eye on that attractive flirtatious single slut “
.....EH ?

Bluelady · 09/03/2018 16:36

It sounds as if though you're married to some sex god, OP. Is he really that irresistible?