To ask if you would forget your morals and principles to give your children a better life?

[OverTheMountain42]

Posting here for traffic but asking just that,

Would you do a job that was totally against every moral and principal you have, just to give your children a better life?

Currently financially things are looking more and more bleak. I have an opportunity to do a job which isn't illegal, isn't prostitution but is somewhat demeaning and not a great example as a parent to do. I wouldn't be considering this if I didn't have a child and have always been quite against it. But now needs must. Family and friends would definitely disapprove but most would under I think. I will be going from answers here.

We aren't completely destitute or starving but this would definitely mean I would be able to give my child a far better life, my time with him would be slightly less but not hugely significant.

What would you do? Go against everything you stood for, but it would be easier, or keep your principles and morals and look for something else even if it pays less and takes longer?

Lap dancing? Done it but only had 1 child at the time wouldn't do it with multiple kids, or older kids..or saggy tits. You do what you have to do but believe me it ain't glamorous.

If it's totally against everything that you stand for - are you even able to 'do' whatever this job entails?

It really depends what it is OP.

That’s a tough one. You’re going to have to tell us what the job is.

No because how can I teach my children about morals if I don’t have any myself.

Nope. Your morals are way more important.

I’m guessing lap dancing? It depend exactly on your circumstances. If your able to provide everything already and tos would just pay for nice holidays prob not. If this brings security on shelter food and health and education yes go for it

Sometimes you just have to do what you have to do. As long as it's not illegal and you're not hurting anyone then I'd say go for it if it'd give your child a better life

Why is it against your morals?
Will you hurt anyone? Is it cruel? Those things are, to me, far harder to reconcile than something where you use your body to make money.

I think you do what you need to, but you have to be fully aware of what it might do to you.

Will it make you feel shit about yourself? If so no I wouldn't do it.

If it's more about other people's disapproval, sod them, they are the ones struggling.

You’re not your!

Depends what it is, but yeah probably. Is it safe?

There’s a lot of variables, so it really would depend what it is

No, because I want to be able to look at myself in the mirror far more than I want "stuff" (which is often what people mean when they say "better life". I can completely understand why people facing destitution do though.

I wouldn’t do anything that wasn’t safe or was cruel and didn’t hurt others

It depends on how you will feel about yourself once you’ve done it. Some people can do things like lap dancing and feel totally okay about it and not even have a dent in their self esteem.

And if they can do that, that’s great. But the fact you’re even asking this question makes me feel like you would struggle and feel badly about yourself if you did it. Particularly as you’ve couched it in terms which make it pretty obvious you’re hoping people will tell you not to do it.

Not lap dancing.

Without being too outing, a source of entertainment to others because of an affliction or physical difference.

I have been against it because those who don't do this who have the look are often stereotyped and face a harder time because of the entertainment that others with it give, but now I feel like if you can't beat them you may as well join them and earn the money with it.

The money wouldn't be just for stuff or nice holidays but definitely security and a decent future for my child.

You know you don't want to do it so don't. Morals matter.

It's really hard to say without knowing what it is but sounds like something that will damage your self esteem, which is a pretty big risk

Erm i can't for the life of me think what this "job" is but if I'm going to even try abd understand i need to know. Your last update has confused me even more!

Is it along the lines of midget wrestling?

I don’t know. If it was a food on the table job I would go survive. Not sure otherwise.

Moijito, I guess that is a close example yes. Although definitely not wrestling any midgets. But the physical difference and providing the entertainment off of that yes.

No. There have to be other ways to earn more money surely?

No, because as my DC have got older i’ve realised that material things are less important and respect and love are what they really want.

At the end of this life you only answer to yourself. If you can live with it then crack on. If it’s going to haunt you forever steer clear.

Bearded lady in a circus? 🎪