To think this was done on purpose by SIL

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Was FILs 60th birthday party last night and SIL had done a photo board and DH had sorted out the music play list. We get to the venue and DHs aunt is looking at the photo board, I hear her say Chocy has been completely missed out, she then turns, sees me and says I think you might be a bit upset.
There are pictures of FIL, MIL, SIL, grandchild and other friends and relatives but not one of me.

There were lots of pictures of mine and DHs wedding but they are all pictures taken with their family and friends during the course of the day that do not have me on, there are even pictures of DH with DS Just after he was born but none with me on.

I have been married to DH for 13 years so been part of the family for a long time.

DH noticed and said he was going to say something but I said to not bother as the party was happening and nothing could be done. He said he was going to have a word today with SIL.

Anyone half way through the party FIL seems to notice and comes over and gives me a hug and says he is sorry and he does not know what SIL was thinking.
My and SIL do have a backgroung, she ran out screaming and crying when we got engaged, tried to get DH to leave it wedding reception to sit outside with her as she was feeling a bit ill. There has been loads of other stuff and I am thinking this has got to have been done on purpose.
DH is going to have strong words but I know she will just say it was a mistake

I don't think the FIL is 'wet' at all - the poor man is basically a victim of domestic abuse and so ground down over the years that he can't stand up to his cunt of a wife and the daughter she has molded into a mini-me. Yes, the SIL's horrible but a lot of the blame for that rests with the MIL.

Of course it was done on purpose and given your past with her, you know it was.

Other family members recognised it and apologised, you don't want to raise it with her, so I'm not entirely sure what the point of this AIBU is.

AIBU to think SIL did this on purpose? That was the AIBU

Sounds most definitely as if it was done on purpose.

There’s no question that it wasn’t done on purpose. She doesn’t like that you came in and “stole” your DH away from her and she will never get over it. I hope he’s been able to contact the agency and let them know what she’s like. I know you can’t go NC but I’d still keep holding her and MIL at as far a distance as possible. The evil part of me would be super gluing yours and DH’s and DS’s faces into photos at their houses when no ones looking and wait for them to notice but in reality you want to just keep away from those crazy pair as often as possible.