If your dp did this?

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I have just arrived back from a holiday with my dp and baby. A group of dp's male friends were visiting the destination at the same time and he basically spent the week staying out with them every night until 3am, spent one whole morning going out to an activity with them and one day they even happened to be in the same Waterpark at the same time. I'm starting to realise that being in the same destination at the same time probably wasn't exactly a coincidence and I was left holding the baby for a lot of the week. He did pay for the whole trip so do I have a right to be furious with him?

Have you spoken to him Op?

The whole point of a family holiday is that it's different from a couples or a lads one. So instead of clubbing until 3am, you go to quieter places for dinner with the baby sleeping in the pram beside you and bring some drinks back to the apartment and enjoy on the balcony.

He's told you that the holiday you've just had is the kind of family holiday you will have every time. You sitting in alone with the baby while he's on the piss. You getting up early with the baby because he's too hungover. You trying to shush a baby for hours in a tiny apartment because Daddy is sleeping.

It's like I don't exist

You don’t, you’re just his baby’s nanny. He could have hired a different nanny for this trip and that would have been completely fine too, except he’d have had to pay them.

Leave him. He won’t care, aside from annoyance about organising his own childcare.

He's a prick, sorry OP you deserve someone who is actually a real grown up who puts you first and not an overgrown child who.

You deserve so much better OP. So does your little one. He is an arse xxxx

So what, whether he knew they were gonna be there or not is irrelevant. The point is he ditched you every bloody night. That is shocking. If it was truly a coincidence they ended up at the same place a decent person might have spent one night with their mates perhaps (after a discussion with their partner) but defo not every night. Massively taking the pee out of you!!

He doesn't sound like a nice man. Sorry

Wake up and smell the coffee OP. He doesn't give a fuck about you.

What are his parents like? What do they think of what he did, when he was supposedly on a family holiday with their grandchild? He didn't even have dinner with you!

What have your friends and family said?
Why did you think you might be unreasonable?

If you don't leave him, you will have years of misery ahead, and it's not fair to bring your child up like that.

You need to leave him, and work on your self esteem and learn to be assertive. You and your child are worth more than this, believe me.