Ex didn't return kids.

[AngryMom1]

So kids where due back to me at 3, when they did not come by 3:30 I rang my ex to find at what he was playing at and he told me he tought as I changed pickup arragements on friday that from now own I would be driving the 2hrs to pick them up.

I am furioius, what can I do to make him bring them back.

Is it not half term in most places then?

Nope. Another week to go here.

Fuck him, OP. If he moved, he travels.

My ex husband moved a 6 hour drive away, then expected me to meet halfway twice, every weekend.

I'm disabled and a busy teacher. He moved, his problem. Court told him the same.

He hasn't seen him since.

Where does the OP say he moved?

She hasn't steff but I think posters are taking her silence on the question to mean that she was the one that moved. Chances are they're right, other chances are that OP won't be returning to the thread.

Another one here prepared to be full of sympathy for op but it does sound like she's BU. I take it she's not coming back...

A friend of mine upped and moved 2.5 hours away with the kids, she expects her ex to go there and collect them on a Friday and bring them back on a Friday. Very unfair but her response to him is if you want to see the kids you'll have to do it. She has a brand new car and plenty of maintenance money but flatly refuses. The courts believed her lies that she doesn't have transport so backed her !!!

Have to say OP that's a bit cold. You're losing your friday and Sunday but he isn't? That's s bit harsh and selfish. You moved away, you have the kids mon- fri and yet he's being punitively punished by you cause the car's an inconvenience.

Let him have the kids mon- fri and see how you like being dictated to.

I do think if you are the main carer for the kids, that is your main duty, to care for the kids.

It’s exhausting and hard work - being a single parent.

Being the non resident carer, often a father, then the primary responsibility is to support your kids, by time with them but also even more importantly- financially and emotionally supporting the resident parent. I think part of that is recognizing that your contact time is your responsibility. It’s one of the things you can take off the big burden of the resident parent - who will have to do the bulk of bringing up the child.

As the main carer it is your responsibility to do that as best you can. If it means moving to facilitate that better, like many women moving to facilitate work or be nearer Family, then that is putting your kids first.

I get that some parents just move to suit themselves. Most don’t though.

I also think if you are able to give and meet half way on the Dads contact time - as the main parent without it totally exhausting you - then it’s good to do it.

I do think both parents should be respectful. So no last minute changes. Being clear. Giving notice.

I like the mantra "if you want them you go get them" therefore if he wants them he picks them up and if you wanr them back you go get them back

I would just go and get them.

It's disappointing there is still no sign of ok.

What's with the picture of the girl in the car seat, I keep seeing it

What does it mean someone please

She hasn't steff but I think posters are taking her silence on the question to mean that she was the one that moved.

I was replying to the person above me who said "Fuck him. If he moved he travels." There's no indication that he is the one who moved that I can see.

What's with the picture of the girl in the car seat, I keep seeing it.

It's a picture of a little girl that's been made into a really common meme. What it means is basically the face she's making; sort of disapproving/skeptical/disbelieving.

I'm currently considering moving further away from my ex, and if I do make that choice, I will have to accept that portion is my responsibility.