To think dh has been moaning about me to friends

[Introvertpants]

Dh planned a trip away with friends last week and they went away. I was annoyed that me and dd don't get a holiday and was a bit off with dh but not a major falling out or anything but made it known I was a bit upset about us missing out on the chance of break while he went to his lads weekend.

Anyway dh shared a room with one of his friends. Me and his friend have been friends on Facebook for years and years. We aren't close as we don't see each other a lot but I went to school with him and he is dh best friend.
I just went to tag dh in a post with his best friend and saw that I have been deleted by the friend. We were friends last week when they were away. I have checked and he has some of my friends on there that he doesn't talk to and other friends from school etc so he's not went on a deleting spree or anything.
I am so hurt because it's obvious he doessnt like me if he's deleted me.
I asked dh about it and asked if he had been discussing why I was narky but he got really defensive and said he has said nothing.
I'm now crying upset because it's horrible to realise your the friends girlfriend nobody likes and I thought me and dh were really happy.
There's just no other reason I can think of why he doesn't like me. I don't post a lot on Facebook so I'm not annoying online or anything. Aibu to distrust what dh is saying and believe that I have been bitched and moaned about?

I really think you are over reacting and crying about it is extreme. There is nothing to say your h has bitched about you so badly that he felt he had to delete you. He might just not like what you post!

But if this guy was a friend, why would he delete you? Are you sure it’s nothing to do with settings?

It may not be that he doesn't like you but rather that he doesn't want to get caught in the cross-fire between you and your DH.

I would be putting a rocket up your DH's arse for his disloyalty to you rather than worrying about what this bloke thinks.

I wouldn't set too much store by Facebook, people have all sorts of reasons for doing what they do. If he's off with you in other ways maybe, but I wouldn't be upset just by this x

It's Facebook, people get added and deleted every day without fuss. Crying seems a little OTT.

It sounds like you are avoiding the issues within your relationship and blaming the friend instead.

Even if he has been talking to his friend then isn’t that what friends are for?

I agree your overthinking.

He's saying he hasn't said anything to him.

I just find it really weird how we were friends last week and suddenly they go away together and me and dh have words then bam I'm deleted.
I don't post much on Facebook so it's not the posts.
I'm just hurt. We have just bought a house. I was looking forward to having them round and hosting but now I feel I've been made a fool off and I'm not liked.
Dh is denying said anything until he is blue in the face.

Have you never talked to your friends about him? Its a perfectly normal thing to do.

He might want to post pictures of the weekend away or something but not want your DH to get any stick for it.

Everyone moans about their OH to their friends once in a while. It's totally normal!

Just forget about it?

Maybe he’s disbefriended you by accident. Request him and see what he does.

It's not the deleting me off Facebook that I'm upset over...its more that it's an action to show I'm not liked or bothered about

I'm hurt because I think they have been talking about me or think lowly of me.

He has all their other girlfriends on Facebook. Just deleted me when he came back from the trip.

Maybe he (friend) wanted to post stuff on FB that he doesn’t want you to see?

If your DH is saying he doesn't know why then ask him if he would find out for you. Tell him it's been playing on your mind and you don't want it to fester so either he asks his friend or you will because you need closure.
If they are close friends then you'll probably bump into him in social situations and you don't want to ask him then or come off as rude because your still trying to find out why.

You are reading too much into it, it's just Facebook!

Yes I have but not to the extent where he's not liked or snubbed

First off I have defriend a few real life friends who in person I get in on With but in Facebook are totally annoying! By saying you are, but it might be nothing to do with your DH has or hasn't said! You don't sound close so chalk it up to experience as long as his friendly when you see each other that is all that matters!

Yeah another one for thinking he deleted you cos there’s stuff he doesn’t want you to see

Your DH probably did have a little moan to be honest, it’s perfectly normal to moan to your friends about your spouse occasionally. Maybe your DH said don’t tag me in anything to not upset you further and friend thought unfriending would be easier?

I would think he wants to put pics of the weekend up that he doesn't want you seeing, rather than he doesn't like you.

His Facebook is public so I can see his posts so I don't think he's hiding anything plus I can see all his friends posts too. He has his fiance on his page so I'm sure there is nothing on there he would be hiding anyway. It was a low key trip too.

Hmm the more suspicious part of me wonders if the friend was sharing photos on FB of their time away but didn't want you to see them....

It would be an odd reaction to delete you even if your dh had moaned about you so I’m really not sure that can be the reason. I mean I seriously dislike one of my friends husbands because of how he treats her but it wouldn’t occur to me to ‘unfriend’ on fb because I’m not six.

What could he have said anyway? ‘Oh introvert was annoyed at me because she wants a holiday and I get to come away with you guys’ - it’s not like he can have said ‘introvert thinks you’re a twat’.

I am always the girlfriend no one likes don't worry your fine