To ask if you would forget your morals and principles to give your children a better life?

[OverTheMountain42]

Posting here for traffic but asking just that,

Would you do a job that was totally against every moral and principal you have, just to give your children a better life?

Currently financially things are looking more and more bleak. I have an opportunity to do a job which isn't illegal, isn't prostitution but is somewhat demeaning and not a great example as a parent to do. I wouldn't be considering this if I didn't have a child and have always been quite against it. But now needs must. Family and friends would definitely disapprove but most would under I think. I will be going from answers here.

We aren't completely destitute or starving but this would definitely mean I would be able to give my child a far better life, my time with him would be slightly less but not hugely significant.

What would you do? Go against everything you stood for, but it would be easier, or keep your principles and morals and look for something else even if it pays less and takes longer?

I get why you were considering it op. Some of the people you’ve met in your area sound like utter wankers. I don’t blame you for wanting to move.

Are you religious at all? If you are, have you considered a faith school for your ds? I’m not saying they will be any better, but may give you more options if you want to go out if catchment.

I'm so sorry OverTheMountain. People are shit.

I think you've made the right decision. The concerns about your self esteem and safety aside, what would happen if you decided you couldn't do this work any more and couldn't afford private school any more? I can imagine you'd be back at square one and it would all have been for nothing.

Totally the right decision for you, OP. I’m glad you have had a rethink. It’s hard when you have children and your identity (career, new mum role) changes. It must be even harder when people can’t see beyond the physical to the person. You are better than this

Kids come before my pride. Sounds like you're not doing it for handbags but for proper things for them.

Go for it UNLESS this is going to torture you down the line and affect your mental health.

It's hard to comment without totally understanding. could you try it for 1 day?

I’m so glad you decided not to do this. It would not only have demeaned you, it would have encouraged those revolting men to regard all people of short stature with contempt.
Women of normal height don’t have this “career option”, but they do find other more civilised ways to provide for their kids. You mentioned you had a previous career - I think you just need some encouragement and someone to help boost your self esteem so you can get back to the proper job you are trained for.
Please believe in yourself, and believe you deserve better than to be the butt of drunken sexist jokes.
As for the so called teachers at your child’s parent evening- they are beneath contempt. You are a far superior person to them!
No child would want their parent humiliated to pay for their luxuries. Any decent kid would rather you took minimum wage or benefits than did that, and would feel guilty if it was their fault you were suffering abuse.
Have a big hug, and my best wishes for your future happiness as a confident well paid professional in a good job.

Oh hang on I just saw what it was... I don't think you'd be safe at all. It would be safer for you to do web cam or whatever

You've made the right decision, and I'm so relieved to hear that. And so disgusted with what you have to put up
with every day.

Please don't do this. I would fear for your safety as the sort of people who would hire you for something like this would not be the sort looking out for your welfare if things were to get out of hand. Which is likely during a stag do.

Not the point of the thread I know, but imagine being engaged to the sort of bloke who actually thinks this is a laugh?? You've got to feel sorry for her.

Anjelika I know.

No, don't do it.

Don't do it for you and don't do it for him.

It would break his heart to know his mum was bring treated that way. Then to find out she did he so he could go to a different school? It's too much.

I feel rage just thinking about how you would be treated.

Don't do it. You are effectively saying it's ok when clearly treating people as a novelty is horrible. I can't believe this still goes on in 2018

So glad you have made the right choice. There’s no way you would improve your life by this. It makes me sad just to think about it.
I have a physical disability that’s somewhat niche and people would perhaps pay for something but thankfully I haven’t had to do it and I wouldn’t be putting my children or myself at risk of bullying if I did.
People can be very cruel. You have experienced this first hand and I would want to protect myself from this.
I think I’m strong but honestly...I’m not deep down.

I don't know. I'd like to think no, but if I honestly had no other way to provide for my children then possibly.

Thank god you’ve decided not to do it!

I think I would, temporarily. I’d have to find a way to make up the moral ground, as it were, put some money into a charity or pressure group.

But go for it. Spring board into a better life. Keep it short though.

OP, I'm relieved that you've decided against it. You sound lovely and this 'job' sounded absolutely horrendous.

Unfortunately, despite your horrible experiences, there's no guarantee that there won't be idiots at the private school. They are to be found everywhere!

Good luck, I hope you find your contentment and happiness sooner rather than later. You really have made the right choice for now

I can't believe people actually shout obscenities to you that's disgusting. But I wouldn't do the job..it doesn't sound safe and it is basically taking the piss.
If you want to make money off your disability look into other things like panto etc, being out on stag nights with pissed up blokes is not safe.

I think you'll find that, once your child is in a state school (if that is what you decide to go for) you and he will be treated normally. The reaction you received was not acceptable, but they will get past it quickly.

Glad you changed you mind OP.
Hopefully you can find a better school without the narrow mindedness.
You also sound like you enjoyed and did well at your previous career/job, so hopefully you can slot back into that when the time comes. Best wishes.

Just to add that I moved house and cities to get my child a better education. It has worked out extremely well.

I'm so glad you've decided against it OP. The kind of people who think it's acceptable to hire another human being as "comedy entertainment" are not the kind of people you would want to spend any evening with.

Is there not some way you can frame it is okay? Im getting this is not sex work but making light entertainment out of a physical difference?

Can you not think to yourself that you were given this physical difference to do with what you will and that if it benefits you and your children who is it really hurting to make some money out of it?
Really many many people make money out of thing sthey were just born with. Models make money out of beauty they were just born with and many skilled jobs people make money out of from being naturally good at that skill.
Im not sure its something to be completely against.
I understand you feel responsibility to other people with whatever physical difference this is, that they shouldnt just view themselves as entertainment but are you really promoting that?
I mean do you think someone like Warrick Davis is promoting the use of small people as light entertainment? Or is he just having an acting career?

Id do it personally. There are some morals id never re adjust for money but if I had an opportunity to make some money out of something that I just didnt quite agree with i would do it now for the sake of my family.

Oh sorry I see you decided against it!! Well good for you for doing what you felt was right and good luck to you in the future

Jesus what year is it? I can’t believe people still think like that OP. I’m so sorry. And I’m so pleased you’ve changed your mind.