To expect a wedding invite more than 6 weeks before the big day?

[randomquestions]

So I'm 99% sure I'm invited to a wedding in 6 weeks time, well I was 100% sure but the days are going by and the postman still hasn't delivered an invitation. I've sorted out childcare and everything for my kids for the day and evening.

But I would have expected to have received an invitation a minimum of 8 weeks before the big day. I know when I got married, I had to confirm numbers and meal choices etc with the venue at least 4 weeks before and you inevitably have to spend some time chasing up those people who don't get their RSVPs back by the RSVP date. And then you also need time to get the table plan done and printed or whatever.

AIBU to think it's leaving it a bit late to get the invites out? Or maybe I'm just not invited!

You are not turning into your mother.

You have turned into your mother.

You said the bride is not someone who can be asked: you are clearly someone who can’t accomplish a normal transaction and ask yourself. You have worked yourself into a passive aggressive state.

Either get over yourself, drop all this analysing over RSVP dates and the presumed state of the event and open yourself up to going with the flow, acting graciously and having a good time, or just pull out now.

The first option will at least save you cancelling a hair appointment (imagine!!!!! )

Oh, or maybe offer to help stressed friend rather than constantly holding her to your / your mother’s standards?

Yes we are going and are very much looking forward to it. As I said before, I had just been wondering if it was standard to send out invitations less than 6 weeks before as I was starting to doubt myself that we were actually invited. Seems to be a mixture of opinions but a lot say that's standard. There you go, didn't mean to make such a big deal out of it!

Glad the invitation arrived Op - hope you all have a great time.

@toolonglurking is correct. The etiquette is to send Wedding invitations six weeks ahead.

Glad you're going!