If your dp did this?

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I have just arrived back from a holiday with my dp and baby. A group of dp's male friends were visiting the destination at the same time and he basically spent the week staying out with them every night until 3am, spent one whole morning going out to an activity with them and one day they even happened to be in the same Waterpark at the same time. I'm starting to realise that being in the same destination at the same time probably wasn't exactly a coincidence and I was left holding the baby for a lot of the week. He did pay for the whole trip so do I have a right to be furious with him?

So he took you to a lads holiday?

I had no idea that they would be there, they arrived the day after we did and were in a different hotel.

I'd be getting him to pay for a separate girls trip for you. Cheeky git.

Oh I would be livid. We're you on your own each night? My sister does things like this all the time. Suggests restaurants that her friends are going to etc and gets angry if you duffest somewhere else. Then we will join their table and I'll be sitting there like a fool! This frustrates me no end, so something as big as a family holiday tied in with drinking with friends would push me over the edge.

He went out every night?

I would be livid.

He owes you big time, out every night till three 0 clock.

He is an arse.

Did your DH know they were going to be there?
Either way, I'd be furious and seriously reconsidering my relationship.

Of course you do. Why does him paying excuse him

He met up with them virtually every night to go out to eat, once to a nightclub, to a shisha bar, to 'chill' with them.

I'd be livid. He has basically had a lads holiday

Sounds like a great holiday...
This was no coincidence & personally this sort of shit bores the fuck out of me.
Did you speak to him about it at any point on the holiday?
Just because he paid doesn't mean you should have a shit time doing what you'd do at good-looking after your child, while he has a lads holiday.
I'd be having a serious look at my relationship lid I was you-he sounds like a man child, utterly pathetic.

Home not good ffs

I felt like a bit of a tag along tbh

Replace tag a long with mug op.

I'd be bloody fuming! This was no coincidence. What has he said about it?

I’d end the relationship over that.

He didn't even eat with you first, its getting worse. Did you ask/tell him not to?

That's awful. I would be fuming.

He'd be picking his teeth out of his... Well, he wouldn't enjoy it anyway.

What an absolute cheeky twat!!!! I would be fuming. In fact, your OP has made me feel angry!!!

I would consider ltb for this.

You were set up, and that was a really shitty thing for him to do. I would be re thinking the relationship.

Ugh, I bet he thinks he’s so clever!
I’d also be a bit hurt that you and DC were not ‘enough’ for him - can’t he enjoy some nice time away with his family?
You have ever right to be furious

I'd be gone. The total disrespect, the lying, the assuming you'd look after the baby as default, the lack of care...I'd leave him If anyone thinks thats an over reaction I'd say they are under reacting. It means he fundamentally does not respect you in any way.

I would have gone home after he did it the second night. And packed his bags for him so he could go and live with his mates on his return.

Seriously it would be game over. What a complete lack of respect he has for you.