To think dh has been moaning about me to friends

[Introvertpants]

Dh planned a trip away with friends last week and they went away. I was annoyed that me and dd don't get a holiday and was a bit off with dh but not a major falling out or anything but made it known I was a bit upset about us missing out on the chance of break while he went to his lads weekend.

Anyway dh shared a room with one of his friends. Me and his friend have been friends on Facebook for years and years. We aren't close as we don't see each other a lot but I went to school with him and he is dh best friend.
I just went to tag dh in a post with his best friend and saw that I have been deleted by the friend. We were friends last week when they were away. I have checked and he has some of my friends on there that he doesn't talk to and other friends from school etc so he's not went on a deleting spree or anything.
I am so hurt because it's obvious he doessnt like me if he's deleted me.
I asked dh about it and asked if he had been discussing why I was narky but he got really defensive and said he has said nothing.
I'm now crying upset because it's horrible to realise your the friends girlfriend nobody likes and I thought me and dh were really happy.
There's just no other reason I can think of why he doesn't like me. I don't post a lot on Facebook so I'm not annoying online or anything. Aibu to distrust what dh is saying and believe that I have been bitched and moaned about?

I don't think your DH having a whinge about you would provoke that reaction. You do realise the best thing to do is ask him don't you, it's the only way you'll know.

Are you sure he hasn't just deactivated? I thought an old friend had deleted me but when I deactivated my own last week I realised messenger was still fully accessible and she is still connected on there.

I do tend to agree that friending and defriending shouldn't be too much of an issue. I had a big cull a couple of years ago when my mum was dying and I was having a tough time. It wasn't that I didn't like the people not was partly because I wanted to be surrounded by people close to me, partly because family was pissing me off and partly because I didn't want personal stuff inmate share in a low moment to be seen by all and sundry.

I'm now crying upset because it's horrible to realise your the friends girlfriend nobody likes and I thought me and dh were really happy.
OP, that bit isn't healthy. Crying? And saying because one person unfriended you that nobody likes you? I don't think this is entirely rational behaviour - is there anything else going on in your life that would make you react this way?

I just don't want to be the one at gatherings that everyone wishes wasn't there
They have always been a bit quiet around me.
I just want to be liked and considered a friend by his best friend.
I find it very rude to delete just me and very unfriendly.
If he had deleted several other people I wouldn't feel so bad about it.

You need to come off Facebook. It’s a complete waste of your life fretting about people you don’t even talk to but you are ‘friends’ with on Facebook.

Yes there are other issues that make me react like that...mainly to do with meeting friends as I'm very isolated at the moment.

Self esteem issues also.

Why don't you say to him: I think you unfriended me - did you mean to? Make a joke of it. You've jumped 20 steps ahead here and made a load of assumptions when you don't know what's really happened.

I agree with op a Facebook break might me good for you! On a side note How do you know you were his friend last week?

Honestly I’m happier since I deleted my Facebook account 😊

Are you one of those people on Facebook who constantly post twee quotes and tag friends in it? Or do you sell stuff on there?

You don't know he didn't de friend anyone else. And it doesn't mean at all that no one likes you.

This level of upset isn't natural

Are you the only couple with a child?

Don't sell anything.
Don't post anything other than a few memes that are usually considered comic. Nothing offensive. That's all.

I knew we were friends last week because I was looking at pics from the trip.

It just seems odd he deleted me when he got back! Him and dh shared a room.

Perhaps he is offended that you were cross about your DH going away with him? If I planned a trip with a friend and their partner gave them gyp about going away with me I think I’d be a bit pissed off too. It’s kind of controlling.

How often are you posting memes and are you tagging people in each one?

I doubt it's anything your dh has said tbh.

X post. It may come across more than you think that you are resentful of your DH's social life and tbh, people with low self esteem change the way conversations go.

You need to work on yourself and insist on a family trip away. You need to have fun.

If his profile is public though you would have been able to see pics without being friends! I know it still means he defriended you but if you take away the time line it can put dh in the clear!

I'm the only partner he has deleted. It just stings.
I can't help but feel dh has had a moan and he's thought your a bitch and deleted me but as you say I'm probably over reacting.

I just find the timing a coincidence.

A couple of pp saying that he doesn't want you seeing their pics - I would agree, I think it's that more than anything and it would also explain your DH being defensive if he knows they've done that...

Well save your tears, get your DP to ask him, or ask him yourself, then you can put this to bed. It does seem rather odd.

You aren't close
He s your dh friend
It s just Facebook. Meh.forget it. You sound paranoid.
Is dh your dd dad?

It's not controlling I didn't say he couldn't go.
I was just pissed off that we never get a holiday yet he can just swan off and have one when ever he likes! Yes I had a moan.

Dh probably told his pals that I was moaning. Then suddenly I'm deleted off Facebook by his best friend.

Hey, you are taking this way too hard, your self esteem is low and you are catastrophising/massively overreacting

Take a deep breath. It does not necessarily mean anything. I delete people of FB all the time, or un-follow them

I am not even "friends" with DH mates on FB now that I think of it (too much boring banter)

OP, like a few others have said, can't you either ask your DH to ask him if there is a reason or just message him yourself? Even if it's just in a jokey way, like "Am I not cool enough to be Facebook friends with any more?!" or something similar.

Don't get too worked up until you know why it happened.

Dh refused to ask him why.

He has my friends on Facebook so I'm sure they would see pics. He has all the other partners on there. It appears he's just deleted me.
I'm just hurt cause it's obvious he doesn't like me enough to consider me a friend and if dh has helped that along by saying stuff then I don't know..