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If your dp did this?

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namechangersgalore · 03/03/2018 19:32

I have just arrived back from a holiday with my dp and baby. A group of dp's male friends were visiting the destination at the same time and he basically spent the week staying out with them every night until 3am, spent one whole morning going out to an activity with them and one day they even happened to be in the same Waterpark at the same time. I'm starting to realise that being in the same destination at the same time probably wasn't exactly a coincidence and I was left holding the baby for a lot of the week. He did pay for the whole trip so do I have a right to be furious with him?

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Thistlebelle · 03/03/2018 19:58

I would be volcanically furious.

BoomBoomsCousin · 03/03/2018 19:59

It means he fundamentally does not respect you
^^ This.

LambMadras · 03/03/2018 20:00

What an utter cunt

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namechangersgalore · 03/03/2018 20:00

He has also spend a lot of our money hiring fancy cars for him and his friends to ride around in, the only trip we had out as a family was to an aquarium. I was so looking forward to this family holiday and we barely spent any time as a family.

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Scabetty · 03/03/2018 20:01

Immature twat. Needs to grow up sharpish or you will get tired of this behaviour.

DownstairsMixUp · 03/03/2018 20:01

Dump this loser

Janel85 · 03/03/2018 20:01

This is awful op, so selfish of him

GUMBYMUMBY · 03/03/2018 20:02

what a horrible man! Complete git! sorry for you!

JaniceBattersby · 03/03/2018 20:02

This cannot be serious? You surely didn’t put up with that shit?

It would absolutely be over for me if that all happened to me.

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namechangersgalore · 03/03/2018 20:03

And then posted loads of photos and videos of him and his friends on social media.

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I8toys · 03/03/2018 20:03

He's a complete shitpouch and totally dishonest. The deception that's gone into this would be a deal breaker for me.

Original poster
namechangersgalore · 03/03/2018 20:04

I didn't say anything whilst on holiday as I didn't want to create a bad atmosphere but I am steadily getting more irritated the more I think about it.

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Lj8893 · 03/03/2018 20:04

What a dick.

Ginkypig · 03/03/2018 20:04

Im finding this very difficult to answer because the simple answer is my dp just would never do that!

I'm really not trying to be goady namechange, I'm really angry for you. It's baffling to me that someone never mind the father of your child and supposedly the person who shares your life and loves you could treat treat you so shoddily.

My feeling is and I may be wrong but this is so random to be a fluke, does he generally treat you badly?

WhingyNinja · 03/03/2018 20:04

Yeah that would be enough for me to tell him to fuck right off, cheeky bastard!

I'm appalled that he left you to holiday alone with your baby whilst he has what is essentially a lad's holiday that I have no doubt he already planned with his mates. Selfish dick.

averylongtimeago · 03/03/2018 20:04

Definitely a keeper. Not.

What a twat.

Sorry OP, it sounds like he planned this all along, too much of a coincidence.

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namechangersgalore · 03/03/2018 20:04

He insists that he didn't know they would be there and they booked it last minute.

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RedDogsBeg · 03/03/2018 20:05

If my dp did that to me he would immediately be an ex dp, no ifs, buts, maybes and no excuse or attempted explanation would make a difference.

Gather up your self respect, OP, and ditch him now.

SnowBusinessLikeSlowBusiness · 03/03/2018 20:06

So he's still lying and has no remorse at all? Prize cunt.

Rewn7 · 03/03/2018 20:07

He paid for you to go so you’d do childcare and he’d could please himself. He’s a dick and if it was my DP I know I couldn’t forgive such selfish behaviour.

PeppermintPasty · 03/03/2018 20:07

I would be incandescent. But yes, I would like to know how he is generally? Does he treat you well? Could this be a massive, mad, one-off blip? I'm stretching it, but if he's a saint usually then I might be inclined to forgive. Otherwise, this loser has no respect for you and it doesn't bode well for the future.

BoomBoomsCousin · 03/03/2018 20:07

I find it very hard to believe that a group of close friends turn up at the same location without it being deliberate.

But whether he knew in advance or not doesn't change the fact he, literally, left you holding the baby to go drinking with his mates on what should have been a family holiday.

ohtheholidays · 03/03/2018 20:07

How old is he OP?I can't imagine my sons ever acting like this towards a girlfriend(and they're 21,19 and 16)let alone the mother of they're child.

It makes sod all difference who paid for the holiday as well,if your together it should be your money not his and her's.

Mummadeeze · 03/03/2018 20:08

My partner is extremely selfish and thoughtless but even he wouldn't do something like this. Shocking. Totally disrespectful. And very unkind. Poor you. You sound very nice and you deserve better.

RedDogsBeg · 03/03/2018 20:08

Are his pants on fire, OP, because they should be. He knew damn well they would be there, last minute booking or not and non of that explains or excuses why he decided to spend all his time with them and not with you and your baby.

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